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samsungxoxo Established Member

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I went to a different site a couple days ago and out of curiosity posted an updated photo and most of them had the same replies: 5, 5.5, 6, 6.5...there were a couple who said only 3-4 while another said 7, 8... but my average was 5-6/10.



 

In addition, in my early years (high school and afterwards), I wouldn't get hit on nor asked out too much. If I did, it was either a guy with a severe acne that had bad luck finding a girl or someone I don't like at all. I guess I have the answer to that: I've always been only average looking.

 

Yes, I was in a relationship but a failed one. Though my ex bf would see me as an 8/10 (I know it's a lie, he probably just said it to make me feel better), some people didn't see him as too attractive.

 

I guess there is still hope is it? Now, it's like I'm gonna have to do something else to make it for it or will one just ignore that I'm just average and be able to see past that??

SmileFace Established Member

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:(:(:(

 

And this is a problem... how?

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I guess that was my mistake. Soooo much for asking honesty and I got it but that means the very few that said 7-8/10 were just trying to be nice but it was a lie.

 

Reason I know my ex bf lied was because one time, he explained what attracted him the most:

 

I liked how you're not one of those stupid girls that smokes, you're booksmart, etc.... but didn't really mentioned too much on my looks.

 

Or that one time he said:

 

When I first met you, I thought he were good looking, not hot nor fine but just ok...then went on explaining about being all goody and booksmart again.

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Please tell me you weren't on Hot or Not...

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So you're average.

 

Big ****ing deal.

 

Get over it.

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:(:(:(

 

And this is a problem... how?

Let's just said I'm kinda down. All those years I've been trying to wonder why I wouldn't get hit on too much and there is my answer now.

 

I don't excel too much in looks.

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By definition, most people are average. If you can't handle that fact, there's probably more wrong with you on the inside than the outside. :/

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So you're average.

 

Big ****ing deal.

 

Get over it.

I didn't know that back then. I though it was maybe for them not seeing me or simply because they were taken....now I know the truth. Sucks....
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Is there anything you can do to improve your looks?

 

Are you in the best physical shape you could be in? Do you need to lose some weight? Do you go to the gym or workout?

 

Do your teeth need to be straightened or whitened?

 

Do you have the most flattering hairstyle/hair color you could have? Go see a good beautician and ask about your color and cut -- they can advise you.

 

How is your make-up application? Go see a makeup person at one of the counters at the department store. They can teach you and help you figure out what is flattering on you.

 

How is your skin? Can you use different lotion, cleanser, etc.?

 

If you wear glass, can you get contact lenses?

 

How do you dress? Are you wearing cute clothing, high heels, etc.?

 

 

Etc....

 

Sure, your facial features can't be changed, but you really can do a lot to make yourself look more attractive.

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By definition, most people are average. If you can't handle that fact, there's probably more wrong with you on the inside than the outside. :/
Nope, one of my female friend is above average. During our high school years, she would get hit on a lot.

 

Beach incidence (10 years ago): We're both 15-16 years old and a bunch of guys walked passed us. Even with a cigarette, she would get all the attention and I'm just watching. Then one of them did actually walked up to me and said hi and I said hi back (but I was shy then, didn't say much) and that was it.

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What difference does it make about what your ex-boyfriend said?

tbf Established Member

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Maybe you can explain to us why this revelation bothers you. In our understanding, it's possible for us to tailor our responses accordingly.

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Maybe you can explain to us why this revelation bothers you. In our understanding, it's possible for us to tailor our responses accordingly.
Till last year or so, I thought I was at 7 as I was told a while ago.

Now, I know I never was a 7 but 5/6.

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Till last year or so, I thought I was at 7 as I was told a while ago.

Now, I know I never was a 7 but 5/6.

What difference does this really make?

 

Does this information make your stock values go down or something?

 

Like really why does this make a difference.

 

Plus you can't know if your ex was lying by others perception.

 

You can be a 10 to some and 0 to others... big deal.

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Till last year or so, I thought I was at 7 as I was told a while ago.

Now, I know I never was a 7 but 5/6.

Help me out a bit here. Are you saying that it feels like you're "lesser" than your initial perception, so it's eroded on your self-esteem?
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You can be a 10 to some and 0 to others... big deal.
True but that was a general perception. Most said 5-6/10.
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you have gorgeous facial features, I class average as not being a supermodel, you are not or a five or a six..and i have no reason to kiss ass nor would i want to...and the shyness you talk about is probably why you didnt get hit on...there is another way to look at not getting hit on...guys dotn see you as a sex object...thats a good thing......cheers to you...five or six....pffft....its a nah, are you tripping?......deb

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What websites did you post on?

You are attractive facially for sure!

and you arent fat...so I wouldnt feel down

You can always change your weight/tone up...but one cannot change facial features so look at it that way

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True but that was a general perception. Most said 5-6/10.

Are you ****ing most?

 

Why does this make a difference to you?

 

That is what I want to understand.

 

I mean we all have our down moments however something like this shouldn't make a difference.

 

Well unless you are half the male population on ls.

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After looking at your pics.... it isn't so much your physical looks, but the way you present them.

Poor posture, and I honestly feel like your wardrobe could use an update.

 

You have potential deary, just need to live up to it.

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After looking at your pics.... it isn't so much your physical looks, but the way you present them.

Poor posture, and I honestly feel like your wardrobe could use an update.

 

You have potential deary, just need to live up to it.

 

Wow...and you call me STUCK UP

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Most women overestimate their looks and/or market value because men above their league will hit on them to get in their pants..most people in relationships r quite average so unless youre a horrible person or have no personality u shoul have a problem

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Wow...and you call me STUCK UP

 

 

 

... Really? :rolleyes:

 

She posted those pics for advice... and I gave it.

I am not trying to be mean, she has the features, just needs to present them better!

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... Really? :rolleyes:

 

She posted those pics for advice... and I gave it.

I am not trying to be mean, she has the features, just needs to present them better!

 

I agree. She has a unique but attractive look; she just needs to learn to play to her strengths.

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