Realsimple Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I started to talking to this guy we hanged out and he txt and called me every day we made it official pretty quick. He was very affectionate in public called me by his last name when we made it official, told me he cared, was serious about me, and could see himself giving me the best of him. We had sex a day after we made it official. I had discussed with him that we should wait he sais hed try his best. Well he didnt. We were at his house after a date we started making out intensly and rubbing and kissing on each other He then starts whispering "let him me get a condom, it'll be quick you wont regret it" and other dirty things in my ear. I stand my ground and say no and walk away next thing I know he has me pushed up against the wall and we start making out again he unbuckles my pants and tells me to turn around im in shock because before I know it we are having sex and I couldnt even find the words to say stop. Physically I was turned on and wanted to buy mentally I knee I didnt but didnt say no I just let it happen. When it was over I couldnt even look him in his eyes I felt like theworldsbiggestwhore. He automatically says"nothing is going to change between us your still my girl. I go home scared for life he txt me apologizes I make myself agree that its not that bad and go to bed. We have sex again the next day and 1 more time after that right before our breakup that comes latee because im dumb and thought if i gave him what he wanted hed be happy. We argued alot from the start always about ridiculously irrelevant stuff and him always starting it and then saying he was "done" with me but never actually leaving. Our relationship was a 10 when we were face to face but a 5 when not. Hed complain about be being boring and emotional because i wanted his attention i and would tell him i miss him i guess thats what gfs do -_- he was kind of immature in the relationship aspect. Well a week before I am supose to head back to school he breaks up with me because i told him if he hung up on me i dnt want to hear from u and he did. He always threatented to leave me but my 1 joking threat sent him packing. I call he says hes seriously done and has deleted my number and pics because he liked the thrill of threats and that they dnt work on him. I leave him alone 2 days later he deletes me off facebook i txt him a long txt no reply. The break up was 5 days ago now im lost and hurt It really hurts and I miss him idk why. I think its the lack of closure that is getting to me. My friends say to let it go and I deservebetterbut when you givesomeonea partof you its easier said then done. Do you think he will pop back up? I feel like im almost positve he just used me because there is no other explanation. What do I do now? I just want to know did he ever care but I know he wont respond if I reach out to him. I just need some advice in general how do I cope?
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 There are so many things I want to comment on... RUN. RUN AND DON"T LOOK BACK. Be HAPPY he ended things. 1
clia Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I started to talking to this guy we hanged out and he txt and called me every day we made it official pretty quick. How quick is "pretty quick?" What is the total length of this "relationship" from the time you started talking until he broke up with you? We had sex a day after we made it official. I had discussed with him that we should wait he sais hed try his best. Well he didnt. We were at his house after a date we started making out intensly and rubbing and kissing on each other He then starts whispering "let him me get a condom, it'll be quick you wont regret it" and other dirty things in my ear. I stand my ground and say no and walk away next thing I know he has me pushed up against the wall and we start making out again he unbuckles my pants and tells me to turn around im in shock because before I know it we are having sex and I couldnt even find the words to say stop. Physically I was turned on and wanted to buy mentally I knee I didnt but didnt say no I just let it happen. When it was over I couldnt even look him in his eyes I felt like theworldsbiggestwhore. He automatically says"nothing is going to change between us your still my girl. I go home scared for life You were scared for your life or scarred for life? If this guy scarred you for life, why would you even continue to see him? he txt me apologizes I make myself agree that its not that bad and go to bed. We have sex again the next day and 1 more time after that right before our breakup that comes latee because im dumb and thought if i gave him what he wanted hed be happy. You're right, it was dumb. You are young -- learn from this. We argued alot from the start always about ridiculously irrelevant stuff and him always starting it and then saying he was "done" with me but never actually leaving. So why continue the relationship? If you are arguing from the start, it probably isn't meant to be. Well a week before I am supose to head back to school he breaks up with me because i told him if he hung up on me i dnt want to hear from u and he did. If you didn't mean it, why did you say it? It's really immature. You told him if he hung up you didn't want to hear from him. He's only doing what you told him. The break up was 5 days ago now im lost and hurt It really hurts and I miss him idk why. I don't know why either. Do you think he will pop back up? I feel like im almost positve he just used me because there is no other explanation. No one can use you without your permission. You had sex with him several times, very quickly and early on. If you didn't want to have sex, you should have told him no. Instead you went back and did it two more times. It sure seems like he was just after sex. You prevent being used like this by not having sex with a guy until you are a little more sure how he really feels about you. What do I do now? I just want to know did he ever care but I know he wont respond if I reach out to him. I just need some advice in general how do I cope? Just learn from this and move on. You'll get through it. He was obviously looking for an out and took it. You shouldn't make empty threats if you don't mean them. And don't have sex so soon. 1
Author Realsimple Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Yea it is, id honestly love to hear anything you have to say. Idk not many people i can talk to without them judging me. If its the age difference ill be 20 soon and he just turned 25. I think me having sex with him really destroyed my chances ill never know the truth thoughw
Author Realsimple Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 I continued the relationship because the arguments were so minor to me I just figured he must of liked arguing over nothing. I didnt take them seriously. And I meant scarred but more as a joke really I just wasnt happy with the events of the night. I didnt consider it to be serious when i said i dnt want to hear from you because i said it jokingly all while laughing and he had done it so many times i didnt see that me joking could possibly be taken seruously. I completely agreee i made some bad choices during this but I believed his words instead of his actions which evidently must of been lies they seemed very sincere though...I let myself be fooled
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Im just going to say it... the sex thing was more like rape.
mortensorchid Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 This started off reading like porn and then went all crazy. THis is was really insane on all of your parts.
Author Realsimple Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 I wouldnt agree I can see why you would say that though but I let it happen and knew what was going on it was more like peer pressure and I gave in easily. This story wouldnt have even been that long if I was raped because I would of called the damn cops
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 We were at his house after a date we started making out intensly and rubbing and kissing on each other He then starts whispering "let him me get a condom, it'll be quick you wont regret it" and other dirty things in my ear. I stand my ground and say no and walk away next thing I know he has me pushed up against the wall and we start making out again he unbuckles my pants and tells me to turn around im in shock because before I know it we are having sex and I couldnt even find the words to say stop. This is NOT ok.
Author Realsimple Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Rape is a serious issue I know what rape is. I didnt want to because I knew it was moving fast but it wasnt I didnt want to no please stop. That is rape. I let it happen because I wanted to physically its just that mentally I knew it was the wrong choice between us. Good moral side fighting what my body wanted to do thats what happened
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Rape is a serious issue I know what rape is. I didnt want to because I knew it was moving fast but it wasnt I didnt want to no please stop. That is rape. I let it happen because I wanted to physically its just that mentally I knew it was the wrong choice between us. Good moral side fighting what my body wanted to do thats what happened Just because it wasn't rape doesn't make it OK.... 2
charlietheginger Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 He wants a women that is more sexual. With you he has to Force sex. Sex should be condensing on both parties. Not a guy Begging and a women that doesn't really wanna do it.
Author Realsimple Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Well its done and over with it this actually helped now im confident about never talking to him again but just in case he ever does try and contact me idk what to say I dnt want to have no response ready and fall for any lies he will surely come with.
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