JenniferleeUNLV Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I'm new to this site, but I'm glad I found a site where people can actually understand what I have been going though! My boyfriend and I met in December of last year (2012) and everything was great, only a few short months later, he had to move to Tennessee for a job, that is 1700 miles away from Las Vegas where I live and he use to live. We have been in long distance for 9 months and we just broke up this morning. It's so difficult because we were still trying to get to know each other when he left. He gave me a promise ring the night before he left and he told me that no matter what happens, he will always be faithful to me, and he will always be waiting. He is not the kind to cheat, nor am I. I am attending college in las vegas, while he is working. We broke up today, because for the wast 2 weeks it has been nothing but screaming, yelling and arguing on skype, and it's about really small stuff, but it kept adding up and there was more negative than positive going on. I love him with all my heart, and every time were together, were the happiest couple I know, it's once were apart that is the hard part. He told me this morning that he would much rather me make a life for myself while I'm still in college and he wants me to focus on school right now. Oh! (Big age difference. I'm 19, he's 30) Any who, I could understand that, it is the most difficult thing because we dont even get to hold one another or even touch each other. He told me that as soon as I'm done with college, and figuring out who I am, he expects me at his door with a suitcase, and that is what I want to do. I want to be with him, but it is hard right now. My main question is: This guy is my best friend, we laugh and have fun, he is my protector, my confidant, and my other half, once were in a LDR again, it's so hard for us to be happy. He broke up with me, 6 hours ago, he told me to text him later, because he isnt cutting off ties with me and he still loves me. When should I text him? Later tonight? Tomorrow? I'm not sure. I want to think about why we broke up and how to try again, and I want to give him space, but I don't want him thinking I forgot about him. SOME OF THE THINGS WE ARGUE ABOUT: 1. He is very very VERY insecure and jealous, because his ex wife cheated on him a lot, so whenever I miss his call (walking to class, or I talking to my boss), he get's scared that I'm in some other guys dorm or something silly like that. I call him back and he tells me: You can try to prove to me all you want that you're being faithful, and you don't know how hard it is for me trust you, and I want to. Until I can physically feel you next to me, I'm always going to think you're doing something else. 2. I mentioned there is an age difference. 11 years. All I do is work and school (both full time) and come home to skype with him. I am growing up really fast and that is okay with me, but he thinks that I should enjoy my life while I'm young. I get that, but I've never had the urge. I've never gone to a party, or gone out with friends, I usually sit at home anyway (i'm socially awkward.) So, sometimes I think it bothers him that I'm younger, because I can't fulfill some of the expectations he has, because I'm still an teenager! I'm not an adult. I told him I dont know how to buy a new car from a lot and he looked at me like I was stupid. Ugh :(I think he forgets.. I can't transfer schools, because where he lives the age requirement for residency is 24 and I'm only 19 and I cant afford out of state college. ANY advice would be greatly appreciated!
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