Interactive First Dates

[rhymes]

I’ve been talking online with a girl the past few weeks, on to text and now we’re at first date stage. I work in sports, so a lot of evenings and weekend work for me and by the sounds of things, her job keeps her pretty busy during the night.

 

This coming Saturday afternoon worked for both of us. Typically don’t like the whole text back and forth, email for weeks, I’d rather just meet and if we click, we click, if not, no worries, so that’s why I opted for Saturday aft rather than waiting until next week.

 

That said, I’m much more partial to the typical coffee or drink first date, so you have a chance to actually talk and get to know the person.

 

Through text, we got into a little friendly competition and playful banter with her telling me she could kick my ass at anything, and me basically saying bring it on.

 

I worked last night and after hours she asked what our plans were for Saturday and said “I know we ended up on something we could bet on.”

 

Being put on the spot per say, and it being freezing and the middle of winter, I suggested we go bowling.

 

Like I said, I’m more partial to a coffee or a drink, but I also consider myself fun and spontaneous, so I’m down for whatever.

 

She said “That sounds like fun, lot’s of bending over, lol”.

 

I usually save the more interactive and fun dates for date two or three, as it gives you a chance to build some rapport and get to know the person before you get into the more flirty, physical dates.

 

I’ve never not got a second date, so I’m not worried about that, but I’m worried about being able to both get to know her well and ask some important questions as well as have fun and enjoy the afternoon. I guess I just feel it hard to get to know someone, while taking turns doing an activity?

 

In your experience, how have interactive first dates gone?

 

I guess I’ve gone to a fair/carnival before for a first date which was pretty fun, but keep in mind, this is mid-afternoon on a Saturday and not likely to be busy. Probably just her and I and a few other hard core bowlers bowling away the afternoon.

 

She’s super cute and bit geeky, so this seems right up her “alley”, plus it’s a bit different for a first date, at least for me. I'm sure it will go well, it's just tough because how touchy and feely do you get with someone you just met? I usually just give a few indicators on a drink date, the lean in, maybe touch her arm or leg, read the situation. But with bowling, there's a lot more opportunity for touching and flirting. I guess I'll see what the chemistry is like.

 

I’m all down for the fun, do something different dates, but I usually like that after we’ve got to know each other a bit.

 

Anyway thoughts on how successful your "interactive" first dates have been?

Edited January 24, 2013 by rhymes

[Casablanca]

I think it will go fine, done worry about it; You two can always get a drink or coffee afterwards and talk if you two want to spend more time.

[SER]

You'll be fine! My interactive first date was my suggestion - playing pool. It was also at a bowling alley. We ended up having a couple of drinks and played 3 games of pool because we enjoyed each other so much and because neither of us were very good at pool to begin with. He then suggested we bowl and we ended up playing 3 games of bowling... after that, we hung out there and talked for a long time. The date ended up lasting around 8 hours and it was terrific.

 

It may or may not go as well as mine did, but playing games together is a good way to get to know someone (are they helpful... offer tips... make fun of you in a playful way, etc.). I think you'll both have a nice time and you can always extend the date if needed with dinner or ice cream if y'all are really enjoying each other.

[sid3]

Why are you worried about being able to ask important questions on a first date. Dam dude, relax a little, and live a little.

[StanMusial]

No, don't do that. For all you know she is a very good bowler. If she defeats you she will not respect you as a man and will never give you sex.

 

Ask her to meet you for coffee/drinks FIRST and if it goes well THEN go to the bowling alley.

[FitChick]

If you have fun bowling, grab a bite to eat later where you can talk. There are no hard and fast rules.