YepIsay Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Alright I will provide some detail and I just want to know if I am wasting my time. My experience with people is that some are worth the time you invest and some are not. This is something that goes across all types of relationships, but it is something I must be more careful when it comes to emotions. So I found this girl attractive last semester, and tried to talk to her. She tossed me her number, and then said no to coffee. We were silent pretty much with small little "hello's" every so often. Then I texted her during break and we found out we have many similarities and talked for hours. As time progressed we slowed down but she texted me hoping my semester was going well last week. I invited her to go the store. Got a no but she texted for follow up. I tried to get her to a dinner inviting her and her friends but she turned it down. Then she said that her friends and my friends are very different. I was rather insulted for my friends even though she only ever saw me around people that annoyed me but I try to be friendly with. Then the next day after I didn't respond she said she just thinks we are really different. I felt that was out of place since we found out we are extremely similar down to our personalities. With differences of course, but nothing too intense. Like she likes to keep busy, while I don't. In the end all I wanted this semester was someone to do homework with since my friends are bad influences when it comes to that. She said, "if homework is all you actually want then we can do that." I follow up with a yes and we do homework that night very quietly which was great I got a lot done. Then we did homework again for a longer period and mainly were quiet as our personalities are. We said a couple things but it was minor conversations. Over all I am mildly confused. While I don't care if she wants to ever go romantic I am interested in knowing if anyone has a clue as to if people feel she is interested in some type of friendship. Like if I continue doing homework with her it will progress to an actual friendship where she actually includes me in her friend circle. She seems to push me away as we talk more and more and get deeper, but never fully closes the door which confuses me. Like we go to 7 hour conversation to nothing, to hesitant homework get together time.
veggirl Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 She sounds kind of weird. Basing things off of "our friends are different" ? Huh. I would just back off. I wouldn't initiate anything with her anymore, I mean you have put yourself out there plenty of times and it hasn't really resulted in anything with her yet. I am not sure why she would continue to do homework and junk with you if she doesn't even want to be friends, but I guess it doesn't matter why. What do you think will happen if you just disappear? I mean you don't have to ignore her but I certainly wouldn't be setting up anymore Homework dates with her or asking her to do other things.
KungFuJoe Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 This girl wants absolutely NOTHING to do with you. She speaks to you out of pure kindness. That is all.
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