NickiMcHeart Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Recently my boyfriend, who I had been dating for 5 months, woke me up at his house after a fight with his mother and told me we were breaking up. I was shocked and confused and through muddled sobs was able to say "but I don't know what I did!" I'm sitting here, and am still unsure. He has several issues, mostly boiling down to an inability to control his anger. His words are often venomous, and the words he used on his own mother had me feeling like I should wash my own mouth out for even hearing them. He was recently involved in some troubles in which he was piled over and arrested for possesion. Now he must face the court and deal with his anger all at once, and without the help of his crutch. I understand depression and stress, but I would think he would want the ones who love him most around for support. We talked about how we were perfect for each other, and how we are going for the long haul. Now suddenly with his stress, it seems he said we are broken up and has been ignoring me. I am confused. It has only been a few days, but I do love the man and would like to see him happy, preferably with me of course.
JenniferleeUNLV Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Honey, he doesn't sound like a good man. I know that is something you probably don't want to hear. The way I look at it, when you date a man, look at how he treats his mother, that is how he is most likely going to treat you. If he doesn't respect her, I don't even want to think what words he will say if his S.O and himself got in a fight. As for the argument, you did absolutely nothing wrong! At all. He is under a lot of stress, and you need to give him space. Let him know all you want is for him to be happy, if that's with you, that's great, if it's not, then so be it. Life goes on. He probably blew up and everyone and is now burning the bridges he has made in his life. Give him time to think, and if he comes back to you, take him, if he doesn't he has made up his mind, and you have to do what is best for you. 1
stevie_23 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 You know what they say? How a man treats his mother is how he will treat you, and in fact probably all women. So…watch out for that if you do end up reconciling. He has anger issues? Ok. He should work on those. Hopefully he’s never expressed himself unacceptably towards you in that way. He may not have if it’s only been 5 months together. Watch out for that too if he comes back to you. His anger issues, and whatever is going on in his life, would not result in him no longer wanting to be with you in a relationship IF he really loved you and wanted to be with you. I’m not sure he’s capable right now if actually being in a proper loving relationship, to be honest. I wouldn’t be surprised though, if he does try to contact you and say he made a mistake or is sorry or something.
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