swissdingo Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Never thought I would come to a site like this. anyway here's my story. Basically been dating this girl for 2 years. She like me for a year, and she was in my 'friend' zone... it's only when she stopped liking me and starting dating other people that I developed feelings, then when her new relationship ended I came in the scene told her I like her and the rest is history. I was a douche and lucky to get her haha. Anyway, from there the story progressed like a fairy tale. We both really enjoyed each others company, loved eachothers family's, went on trips together to america and thailand. Everyone thought we were the perfect couple, including us. We were perfect, life was good. And here comes the bad part... round 4 months ago I started to take my career really serously. I knew If we were to survive as a couple, I needed to get a job in the city where we live. And so I became rediculously future orientated, which is a good thing in a way, and yeah ended up scoring a summer vacation job with BHP. It was during these last few months, before I got the job, that I took her for granted, and well she got a bit bored. Guess our relationship went stale. I was just making sure we would survive in the future... but unfortunately forgot about the present. She started hanging out with her friends way more, I started becoming clingy. And then... we just kept on fighting and fighting. Eventually she called and said her heart wasn't in the relationship anymore. I didn't care about her friends enough (which is true haha), I was too worried about the future, and things just changed. I was devastated. I thought she was the girl who would always love me no matter what, boy was I wrong. Anyway, immediately I wanted her back. I kind of played the whole dumpee role okay, i agreed with the breakup... but then a week later i said i think we can salvage the relationship, and she said she needed her space. Then another week later i sent her a long message about how im sorry for being a retard. She was really cool about it, and said you a lovely man, you'll always be in my heart, but im sorry life got in the way. So now... I'm going No contact. honestly she's ****en cold. who does that. So yeah, my plan is to move on, and if she contacts me then i might reconsider and try get back together. So far it's been 2 weeks of no contact... i plan to go for month and a half then add her on Facebook. I don't know if i want her back... depends if she was the girl i thought she was. Advice on my situation pleeeease
denxnis Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Ditto, except me and my girl were together for 6 years. Got a badass job working 40-50 hours a week making loads of cash and guess who got neglected? She left me for her coworker. My bet is your ex found another guy who gives her attention or wants to go party it up with her friends. Work your ass off at work and the gym and find someone who is willing to stick around through the tough times. Girls like these don't deserve a hard working man; let them learn the hard way until they end up settling for some loser without a life who can give them attention because they are unemployed or work a dead-end job. 1
awesomesauce Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Go nc and continue to focus on your self and the future cause that's really what matters most. I feel your pain, I was there a couple months ago, I practically got told the same business. Don't add her on facebook, you don't want to be her friend, like being friends on Facebook means anything. You dont want to see her posts, pictures, and possibly in a relationship soon after. Heart of the matter is she left when you needed her most, a friend doesn't do that, that's a selfish person who in reality didn't really love you. It took me about 4 months and I finally realized this, words don't mean anything, actions show a person true thoughts. Hang in there man, and don't reply to any breadcrum texts she may send you, it will only mess with your head. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I think anyone who says you should like her friends more and that's the reason why you split is not being truthful...I dont know if you should salvage this.....if she cant be truthful then the situation will not be dealt with ...could turn into an on and off again relationship....i hope you find the answers you need....deb
awesomesauce Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Ditto, except me and my girl were together for 6 years. My bet is your ex found another guy who gives her attention or wants to go party it up with her friends. Hey what you know that's exactly what happened to my ex. I didn't party, she didn't either at the time we dated, she actually talked down about it, but people change. She ended dating this new dude who partied, smoked weed, drinked, had an std and does all that awesome stuff. Me the ex boyfriend who respected her and found it more attractive that she wanted to wait til marriage for sex meant nothing in the end. Yea you have no idea how my perception of people has changed. 1
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