Begging/Bargaining/Denial phase behind me, now all I have is anger.

[arrowfoot]

Yeah, so it's been three weeks (although it feels like months, the days are just snailing by) since we broke up.

 

I begged, I said goodbye too many times, I even tried being his friend for a few days. Needless to say, it blew up in my face.

 

Whenever I'd begin to get my hopes up--I truly believe he was buttering me up for an ego boost--and mention it he'd reply: "I want to be alone."

 

Whatever the hell that means; we live 350 miles away, how much more does one need to feel "alone"?! I understand that he wants to "focus on himself", yet he still wants to be friends: best friends.

 

Long story short I couldn't stop bringing up my intense feelings for him and eventually I was tired of getting my hopes crushed over and over.

 

Now, I'm at a mindset where I want him to truly know how it is to "be alone." if that's what he wants, he'll get it.

 

Didn't talk to him all day, as I'd had enough of our "friendship" and he sends me these strange passive aggressive texts simply updating me on where he is.

 

"I'm walking to a bar alone to treat myself with my gambling wins."

"I'm going to the gym with [insert male name]."

"We're done at the gym." (I kid you not)

"I'm home now, going to sleep."

 

-__-

 

LoveShack, give me the strength to deliver this man's clothing/belongings back to him without tears, burns, or tire marks.

 

Ugh.

[Ariella1984]

I'm in the anger stage too...welcome .

 

Throw on some "You Oughta Know" by Alanis, paint your nails red, buy yourself a hot new dress and enjoy.

 

I'm glad you have finally realized keeping in touch with this goon is no bueno. As you said, he wants alone time? Give the sucker what he wants. In the mean time, you work on yourself and use that angry energy to rebuild your self-esteem. That's what I am trying to do.

 

Those texts are his feeble attempts at trying to keep you entangled in his web. Don't even entertain that. It's laughable: who gives a sh@t where you are dude? Good for you for not answering. Give this d-bag the ride of his life and disappear. Make him wonder about all the fun that you are having without him .

[malxme]

"what doesnt kill you" by kelly clarkson

"we are never ever getting back together" by taylor swift.

 

Turn them up loud. I am so jealous that after a mere three weeks (though I know it feels like an eternity to you) you are at such a strong stage. I am at two months now, and have only just now said to myself 'enough is enough. No more tears. If he wants to lose you, let him."- and I still have to fight to remind myself of this!

 

I too begged, pleaded, tried to be friends and everything under the sun. But my ugly stage last WAY longer than 3 weeks.

 

He's obviously missing you, but you are too busy being AMAZING to answer him.

 

He had his chance. You rock!

[stevie_23]

He seems to want to have his cake and eat it too (though I never understood this phrase. If you've got some cake what ELSE would you do with it but EAT it, you know?!)

 

Anyway...he seems to not want to be tied to a relationship, where there are expectations and thus pressures to deliver and fulfil things he doesn't seem to want to do. And yet he seems to still want YOU as a person, to be around in his life.

 

Now, this is FINE except that if it's not what YOU want, his actions and attitudes will most likely be viewed as selfish and flippant and rude and inconsiderate and CLUELESS by you. And that's the thing...he IS clueless if he doesn't realise that HEY! Your relationship ENDED. You BROKE UP with her! She is HEARTBROKEN. And you're like, "Hey, I'm at the gym!" WHAT THE F**K!? To him though, he doesn't even see any of that. He just wants you around because it's comfortable and familiar, he likes you as a person, and...I'm not sure what else. On a more cynical, negative side, he likes the power / control or whatever. He's not really alone (in the way he DOESN'T want) if you're still around.

[arrowfoot]

Haha, I never thought about it like that. I guess having cake is a reward in itself? Doesn't seem too selfish for someone to want to eat the cake, I mean, it actually sounds quite rude to give someone a cake and then get pissy when they want to eat it.

 

LOL, enough about cake.

 

Yeah, I was thinking too that he just didn't want the commitment anymore. Like, the relationship was no longer worth the obligation he'd originally promised to give.

 

And exactly, you said it: he doesn't want to be truly alone, he wants to be alone in the way he wants to be. Whatever, he's so fickle I'm just done. He texted me again (I know, I thought he went to sleep) lol saying "So, you're not speaking to me anymore?"

 

It's like, whoa buddy, it's been ONE day, and suddenly you just assume I'm ignoring you? Maybe I have a life that doesn't involve being your lap dog...

[arrowfoot]

I'm in the anger stage too...welcome .

 

Throw on some "You Oughta Know" by Alanis, paint your nails red, buy yourself a hot new dress and enjoy.

 

I'm glad you have finally realized keeping in touch with this goon is no bueno. As you said, he wants alone time? Give the sucker what he wants. In the mean time, you work on yourself and use that angry energy to rebuild your self-esteem. That's what I am trying to do.

 

Those texts are his feeble attempts at trying to keep you entangled in his web. Don't even entertain that. It's laughable: who gives a sh@t where you are dude? Good for you for not answering. Give this d-bag the ride of his life and disappear. Make him wonder about all the fun that you are having without him .

 

This was just great hahaha, thanks!

 

And yes, I think that's the only thing right now that's keeping me together, my goals for myself.

 

Besides, he hated my dog, like literally had hatred for my poor pup. It was so weird when he said that...

 

Good Riddens!

[Proteinsforhealth]

It's a ocean never ending feeling to each other ...Recently I broke up with my 6th Girl friend but really not too hard feeling ....just cheel and cool

Edited January 24, 2013 by Proteinsforhealth
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