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I'm feeling more confident, but the loneliness is still there.

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awesomesauce Member

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By loneliness I don't mean missing the ex, like I mainly just miss having somebody to text all the time and somebody that wanted to talk to me. For a while there I had a couple of lady friends I would text, they were interested, but I just wasn't feeling it with them and eventually just stop talking. I guess I just miss that void, and right now I don't exactly know how to fix it. There's nobody here that interests me in the slightest, and so far the best way I get through everything is working on me; school, working out, work, and family.

 

I even realized I don't like texting that much, but like i said I guess it's just that idea of somebody wanting to talk to me beside the family. Maybe that will change in the future, but I remember reading a quote here that really stuck with me. "I am lonely, but I am not alone." I think everyone can relate to that somehow. Sorry for the rant, guess I just wanted some form of contact with somebody. Goodnight fellow night owls.

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itsmyfault Established Member

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I feel for you! Same for me. It's depressing.

Debbie2508 Established Member

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I know just how you feel about the texting. My ex and I used to text back and forth all day, my phone is eerily quiet now! It's 3 weeks since he left and I'm finding the loneliness hard too, but I keep reminding myself that I often felt lonely when we together. I would be lying next to him in bed, yet feel as though he was a million miles away. I guess it's possible to be alone but not lonely, just as it is to be lonely, but not alone.

Yesterday and today have been positive thinking days.... things will get better, for you, me and everyone here

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Yep. Know the feel. Pretty awful going from practically not being able to look at your phone without seeing a text from her to just not ever seeing one. Got really used to it since it was that way for so long.

 

Me and her used to be co-workers too, so we'd I'M each other all day everyday through the work I'M program. Now without her there, that feeling of not having anyone to I'M the day away with.....pretty terrible.

Coping Vortex Established Member

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I know just how you feel about the texting. My ex and I used to text back and forth all day, my phone is eerily quiet now! It's 3 weeks since he left and I'm finding the loneliness hard too, but I keep reminding myself that I often felt lonely when we together. I would be lying next to him in bed, yet feel as though he was a million miles away. I guess it's possible to be alone but not lonely, just as it is to be lonely, but not alone.

Yesterday and today have been positive thinking days.... things will get better, for you, me and everyone here

 

Funny that was one of the worst things about the BU for me. We used to text constantly all day. Hundreds of texts a day. Now I can't even look at my phone its too depressing.

 

P.S. Debbie I added you to my favs since we are in the same age group LOL!

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iouaname Established Member

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Yes, it's incredibly hard to go from talking all the time to not at all :(

Coping Vortex Established Member

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Yes, it's incredibly hard to go from talking all the time to not at all :(

 

Yea that was one of hardest things for me to realize. I'm sure my ex is texting her new BF all the time though.

 

I miss our conversations. We had some hot sexting too!!!

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LostGirl11 Established Member

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I just want the day to come when I check my phone and not feel as though someone has punched me in the stomach when I see he hasn't text me.

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Coping Vortex Established Member

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I just want the day to come when I check my phone and not feel as though someone has punched me in the stomach when I see he hasn't text me.

 

I pray for that day too. My phone is useless to me now. My heart sinks every time I hear a text comes in.

 

 

Funny thing we have had off and on LC and NC for the past 9 weeks. Out of all of that time she only contacted me after a period of NC once. I broke NC every other time.

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I pray for that day too. My phone is useless to me now. My heart sinks every time I hear a text comes in.

 

 

Funny thing we have had off and on LC and NC for the past 9 weeks. Out of all of that time she only contacted me after a period of NC once. I broke NC every other time.

 

i only use phone because of him. exchanging messages and emails consistently. gets mad if he didn't get text more than 10 messages a day from me he panics and asked me if i were okay. i miss that. now i dont know if he still texting me i blocked him 2 days after the break up. cause he keeps telling me he misses me after he dumped me. i miss him though.

Simon Phoenix Established Member

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Actually don't miss that at all. I don't like texting or talking on the phone. I like to do my communicating in person. Besides my parents, I don't talk to anyone on the phone for more than two minutes. Besides my siblings, I don't text anyone (even my best friends) except to make specific plans to hang out. My ex and I had that type of text relationship, though occasionally we'd text other things. I don't miss texting with her at all. I miss hanging out with her -- one of the few women I could spend an entire day/weekend with and not get bored at all.

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By loneliness I don't mean missing the ex, like I mainly just miss having somebody to text all the time and somebody that wanted to talk to me. For a while there I had a couple of lady friends I would text, they were interested, but I just wasn't feeling it with them and eventually just stop talking. I guess I just miss that void, and right now I don't exactly know how to fix it. There's nobody here that interests me in the slightest, and so far the best way I get through everything is working on me; school, working out, work, and family.

 

I even realized I don't like texting that much, but like i said I guess it's just that idea of somebody wanting to talk to me beside the family. Maybe that will change in the future, but I remember reading a quote here that really stuck with me. "I am lonely, but I am not alone." I think everyone can relate to that somehow. Sorry for the rant, guess I just wanted some form of contact with somebody. Goodnight fellow night owls.

 

You just wrote down exactly what I've been thinking.

 

Been doing gym every other day, going to school & work, and also talking/seeing family a lot more but it doesn't cut it.

 

When you look at your phone and don't see a missed call/text it makes you think about them and why they aren't trying to win you back...

 

Life is a bitch but I think if we keep improving our mind, body, and soul we will eventually upgrade from the ex-girlfriends and be happier than we've ever been. Just takes time which seems to have slowed down since the break-up.

mano Established Member

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yeah, me and my ex used to text all day long, and now it kills to see my phone and not finding any texts from him. its really a heart wrenching feeling whenever my phone beeps and i wish it would be him but its just some1 else :(

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Necole New Member

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Texting all day was our thing. My ex left me 5 months ago when he realized he couldn't move to my state. Long distance relationships don't work, and if they do they are between 2 extremely strong people! Anywho after we broke up we went from talking everyday for over 2 years to nothing. It was like a hole in my heart. I was no longer a part of someone, I was all by myself. Depressing!!

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mutant Established Member

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Yea that was one of hardest things for me to realize. I'm sure my ex is texting her new BF all the time though.

 

I miss our conversations. We had some hot sexting too!!!

 

christ on a bike! I miss the sexting too!

Necole New Member

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christ on a bike! I miss the sexting too!

 

Amen to that!!! Lol

Coping Vortex Established Member

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Amen to that!!! Lol

 

We had many many texts about sex over the years that never got old. We dissected sex to the nth degree and it was always fun. She sent me some crazy pics of her doing all kinds of really filthy things. When we first started texting each other she was too shy to send a naked pic of herself but she got over that quick!

 

We texted each other hundreds of times a day. It was so much fun and so hot!!! To think she is probably doing all of that with her new guy makes me sick to my stomach. I feel like I paved the way for this guy to have a hot GF.

 

No good deeds go unpunished.

cavalier99 Established Member

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christ on a bike! I miss the sexting too!

 

Duuude. WTF. Your banging multiples girl including you neighbor and you miss the sexting? Lol :o:laugh:

mutant Established Member

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Duuude. WTF. Your banging multiples girl including you neighbor and you miss the sexting? Lol :o:laugh:

 

I only sext one girl and it's very shallow as compared to what i had with the ex and that was before I developed ED :( the neighbor doesn't sext but wow she can talk dirrrty!

Simon Phoenix Established Member

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Meh to sexting. Basically a slow version of phone/cyber sex.

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