Author Treasa Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 I hope you don't date this guy just to proof yours! Nope! I'm dating him because *I* think he's hot, funny, cute, smart...wait, didn't I already put all of this in my very first post? Oh yeah, I DID.
somedude81 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 So what you're trying to say is.... You're an awesome girl? That wasn't my message, but yeah, I am. The world needs more awesome girls. Dating would be so much easier. 2
Author Treasa Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 The world needs more awesome girls. Dating would be so much easier. It also needs more dudes who know their self-worth. *hinthint* 3
rocketman122 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Nope! I'm dating him because *I* think he's hot, funny, cute, smart...wait, didn't I already put all of this in my very first post? Oh yeah, I DID. too many jealous people here. I think some people fantasize about the women here and that in their minds somehow you how belong to them. you deserve a good guy. good for you. Im happy when I see a woman gets all psyched when she finds a good guy. 3
carhill Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Thanks. That explains the time factor and how attraction could change, given that you were in an intimate relationship with someone else, so focused on them. As a further clarification, did he mention "I'm not like most girls, and that I'm not shallow or selfish like most of the girls he's dated." back when you were casual friends or more recently, after you started flirting? IMO, relevant to other postings regarding him perhaps not being 'ideal', a person can assess, for discussion purposes, their impression of a dating partner and that impression can have varying degrees of relevance to how the person *feels* about that dating partner. Each person is different in that regard, which your posting underscores. That's your style. I hope getting to know him goes well.
Author Treasa Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 too many jealous people here. I think some people fantasize about the women here and that in their minds somehow you how belong to them. you deserve a good guy. good for you. Im happy when I see a woman gets all psyched when she finds a good guy. Thank you!! 1
Author Treasa Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Thanks. That explains the time factor and how attraction could change, given that you were in an intimate relationship with someone else, so focused on them. As a further clarification, did he mention "I'm not like most girls, and that I'm not shallow or selfish like most of the girls he's dated." back when you were casual friends or more recently, after you started flirting? IMO, relevant to other postings regarding him perhaps not being 'ideal', a person can assess, for discussion purposes, their impression of a dating partner and that impression can have varying degrees of relevance to how the person *feels* about that dating partner. Each person is different in that regard, which your posting underscores. That's your style. I hope getting to know him goes well. No, we never really talked about those kinds of things before the flirting started. We mostly discussed sports, video games, and world news. Like I said, he's younger than me (in his 20s), and he's dated girls, and he's had girlfriends. Not the same people. The girls he's dated are the ones he's said can be shallow and whatnot. None of his actual relationships ended horribly. He's just a very nice, laid-back guy. Except when it comes to sports.
sid3 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Your message could also be construed as going after older women is a viable option for thr lonely LS guys. Who knew you were a Cougar! Good for you, hopefully he'll rock your world.
Author Treasa Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Your message could also be construed as going after older women is a viable option for thr lonely LS guys. Who knew you were a Cougar! Good for you, hopefully he'll rock your world. Well yeah, it is a viable option. Keyword: option. I actually have some reservations about him being younger, but we'll see how it goes. I'm not pinning my hopes and dreams on this guy. I'll be fine even if it doesn't work out.
somedude81 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Your message could also be construed as going after older women is a viable option for thr lonely LS guys. Who knew you were a Cougar! Good for you, hopefully he'll rock your world. Though the thing is, she's the one who started the flirting. So I guess the message is, if a girl flirts with you, she might like you, so flirt back Actually this thread will be great for women who are worried about making the first move. If a girl does make the first move, she has a really high chance of success, so, Just do it™. 1
ascendotum Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Because there are tons of threads here from guys saying that you have to be "hot" (please notice the quotes and recognize them for what they are) and/or an alpha to get an awesome woman. I'm trying to disprove that theory. That's the way I read it. Though it was kind of funny he did say this 'I'm not shallow or selfish like most of the girls he's dated' in your favour. You didn't have to date too many losers & creeps to get to him it seems. You have a breezy, fun, low drama attitude, so hopefully you get to enjoy lots of good times from this new guy. Good on you. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I wasn't even trying to fall for this guy. It just happened. We've been friends for 10 months or so, but fairly casual friends. I started flirting with him, he started flirting with me, and things are going very well so far. Most people wouldn't consider him an alpha, nor would they consider him to be "hot", but he's hot to me. He's really smart and funny and sweet and can give me **** AND take it back from me. He's a little insecure about his weight, but I just want to pounce him whenever I see him. He's several years younger than me. He told me I'm not like most girls, and that I'm not shallow or selfish like most of the girls he's dated. So, if you're not having luck with girls, chances are it's NOT YOUR LOOKS. It's not about your money. It's about your personality, and your choice in girls. Find an awesome girl, and your looks (to most people) won't even matter. You mean you didn't friendzone him and send him in bitter despair because a total lack of attraction which you knew about 10 months ago during the first 5 minutes of meeting him? Wuuuuut? Admit it Tre, you're a man who got lost the bat and balls, right?
Author Treasa Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 You mean you didn't friendzone him and send him in bitter despair because a total lack of attraction which you knew about 10 months ago during the first 5 minutes of meeting him? Wuuuuut? Admit it Tre, you're a man who got lost the bat and balls, right? I WILL find and spank you. 1
zebracolors Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Whee! Im so glad for you Treasa! I like most about how you've got a positive attitude no matter what happens down the road. And IMO this is proof that age sometimes doesn't matter, if he stimulates and challenges your mind, thats wonderful. (Thats something I hope to find in a man:love: ) 1
Author Treasa Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 Whee! Im so glad for you Treasa! I like most about how you've got a positive attitude no matter what happens down the road. And IMO this is proof that age sometimes doesn't matter, if he stimulates and challenges your mind, thats wonderful. (Thats something I hope to find in a man:love: ) If not, look me up. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 I WILL find and spank you. Oooh. I would like that! On the real though, I'm happy for you and you look about 10 years younger than your stated age. As has been proved on this forum, I'm not one to shy away from my REAL opinions, so take it as a compliment. 1
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