Gambler1984 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 So this guy was involved with a woman for two years. She decided to go to grad school to get her phd which is a great thing, but it was going to be out of state. 8 month prior to moving, she broke up with him twice, citing attachment reasons and that she was leaving, but always kept coming back to him. They finally dated and were very close the 2.5 months prior to her leaving and then she was gone. He was very lost and sad about her leaving because he considered her to be his best friend and lover, like its suppose to be. She would contact him or call him almost everyday they were together. It appears she liked him a lot I would think. After moving, they communicated everyday after she left, but after a month, she had a new bf already and told the guy back home about it. He became angry and cut her off. He was obviously hurt by that. He hid her FB profile and decided never to look at it again in fear of seeing pics of her and this other guy. During her first semester, she would periodically try and contact him, but he would either not reply at all or with little haste...showing very little interest in her at all after hearing she had a new guy so fast. It almost felt like she knew he was hurt and maybe she felt bad about all of it, but she was also 1000 miles away and didn't know anyone. A few months later, he received a picture of her cat texted to him, like a conversation starter. It also sounded like her and that new guy had broken up. It then appears they were dating again in January. About two months later, the guy had vanished from her profile pic rather suddenly and then she began to try and reach out to her ex bf back home much more than before. In the days after that pic of the her and the guy vanished, she called her ex, began to be much more active on his FB wall, always liking and commenting on his posts, especially stuff she had no interest in, said he was "looking great" in one of his new photos. The week after that, another picture of her cat was sent to him, but this time by email. A few random texts would follow in the next month and a half, texts that sounded like conversations starters, which he did not start a conversation with her, but would usually just answer the question and that's about it. She continued to do the FB stuff all spring ,summer and fall...leaving strange comments on some of his posts that seemed like she wanted to be noticed or seek his attention and would like many of his posts too. Keep in mind, he did NOTHING on her wall and NEVER even looked at it and he use to like/comment up until she had told him about the new guy last year. She was on multiple dating sites as well listed as "single" for about 6-7 months. Everyone encouraged the guy back home to reach out to her or at least talk. They did talk on FB in August, and she did all of the question asking and kept asking, "what else is new?". In late November 2012, the guy from school appeared in her profile pic again, using the January 2012 old pic. Her dating profiles also disappeared. It also appeared she went out of state to see this guy's family too or something like that, not sure if for a holiday or what. Her ex back home was crushed to see this guy at school back with her again. He wished he had reached out to her and not ignored her, giving the impression he wasn't interested anymore, not that it would have changed anything, but maybe at least helped get to the bottom of this mess. He wrote her a very powerful and touching letter and emailed it right before Christmas, citing he didn't want a direct response to it and didn't ask her any questions, but wanted her to know that he still loves her and hopes she returns and that they'll be together again. He knows it was a long shot, but it felt good to get it off his chest which he had held down for so long. Many women told him they believed she still liked the guy back home and was trying to reach out to him, but since she is insecure and is bad with communication, she did those things. Idk though, what do you think? He's worried the guy at school is her future husband. She has at least 2-3 years of school left as well. She's 27 and in a phd program. Guy back home is 28 and a college grad with a master's degree on the horizon and is an award-winning independent feature filmmaker/screenwriter and flys planes.
Ami1uwant Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 They need to talk... I don't understand if they waned to be together why didn't they decide together on where she ould go for her phd and he could work?
FitChick Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Maybe she wants to marry someone who will have a steady income so that would rule out a "filmmaker." Too many filmmakers are waiting tables. She also sounds like a woman who can't be without a man so settles for geographic convenience. Just as well she is gone.
Author Gambler1984 Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 What kind of comment is that? I hold dual degrees in both Meteorology/Atmospheric Science and Mathematics. My filmmaking/screenwriting is a hobby that I'm pretty good at if my last film I co-wrote and produce won at two film festivals. It has nothing to do with that. She was very into my filmmaking side. I would agree with your geography remark though.
Ami1uwant Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 What kind of comment is that? I hold dual degrees in both Meteorology/Atmospheric Science and Mathematics. My filmmaking/screenwriting is a hobby that I'm pretty good at if my last film I co-wrote and produce won at two film festivals. It has nothing to do with that. She was very into my filmmaking side. I would agree with your geography remark though. you said "so this guy" Why are you talking in the third person if this was you?
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