Asking your significant other what they are doing everyday/every hour too annoying?

[Armymanis]

Hey Guys,

 

Is asking your significant other what they are doing everyday/every hour and who they are with annoying? The girl that i am interested in says that it is really annoying and that it is not advancing our relationship and she feels like I cannot trust her and she would like me to let her tell me what shes doing if she feels like it instead of me asking. I didn't know that what i was doing was annoying. She hangs out with me pretty much 24/7 and i just ask her what shes doing on days that shes not hanging out with me. Am i in the wrong? She says if i stop asking her questions like that then we can move out relationship forward, but right now she feels im still to clingy and im trying really hard not to be. I just like to know where shes at and who shes with.

 

She says she has nothing to hide but would like me to trust her in who shes with and what shes doing and that she wont make any dumb decisions. I like to worry a lot about the what if possibilities instead of what may actually be going on. She says that she is not going to do anything dumb that would jeopardize our relationship.

[Armymanis]

Thanks for your reply. I am new to this whole relationship stuff and if i make some serious changes this will be my first relationship ever.

[Treasa]

1. If you don't have any reason to not trust her, don't ask her what she's doing.

2. You should be too busy doing your own things to even think about what she's doing. I'm seeing a guy I like, and I couldn't even tell you what he did Saturday because I was out the entire day with plans.

[Armymanis]

Thanks for all the advice. I really want to change and am going to make the effort to change and am going to trust her. This is going to be my first relationship ever and im 23. I just want to make sure I am doing everything right and I don't become a controlling person. If all things go to crap anyways then all i can say is i tried my best.

[Armymanis]

Is there a magic pill so you can stop thinking about her everyday? I don't mean to think about her everyday as i am doing stuff but it just sort of happens. i dont want to sound like im obsessed because im really not.

[sid3]

Is there a magic pill so you can stop thinking about her everyday? I don't mean to think about her everyday as i am doing stuff but it just sort of happens. i dont want to sound like im obsessed because im really not.

 

Magic pills can be found right next to the happy pills.

 

While you're at it, pick up a chill pill.

[veggirl]

Not so much annoying as TOTALLY PSYCHO...

 

good god. do you set an alarm so you don't forget your hourly text.

 

If she already spends nearly everyday with you then let her ENJOY her time apart from you. You can say "how was your day" but "what are you doing" sounds intrusive and obnoxious.

[Armymanis]

Thanks guys. If I try hard and all this ends up being for nothing in the end and i never get to be her official boyfriend like she said if i make these changes then at least i have experience.

[Armymanis]

Not so much annoying as TOTALLY PSYCHO...

 

good god. do you set an alarm so you don't forget your hourly text.

 

If she already spends nearly everyday with you then let her ENJOY her time apart from you. You can say "how was your day" but "what are you doing" sounds intrusive and obnoxious.

 

Not trying to be a total Psycho. I just text her when she texts me now and hardly text her first. I still find she texts me a lot first, but I am trying to be more relaxed for her and that's why I want some advice. I don't want to be one of those controlling psycho guys. I am really working hard on this.

[sid3]

Not trying to be a total Psycho. I just text her when she texts me now and hardly text her first. I still find she texts me a lot first, but I am trying to be more relaxed for her and that's why I want some advice. I don't want to be one of those controlling psycho guys. I am really working hard on this.

 

Just relax. It never hurts to think for a moment before you do something, just like over thinking can be a bad thing.

[D-Lish]

It's totally normal to think a lot about the person you are head over heels for.

 

This is an easy fix. If she's asked that you don't ask her what she is up to all the time when you are apart, just stop asking. Keep your texts light- tell her to enjoy her day and then let her text you later on in the day.

 

If she can't be trusted, you'll figure that out. Asking her what she's doing all the time won't make one bit of difference if she is an untrustworthy person. I'd trust in her unless she gives you reason not to.

 

If she wants you to lay off a bit- just listen to what she's asking and accommodate the request. It really is an easy fix.

[Casablanca]

It's totally normal to think a lot about the person you are head over heels for.

 

I agree with this, but don't annoy them with a text every hour! I'd get annoyed if I was dating someone and they did that. I dont mind a random text, like what are you doing today and things like that, but every our...lord have mercy!