edgygirl Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Right but again, that's your personal opinion. We can't really go back and forth with opinion, because here we have someone (you) who thinks the city is losing its culture, and someone else (me) who sees it as the destination for anything arts related. So we need something to quantify, something concrete, which is why I provided the link I did. The rest is really up to individual opinion, but you can't say New York isn't cultured, factually, it is. It is the most cultured city in America. Again, by what we can measure concretely. Hey it's fine. We're all entitled to our opinions. I happen to think that individual feelings are more important than statistics, I believe in my sixth sense for these things immensely. And I think I'm getting out of this thread as I want keenly to get answers and not hijack his thread
Green Light Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 First of all, no need to be an ass. Secondly, it's not the one girl that makes me feel this way, you misunderstand. It's more like I become girl repellant around girls I actually like, and fricken casa nova around women I want nothing to do with romantically. You'll get better at it. It takes time and practice. The trick is not to get too hung up on any one girl at any given time. That always seem to work on TV and in the movies but not so good in real life.
MrCastle Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Hey it's fine. We're all entitled to our opinions. I happen to think that individual feelings are more important than statistics, I believe in my sixth sense for these things immensely. And I think I'm getting out of this thread as I want keenly to get answers and not hijack his thread Our posts are probably gonna be deleted soon anyway 1
edgygirl Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 You do know, little italy isn't the only place to get italian food? I feel like some of your posts are that of a tourist. The Bronx has some great italian restaurants, as does lower Manhattan. Places that, if you're not from here, you wouldn't know. I feel like you only know of the big tourist attractions of the city and not the stuff underneath it where real New Yorkers go. No I actually been taken to a place in the Bronx but in the beginning I felt once for the Little Italy trap as anyone who has just moved to the city... Actually the best Italian I've been (not comparable to Rome though) was in Long Island city, I was taken there by an Italian girl. Alright, out of here now! 1
Green Light Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Come on...you know I'm not being an ass. You know what I'm saying. Running around getting Toxic Shock Syndrome from your dirty tampon and pouting and getting down about a girl you weren't even involved with is counterproductive in your pursuit. Try this. Next time you meet a girl you're into, just act like you don't really want anything to do with a relationship or really even her, for that matter. Except don't act....actually try not caring. Watch what happens. Now, come on, Bob. That kind of thing takes time and practice. This is kind of what I meant with my "dead inside" post.
FitChick Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Yes, dating is much better in San Francisco if you are single and a GAY MAN. 1
Author Keenly Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 actually try not caring. Do you not listen to the things I've already told you? This is what I have done my entire life. The point is change that behavior. If you are going to give advice, give advice that's actually relevant to my scenario. Not trying for me = not socializing at all, so it gets me absolutely no where.
Palominas Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I've "given up" lots of times already, at the age of 32. Just get it through your system, vent your frustrations, take some time off from dating, then get back into it when you feel comfortable again. My last girlfriend cheated on me after 6 months. It was bad enough that I took about 2 years off from dating and moved across the country. The girl I started dating about a month ago pretty much dropped all communication with me after canceling our last date (so I'm calling it as over). I'm still ready to get back in the game though, for now. The way I'm seeing it, for me at least, I'm looking for a life partner. Someone to share all our dirty laundry with over a lifetime. Ups and downs, finances, maybe even kids and a family, etc. Maybe I'm being overly romantic, I always was, but with the stakes that high, dating is sufficiently difficult and I almost don't mind it. Although, ask me again how I feel after a few more breakups.
Bristolius Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 MrCastle, When I look at your avatar I see it fine. But reading your posts, out of the corner of my eye, it looks like this Kind of distracting. Anyway, Keenly seems kind of down tonight. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I totally feel where you are coming from. The whole idea of putting myself out there just for someone to poo poo the idea of dating me like it's nasty would just be too much. I've tried online and offline and the Cinderella stories that so many seem to have just don't happen to me. So don't put yourself out there just to be hurt. A break may be what you need, or a change of scenery...as others have said think about moving. It may just be that women receptive to you aren't where you are right now. If I did not have a glimmer of hope in the form of someone who cares about me about as much as I care about them I'd just give up for at least a couple years.
