Most overrated social and physical benefit that men/women envy about opposite sex?

[jakelongot]

As men, we value certain physical/social benefits women receive and vice versa. However, some of those benefits are overrated and if you spent "a day in the life" you understand how overrated they are.

 

 

I'll start:

 

Social: Ability to have a lot of sex without a negative social stigma (like whore). There are two huge downsides to this. (1) Women are often repulsed by men with a large number. Yeah maybe some short term respect from your peers, but if you are being honest with a girl you want to start a real relationship with, it can be a big negative against you (2) There is a lot more pressure from your peers to have sex. It can be agonizing sometimes going to social events with the expectation that you need to be scoring with some chick. So stressful...often times you can't enjoy something for what it is because you are so focused on landing a lady.

 

Physical: Strength. Women might envy the physical strength of a guy, but there are also expectations to be athletic and muscular. This requires a lot of work and effort in the gym. And if you don't have that body type you are either scrawney or fat. Now this isn't to say women don't have a similar expectation, but a girl can still be considered hot by simply dieting, having a good metabolism and not being fat. Guys don't have that luxury.

[Treasa]

I'm sorry, but this is going to be a terribly unhelpful reply.

 

I've never been pressured into having sex. I don't even see how that's possible. No one owns me.

 

I have sex with people I want to have sex with. I use protection, and it's really no one's business what my sexual past is unless it may affect them sexually, unless I really feel like telling them.

 

I work out. I like to be fit. I like to be strong. I like to be healthy. For me it's more about those things than looking good.

 

I guess I don't subscribe much to caring what others think anymore. In my 20s? Sure. Now I do what I want, and people either like me or they don't, and if they don't, no butthurtedness on my part. If they get verbal about it,I tell them to go pound sand.

[SmileFace]

face/desk..

[jakelongot]

well this isn't off to a good start.

 

Too bad, because this has potential to be fun/interesting.

[Treasa]

I'm still hoping it gets fun and interesting. But I wanted to get my input in there so I could say, "First!!"

[xxoo]

The abilities to pee standing up

[SmileFace]

The abilities to pee standing up

Didn't you read.

 

Some of them pee seating down. Such a waste.

I will be pee standing like a champ.

Everywhere.

I will even have an art to it.

I bet I can pee my name in the snow in a perfect font.

Girl problems.

[Treasa]

I can pee standing up. However, I'm not good at the name in the snow thing. No aim mechanism.

[sid3]

well this isn't off to a good start.

 

Too bad, because this has potential to be fun/interesting.

let me guess, being able to take it up the ass without having the feeling of being gay.

 

Interesting. Not so much fun.

[xxoo]

I can pee standing up, but I can't manage to hit the toilet, or keep my feet dry

[FitChick]

Upper body strength.

 

The ability to pee standing up.

[Treasa]

I can pee standing up, but I can't manage to hit the toilet, or keep my feet dry

 

And isn't it terrible during races when you DO NOT want to use the portapotty but you really gotta go?

[scratch]

As men, we value certain physical/social benefits women receive and vice versa. However, some of those benefits are overrated and if you spent "a day in the life" you understand how overrated they are.

 

Here's one that may be shocking to some of the male posters.

 

Overrated social benefit of being a woman: getting attention. As a "day in the life" experiment, for about 3 days I decided to stop initiating contact with women on my OLD profile and just reply to everyone that wrote me. I noticed a few things, beyond the irrelevant and obvious detail that I'm less attracted to the people that select me as compared to those I actively select.

 

First, most people that initiate are lazy, horrible conversationalists, and then they get frustrated if you just give back the level of effort that they supply without more. For example:

 

Her: How r u?

Me: Fine, thanks, you?

Her: Fine. Don't you have anything else to say?

 

Second, they sometimes get very aggressive and demanding if your messages aren't to their liking. Example:

 

Her: I miss that sarcastic humor of yours so please don't be too serious in your messages.

Next from her: Wow your message seemed a touch rude. Ciao.

 

It's highly unlikely that men who initiate are any smarter or less aggressive. If anything, the opposite may be true, I would think.

 

Also, out of about 25 conversations, exactly one vaguely asked me out for "drinks sometime." Why are you writing me if you don't want to meet? I much prefer to be the one in control of the interaction, for both of our sakes.

Edited January 24, 2013 by scratch

[jakelongot]

ok...not the best start here folks. I was hoping for males to chime in and say:

 

women think it's so great that we can do "x" but in reality its not so great because of blah blah blah

 

and vice versa from the women perspective.

 

We can do this!

