six18 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 (edited) This is really just a vent. Last night I was on fb and while I am no longer friends with my ex. One of his new girls posted an album of all these things they had done over the last 6 months of course she made it public and joint friends clicked like and bravo I could see it. I guess it should not have but this really pissed me off because after 2 years of dating he could never go and do fun things with me. It was always working out at the gym, cooking, cleaning, dinner and TV. I got bored and asked to do more things he would not. So one day I found him in bed with another woman and we got in an argument and left. We were trying to remain friends so he would text me like once a week, said he wanted to still hang out and get together on occasion. He sent me a lovely xmas gift. But once again it was me coming to hang out at his place or the gym and never getting him to make an effort beyond that. I rejected this because I felt it would create us again doing the same crap again. He got angry at me saying your new friend or whoever you hang out with don't deserve that attention as much as I do. On top of that I started seeing someone else that I was excited about and didn't want to mess things up. Now 6 mths after the break up...When I saw this photo album. I sent a drunk message saying you did me wrong. I will always wonder why you could never had done these things with me. But who cares now. Enjoy. She seems nice. Treat her well. He blew up at me and said I don't take concern as to what you do so you have no concern what I do. He said the grass is always greener some women I was dating at the same time as you didn't get as much as you did. I said ok, sorry about the email and let it be bc he was right I have no reason to question now since its in the past. But while I guess I was not the one for him. At that moment it bugged me that he couldn't do those things with me. No matter the drunk message actually gave me closure and helped me move on. I don't know exactly why but it felt good. Why did it give me closure and why do I feel so good afterwards? I constantly wonder why people treat other differently? All the guys I date I do similar things for unless I know they don't like certain things. I also feel bad that I got a little bit of satisfaction that he got angry from my email and I don't know why. Edited January 24, 2013 by six18
Survivor12 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 The reason is pretty simple...you succeeded in getting his attention. Do yourself a favor and BLOCK HIM. That way, you won't see his pics, comments or statuses. Look, I know it's hard to hear and I'm sorry you're hurting, but he told you in no uncertain terms that he wants nothing to do with you. Believe him. The sooner you do, the sooner you will begin to heal. Trying to keep him in your life will only cause you more pain. 2
will1988 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 You don't know why he got angry at your email? really? If one of my exes emailed me out of the blue to complain about my current relationship I'd be kind of mad too. Then again I'd probably just ignore the email and block them. Now that is out of the way. You have a right to feel happy about going off on him. He cheated on you, and had other girls on the side. You got your anger out on him. You got the last pound of flesh so to speak. Yet, from now on I'd suggest ignoring him and trying to better your own life. BTW how did the new BF react when you decided to temporarly go back to this first guy? 2
Author six18 Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 I do actually do pretty well with my own life. And was doing great the ex and I were conversing fine on occasion. But I guess it just bugged me that all the things I asked for she is getting. It kills my ego a little bit. My current BF wasn't with me when I did it. Or else I would have never sent it. I was with my gfs. But he understood why I did it and urged me not to respond to the ex attempts to contact me after my note. Since we are still new he gave me a pass when I did respond and now he knows all is done and the ex is gone. My guy now has been there before and still cares about his ex so we are both in similar situations. But the Ex is now he is blocked on facebook, email, text and phone. I was always so kind with my words I guess I wanted to tell him how I felt without hesitations and so I did. This is my first time doing this so I learned my lesson and its better with someone I could careless if I see again. My family and friends never liked him and urged me to stop seeing him. I guess I thought he would come around and be this new person that he is now with her.
Author six18 Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 The reason is pretty simple...you succeeded in getting his attention. Do yourself a favor and BLOCK HIM. That way, you won't see his pics, comments or statuses. Look, I know it's hard to hear and I'm sorry you're hurting, but he told you in no uncertain terms that he wants nothing to do with you. Believe him. The sooner you do, the sooner you will begin to heal. Trying to keep him in your life will only cause you more pain. Makes sense... he contacts me most of the time to tell me about his life. I stopped contacting him after we broke up be he consistently wants to try and be friends. maybe not now after I wrote that message lol. But yes I need to keep him out of my life he only causes me pain. I have never cried so much and felt so much like S**t as I did when I was with him.
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