KungFuJoe Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I feel your pain my friend. I've been trying for years and nothing. It seems Maryland is as bad or worse than Norcal, and I used to live there. I do not believe this is a problem limited to specific locations within the US however, I believe it is a serious problem with American women in general. This involves women and minorities being treated like royalty due to politics, plain and simple. Oh man I so totally agree!!! Down with women! We don't need women! Men are superior!!! Lets all turn gay and figure out how to give birth to children ourselves so we can finally rid ourselves of this unnecessary burden! Who's with me? Who's with me!?!?! 2
Failboy Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 (edited) Come on...you know I'm not being an ass. You know what I'm saying. Running around getting Toxic Shock Syndrome from your dirty tampon and pouting and getting down about a girl you weren't even involved with is counterproductive in your pursuit. Try this. Next time you meet a girl you're into, just act like you don't really want anything to do with a relationship or really even her, for that matter. Except don't act....actually try not caring. Watch what happens. Does this method actually work for guys women aren't naturally into? I mean, of course that type of stuffs works for guys who have always gotten women one way or the other, I don't doubt that. But whenever I don't make a major effort with a woman, nothing happens. I've tried. Often I didn't even have to act, I simply wasn't into her. Still, no effort on her part whatsoever, so nothing happened. I strongly assume this "don't put her on a pedestal, make her chase you!" type of stuff only works for hot guys. Edited January 24, 2013 by Failboy
chimneychamp Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I don't know how old you are but eventually you get to be so dead inside that you don't have to worry about the butterflies and/or sweaty palms anymore and you can just talk to women with very few expectations. Can't wait. When does that set in?
Author Keenly Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Random chick on okcupid messaged me a day before I started this thread. Saw the message yesterday, started talking with her. Turns out she worked with one of my friends. Going to meet up with her tonight. Funny how the universe works. Wish me luck my LS brethren. 1
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Random chick on okcupid messaged me a day before I started this thread. Saw the message yesterday, started talking with her. Turns out she worked with one of my friends. Going to meet up with her tonight. Funny how the universe works. Wish me luck my LS brethren. What time is this date?
Author Keenly Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 What time is this date? Eh nine thirty or so.
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Are you thinking positive? Feeling good? Excited?
Author Keenly Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Are you thinking positive? Feeling good? Excited? Oh I've been, quite positive all day. My ego has been rather large today and everyone at work can tell something is up. I'm nervous, a little.. but not terrified. I got this. 1
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Oh I've been, quite positive all day. My ego has been rather large today and everyone at work can tell something is up. I'm nervous, a little.. but not terrified. I got this. Good Luck!
KungFuJoe Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 http://www.coreygonzalez.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/you-can-do-it.jpg 1
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 http://www.coreygonzalez.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/you-can-do-it.jpg I can hear his voice
Necris Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I just can't. Can't handle putting myself out there and making myself vulnerable anymore. Mysituation hasn't manifested itself into a negative thing yet, but I see where it's going. Incoming friend zone. I'm tired of the hurt. Tired of the getting excited and then hitting the ground again. This is my formal retirement from the pursuit of a mate announcement, because I can't emotionally handle the sadness any longer. You don't even want to know the thoughts I am having about my future and where my dating life is heading. Every time I get excited about a girl, and every time I get butterflies and sweaty palms aroubd a girl, this happens. Every. Single . Time. I'm done. There you go men in norcal, one less person to compete with . I feel you man, personally I'm all for just stop caring about it and do something else, you can still talk to girls but don't make it a priority. Though I do wonder why you are always getting friend zoned I don't really experience that for me women just fade away from my life, but then again I never get more than one date with any particular girl so that could factor into the reason why I don't have the friend zone issue.
Author Keenly Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Yeah no, this thread proves itself to be true. I don't even have words you guys... I'll explain as best I can. First problem : Date sucked. She didn't do anything wrong per se, she wasn't ugly or anything, but we are definitely not on the same page mentally, which is unfortunately a deal breaker. Second problem. Because my stupid ass was so nervous for nothing apparently, when I left my car and entered the place, I had stupidly, the ONE TIME, I forgot to lock my car. Some ******* goes through it, stole a bunch of usless times, a sweater, few blankets, a DVI-HDMI adapter. A bag of doritos. Left my deck, left my speakers. Took my Aux cable. I reiterate. I'm finished. I am going to be a robot from this moment on, as this emotional **** is not really working out.
HitMeNow Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Dude chill the **** out. Your life and happiness level does not depend on whether you meet a cool chick or not. Cheers, 1
MrCastle Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Keen I'm sorry to hear about your date. Even more so about the car situation. When you say not on the same page mentally, what do you mean specifically? She's immature?
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