shadow15 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I'm over the ex, but I think I just realized that being with her changed me, and I will admit for the better or worse I don't know. Before her, I was the dude always talking to a bunch of girls, hooking up with some on occasion with no strings attached and just being me. Then she came along, I always continued to still be me, but I never talked to other girls while dating her. I grew up a whole lot with her, she also helped me become more religious. Me and her didn't have sex, but when we did get intimate it was like nothing I have ever experienced before. I mean I have had sex before, and it didn't compare to the little stuff me and her did. To me it was love, and now that I'm single I'm wanting to get back to the old me attitude with just no care, I mean I'm only 21 and I have realized I do not want a long term relationship right now, but the problem is I don't know if I can do casual sex now. Maybe it's still to early to tell and that's my next step to becoming more independent, or maybe I need to change back to the old guy. I don't know, I guess I just want some other guys opinion on this. Has anyone been through this type of stuff before and if so what did you do? I'm just looking for some advice.
veggirl Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 How long ago did you guys break up? I guess I'm not sure why you seem so hellbent on getting back to the "old you" ? Maybe you have just matured past hooking up and random sex...that's not a bad thing! Not particularly usual for a 21 yr old but still possible. Or you aren't as over your ex as you thought. Why do you want to push yourself into casual sex and being the "old you"? Why not accept that you have grown and changed...you can date and enjoy yourself but if you don't want to hook up with random girls then don't...isn't it as easy as that?
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