dankas10 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 My ex just broke up with me a week ago because "our relationship was boring". I was with her for 2 years and cant get her out of my head. She already has another boyfriend who i think she cheated on me with. I really want her back, she's the love of my life even after she hurt me. I didn't text her for the first 3 days and then i texted her asking for closure on why exactly she broke up with me, and everything whent downhill from there. I begging her to give me another chance either now or in the future and i started to look really desperate. I need help on how i can get her back even though i broke the NC rule. I told her i can change to be more fun and now our conversations are just awkward. Please HELP!!!!
PogoStick Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 It's going to take much longer if there's a chance. You have to just walk away, move on with life. If she's truly interested she will come back. If not, there's nothing you can do. Either way your best option is to work on improving yourself. Either you get her, or you get someone better because you've worked on yourself.
Author dankas10 Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Thank you for the fast reply and the advice, I've started going to the gym to lose some extra pounds and thinking of other things i can do to change for the better. Also system of a down is a great band
PogoStick Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 The gym is a great place to start. In addition, how about you pick 1 other thing that will develop some character. Learn a musical instrument, a new language, or pickup a new sport like volleyball (which is naturally coed btw).
Mr Scorpio Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 It is fortunate that you found this site. There are people here who can offer you some help. I'm going to try to get that ball moving. Ready? Ok. You are going to learn the first directive of NC. This should provide you with all the information you need on getting your ex back. Monumental, I know. Ready? No contact is not for getting your ex back. No contact is for healing yourself. She left you. She told you that the relationship was "boring" and she left you. She did this a week ago and she has already replaced you. She knew before she left you what she was going to do. For right now it doesn't matter why she left you. You can deal with that when you are able to think rationally. All that groveling you did? Be grateful if she doesn't post it all over FB. Of course, you'd never know, because you're going to block her after you're finished reading this. She isn't a part of your life anymore. 1
Dmoney28 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Mr Scorpio is 100% right, You have to stay NC ...i know you are in pain right now, but trust me its for your own good. Hurt some now...than Hurt Alot later. And if you dont dissapear from her life, you will Hurt alot down the line. And yes, she had this guy all lined up wile you were together...so i wont say the obvious. What a mean spirited woman. "boring". Bro, she did you a favor. Most likely if you get back together...she'll do it again. Its sounds like she is very young or very immature. And i'll bet the farm she'll get bored with the new guy and move on to someone else. Stay NC and gain your self respect and confidence back. I wont lie to you, it will be a while before you feel normal again. But you will get there, trust me. I dont know you from adam...but you sound like you are way too good to be with a chick like that. Work out, read and see a phsychologist if you can. It did wonders for me. Consider me the ghost of break up past. I been down the road you are traveling, and for the first 1 year after the BU i did all the wrong things (begging, writing letters, dropping off flowers). Looking back, i was the biggest idiot for trying to stay in contact wth my ex...man those were bad times. 2
Author dankas10 Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 Thank you all for the great advice, I havent contacted her for a couple days now but she texted me tonight telling me about how her and her new boyfriend got caught having sex in his car. This hurt me more than anything else. I'm just wondering why she would tell me something like that? Is she trying to make me jealous? Is she trying to hurt? I know it shouldn't bother me and that I need to move on. Its just so hard to. I feel like she is a different person now than she was with me. I want to believe she still loves me and that maybe i can have another chance with her, but i just feel like the person i fell in love with died
Gingerxr2 Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Thank you all for the great advice, I havent contacted her for a couple days now but she texted me tonight telling me about how her and her new boyfriend got caught having sex in his car. This hurt me more than anything else. I'm just wondering why she would tell me something like that? Is she trying to make me jealous? Is she trying to hurt? I know it shouldn't bother me and that I need to move on. Its just so hard to. I feel like she is a different person now than she was with me. I want to believe she still loves me and that maybe i can have another chance with her, but i just feel like the person i fell in love with died Mate ! No disrespect to you but wake up ! How can you even tell yourself this is the girl for you ?? She's texted you saying she's been caught having sex ? With her new bloke ? After a week of splitting up with you ? Wtf ! It's hard moving on I know I'm in the same boat , but please ! I'm going to flip the boat ! If tonight she texted you saying baby I'm sorry I want you back please I love you bla bla bla !! And you took her back , 2 weeks down the road , you think she's cheating again , would you trust her ? Ask yourself that !! A relationship is built on trust ! Mate I'm sorry if this is harsh but you need a wake up call , once a cheat always a cheat , you get one chance . Don't go back ! 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Thank you all for the great advice, I havent contacted her for a couple days now but she texted me tonight telling me about how her and her new boyfriend got caught having sex in his car. This hurt me more than anything else. I'm just wondering why she would tell me something like that? Is she trying to make me jealous? Is she trying to hurt? I know it shouldn't bother me and that I need to move on. Its just so hard to. I feel like she is a different person now than she was with me. I want to believe she still loves me and that maybe i can have another chance with her, but i just feel like the person i fell in love with died I sincerely hope you did NOT reply to this - ?! Please Click on the No Contact Guide (updated 2013) in my signature... read it all! Every word, before you do anything else!!
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