[Treasa]

Ok, perhaps generalizing, but SOME men think it's so great that they can separate sex from emotion, but I can have multiple orgasms and continue to have them.

[SmileFace]

I don't think it is right that guys don't have their period. I mean they have a hole ... blood should come out of it as well.

[RogerWallace111]

Hmmm... OK, it's probably not exactly what youre looking for, but I've found that often times:

 

Women tend to think men are fully satisfied as long as they have a place to put their cock, and are just easy-cum easy-go in terms of relations with the them. In reality, personally, I'm a sentimental type of person who loves being around people whose company I enjoy- I'd be much more happy to have met and got the number of a worthwhile, cool girl the night before than have f*cked one who strikes me as dull, stupid, or anything along those lines.

 

Physically, along the lines of what you initially said, I think females have this idea that they have way more pressure to be physically attractive. And yes, society has led them to believe that, it's sh*tty. Buuut, cutting out media-influence and bullsh*t like that (I rarely f*ck with television & magazines anyway), on a personal level, some men feel just as much pressure to look "good". I don't mean this like it's some sad issue that causes me inner turmoil, but if I don't exercise for a while, cut loose, and start to get a gut or look less toned, it bums me out. Not strictly from an aesthetic standpoint, but that has a lot to do with it. It's like I feel sad to be spending my one life on earth without my body in a condition I like to look at. And I'm not a bodybuilder, I just do lots of cardio and basic pushups, crunches, pullups, etc.

 

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[jakelongot]

Hmmm... OK, it's probably not exactly what youre looking for, but I've found that often times:

 

Women tend to think men are fully satisfied as long as they have a place to put their cock, and are just easy-cum easy-go in terms of relations with the them. In reality, personally, I'm a sentimental type of person who loves being around people whose company I enjoy- I'd be much more happy to have met and got the number of a worthwhile, cool girl the night before than have f*cked one who strikes me as dull, stupid, or anything along those lines.

 

Perfect!

 

 

Physically, along the lines of what you initially said, I think females have this idea that they have way more pressure to be physically attractive. And yes, society has led them to believe that, it's sh*tty. Buuut, cutting out media-influence and bullsh*t like that (I rarely f*ck with television & magazines anyway), on a personal level, some men feel just as much pressure to look "good". I don't mean this like it's some sad issue that causes me inner turmoil, but if I don't exercise for a while, cut loose, and start to get a gut or look less toned, it bums me out. Not strictly from an aesthetic standpoint, but that has a lot to do with it. It's like I feel sad to be spending my one life on earth without my body in a condition I like to look at. And I'm not a bodybuilder, I just do lots of cardio and basic pushups, crunches, pullups, etc.

 

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A little off, but close.

 

Here is an example from a girl on the original thread where this started:

 

I'll try to answer from a female perspective.

 

Social: Not having to initiate. This is a huge double edged sword. Not initiating is good for people who are naturally passive. Women who are inherently proactive would much rather take their dating life in their hands and initiate, but most fear that a guy will just go out with them because they're the only woman who has ever absolved them of the responsibility of asking them out, as opposed to because they genuinely like them.

 

Physical: Having boobs and a vagina. After 20, 30, 40, 50 years of that, the novelty kinda wears off and you wonder how it feels like to have a penis instead.

[sid3]

I don't think it is right that guys don't have their period.

 

I get my period all the time.

[SmileFace]

I get my period all the time.

Something is wrong with the men on this board.

Periods.

Peeing seating down.

[sid3]

Something is wrong with the men on this board.

Periods.

Peeing seating down.

 

Yeah right, who doesn't feel bloated from time to time. As for peeing sitting down, screw that.

[SmileFace]

Yeah right, who doesn't feel bloated from time to time. As for peeing sitting down, screw that.

Bloated!

Bloated!!!

Is that all you think this is!!

Men #$%$#^$^##$ #$%$$# $%#%!!!!

 

haha...bloating is the last of my issues.

Hmmph.

[sid3]

Bloated!

Bloated!!!

Is that all you think this is!!

Men #$%$#^$^##$ #$%$$# $%#%!!!!

 

haha...bloating is the last of my issues.

Hmmph.

 

Well sometimes my boobs hurt and I get a little emotional:o

[KungFuJoe]

Having a penis.

 

Women think it would be great to have a penis...but my god if they knew how often I trip over my own..............

 

 

 

I'll be here til Thursday...make sure to tip your waitress!

[Treasa]

Having a penis.

 

Women think it would be great to have a penis...but my god if they knew how often I trip over my own..............

 

 

 

I'll be here til Thursday...make sure to tip your waitress!

 

I can't wait to hear you on the 11.