Paige1377 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 My ex husband and I have been split up well over a year and a half. We share a two year and finalized a custody agreement about six months ago. He kicked us out of the house to be with another woman, who I believe he is still with today. The first year of the split was the worst, but within the past three months I finally gave up, let go. It took me a while, but I got there... So, here's the jacked up part...I stopped thinking about my ex-husband, stopped pining, waiting all that crap and then all of the sudden spam the signs start. I start seeing his name everywhere, and then suddenly day to day stuff reminds me of him when I haven't associated anything with him in a long time. And the clencher of it all is my e-mail account has suddenly been getting like four to five e-mails a day with his name all over it...advertisements...things like that...and I am like...what...really....after this long... I talked to my ex and asked if he had signed me up for spam e-mails and he said no, although he is quite a liar at times. So, what does this mean? Why the sudden signs when I had just given up all hope of a reconcillation? I frankly don't get it, and it's annoying as all get out to see his name on a daily basis when I was at the point where I didn't care anymore. what do you guys think?
Yasuandio Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Same thing happened (during 4 year protracted separation and divorce proceedings), and keeps happening, even now 0 since we were technically divorced this past September. It has really messed with my mind. And, still does. It started, early on, in the separation. He clearly, was living in a separate home with a separate address. He clearly was using the business address for his mail.. When he decided to get new furnitures at Rooms to Go, the credit acceptance comes here to this house. The advertisements come here to this house. BUT, interestingly, the BILLS DO NOT COME TO THIS HOUSE. Also, he's an audiophile. Applications for credit at Best Buys, all the stuff coming here. OK, Fine. Maybe it's a mistake. He decides to get a policy with Humana Dental Coverage. All the stuff is coming to my house. But not the BILLS. So everytime he goes to the dentist, the claim documentation for coverage comes to my house, but not the BILL. This paperwork tells me he is going to a dentist I was seeing in my neighbood. Now, I live in the Atlanta area. Do you know how many dentist there are in the Atlanta suburbs to choose from? Why does he need to go to the one dentist that is in the very shopping center where the grocery store is that I have been shopping for my food in the last 7 years? I mean, he has to drive at lest 6 miles away from his business to get to this location. My personal email. I must have forwarded his business email BS shipping crap to him a dozen times. It is still coming to my email. He is so paranoid about computer geeks steeling his American Express number - that he changes it every time he has to have someone help him buy an airline ticket. Yes, he is so helpless he cannot charge a ticket on line by himself. Now, I have explained to him verbally, that his AmEs is still connected to my e-mail. I have written to AmEx that the email is incorrect. I have written to him that he need to call AmEx and straighten it out (he is good on phone calls). I have done this more thana dozen times too. I just had a servey today on his American Express card that is still linked to my email. Technically, i I wanted to get into him card - I could surely do it with my skills. Of course I wouldn't. The latest mind screws are sending Court ordered settlements late or not at all. This causes me a lot of stress. I have to pay mortgages and lines of credit on the underwater assets I now own that paid for the business that he now enjoys full ownership of. It drives me absolutely mad when the check is not arriving until the 11th or 12th of the month. The companies are calling me and driving me nuts. It's embarrassing, I like to pay things on time. Some payments ordered by the Court he has simply blown off. I just now wsaved up enough money to take him in front of the Judge for contempt. And I know the Judge will take care of this - however, it has given me a great deal of stress since September. This is only a couple of examples out of many. I know they mess with your head. I'm telling you, I have had a lot of therapy about this. I doesn't mean anything. And even if it did, it means he is trying to jack around your mind - and that is not a good thing. You must ignore, and go forward, period.
Author Paige1377 Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 I am sorry you had to go through that...when all you want to do is move past he ex the memories flood back when you don't want them to...it's crappy...I have kept moving forward...b/c honestly I can't stand him...he's despicable...and worthless...giving up his family for a woman...no one deserves to be with something like that...but thank you for your insite...and I hope things get better for you!
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