sweetchuck Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 hi, i recently caught my gf of 7 years cheating on me an i dont know what do. We have a 19 month old child together which is making it harder for me to cut off contact. We both got into a rut when our son became hard work an we just stoped showing interest in each other. I would sit playing my xbox wile she would beg me to go to bed with her. i also became grumpy an boring an would prefer to sit in with a few beer than go out. We just stopped doing the little things for each other that makes you realize how much you love someone. wile i was happy to continue to be comfortable she wasnt. She met a guy who showed her the attention i wasnt, she added him on fb an they were in alot of contact with each other she also met him out twice an i caught her the second time where she told me everything. She told me she didnt love me anymore an she was planning on leaving me even before she met him she just didnt have the heart to do it. Cheating on me was the easy way out as shes a coward. Well after a few days we got back for the childs sake. At the start it was really hard but after a few days we started getting on really well i got my mojo back we were making time for each other an this continued for three weeks then the first night she went out she got drunk an went an spent a night with him. I stayed angry with her for about 2 days then i started feeling love for her again. Her doing wat she done has made me realise how much i still love her an i dont know what to do. shes telling me shes confused at the feelings shes having for him one minute then wanting to be single the next then she thinks its me the next.
denxnis Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 There's no excuse for cheating. You could be a serial rapist and that still wouldn't make her cheating on you right. If you don't want to be with someone you leave them, you don't cheat. No one is perfect, you got comfortable and took her for granted, it's human nature. Think long and hard about whether or not you want to be with a woman that is capable of such things. Can you honestly trust her again? For example, if she told you she has to go into work at 2AM one day, would you find yourself questioning her or checking up on her? If so save yourself the heartache and move on. Yes, "Moving on", seems like a trend on these forums but there is a reason for it. Once the trust is broken in a relationship it is VERY difficult to regain it. 1
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