Keenly Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I just can't. Can't handle putting myself out there and making myself vulnerable anymore. Mysituation hasn't manifested itself into a negative thing yet, but I see where it's going. Incoming friend zone. I'm tired of the hurt. Tired of the getting excited and then hitting the ground again. This is my formal retirement from the pursuit of a mate announcement, because I can't emotionally handle the sadness any longer. You don't even want to know the thoughts I am having about my future and where my dating life is heading. Every time I get excited about a girl, and every time I get butterflies and sweaty palms aroubd a girl, this happens. Every. Single . Time. I'm done. There you go men in norcal, one less person to compete with . 2
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I just can't. Can't handle putting myself out there and making myself vulnerable anymore. Mysituation hasn't manifested itself into a negative thing yet, but I see where it's going. Incoming friend zone. I'm tired of the hurt. Tired of the getting excited and then hitting the ground again. This is my formal retirement from the pursuit of a mate announcement, because I can't emotionally handle the sadness any longer. You don't even want to know the thoughts I am having about my future and where my dating life is heading. Every time I get excited about a girl, and every time I get butterflies and sweaty palms aroubd a girl, this happens. Every. Single . Time. I'm done. There you go men in norcal, one less person to compete with . You are in norcal? lol Women suck around here. On another note, I am sorry. That sucks.
Author Keenly Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 You are in norcal? lol Women suck around here. On another note, I am sorry. That sucks. Yeah... Yeah they do. They love to cheat and they love to reject. I'm in a field of thorns X_x
sid3 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I seem to recall telling you that you were screwed. Apparently I was right. Time to make some chanhes, eh?
Author Keenly Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 I seem to recall telling you that you were screwed. Apparently I was right. Time to make some chanhes, eh? Hey thanks for kicking me when I'm down buddy. You know nothing of me yet you are pretty quicl to judge. Get lost.
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 You live in norcal...not freakin Antarctica. Toss that line back out there!
Author Keenly Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 You live in norcal...not freakin Antarctica. Toss that line back out there! Can only cast so many times before the sun sets man.
charlietheginger Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Cant blame you. The best way to not Get burned is not to put your hand into The flames.... Many men all around the world live alone grow old alone and die alone. Just how It is
TheZebra Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Take a deep breath buddy - don't give up on me! It sucks feeling like that. When you invest so much in someone just to have them shoot you down. Sometimes even rudely. But it's worth it. The sadness is heart crushing, I won't sugar-coat it, but think about the happiness when it DOES work. I've been there and it's worth it. You're young (as am I!) and you have many more chances. Get over this one and keep looking. Law of large numbers... it's gotta work sometime!
carhill Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 There you go men in norcal, one less person to compete with . Move to Oregon; that's I'm doing.
Alma Mobley Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Hey, I am a woman in NorCal! Maybe you just need a much-needed break from the hunt. It can help.
Lani Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Yeah, come on man... Don't give up for good. Just chill out for a while, and stop looking. Spend some more time on yourself, and doing things that are good for you. In no time you'll be feeling fantastic, and ready to take on the ladies again!
Author Keenly Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Hey, I am a woman in NorCal! Maybe you just need a much-needed break from the hunt. It can help. I'm thinking this for a year or so. Tired of putting in the effort and getting no effort in return . 1
Author Keenly Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Yeah, come on man... Don't give up for good. Just chill out for a while, and stop looking. Spend some more time on yourself, and doing things that are good for you. In no time you'll be feeling fantastic, and ready to take on the ladies again! The things the make me happy also make me lonely. How many more weekends can I spend playing guitar for eight hours and recording songs ? I'm running out of songs.
Esoteric Elf Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I am sorry to hear this keenly. Though we have come to the same conclusive state, it is no similarity that I enjoy seeing in others, but there comes a time when one must weigh the time, energy and all other work put into garnering relationships and compare that with the potential rewards and ask "is it worth it?" Let me just say that there is also plenty in life besides DSR. Without it, you will be able to focus far more heavily in other areas and hopefully become a far better person. Who knows? In doing so, you may stumble upon a nice girl. That said, a haitus can clear your mind as to what your next move may be.
Lani Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 How old are you Keenly? Find some more things that make you happy. Although I sometimes get the feeling of loneliness because I don't have a partner, I just fill my time up with other things. Like going to the gym, catching up with friends, seeing my family and doing fun things with my niece and nephew, getting away for the weekend, working hard... There are plenty of things you can do to fill your time, so quit feeling sorry for yourself and sort it out.
MrCastle Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Sorry to hear that. I would encourage you to keep trying but I know that's easier said than done. Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom for things to turn around. At least you have nowhere to go but up.
Author Keenly Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 How old are you Keenly? Find some more things that make you happy. Although I sometimes get the feeling of loneliness because I don't have a partner, I just fill my time up with other things. Like going to the gym, catching up with friends, seeing my family and doing fun things with my niece and nephew, getting away for the weekend, working hard... There are plenty of things you can do to fill your time, so quit feeling sorry for yourself and sort it out. 23. And there are a lot of things I want to do , bit they require more people, that I don't have access to. For example , I love badminton , playing it at least. There are no groups in my area doing that. Trust me I have looked . Currently I'm looking for an adult softball league but am not having luck finding one for the spring. The gym is not something I enjoy, I have tried and tried and tried and it does nothing for my happiness level. Probably going to look into some tennis or something, problem is there are no groups in my area that do this stiff unless I want to enroll on the local community college simply to take the badminton class, which I have done before.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Sorry to here bud. I have been friend zoned and burned many times in the early stages of dating so am very familiar with how you feel. Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you see it) I feel very unhappy being alone. Unhappiness on such a level that it is an impetus for putting myself out there again. It's like some cruel positive feedback mechanism. Story of my life
Lani Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 23. And there are a lot of things I want to do , bit they require more people, that I don't have access to. For example , I love badminton , playing it at least. There are no groups in my area doing that. Trust me I have looked . Currently I'm looking for an adult softball league but am not having luck finding one for the spring. The gym is not something I enjoy, I have tried and tried and tried and it does nothing for my happiness level. Probably going to look into some tennis or something, problem is there are no groups in my area that do this stiff unless I want to enroll on the local community college simply to take the badminton class, which I have done before. Then I think you should move. Obviously you're not happy where you are, because you can't do all the things you love. Get out of there, and get your life back. You're only 23, you've got so much life to live, and it seems to me that you're wasting it.
MrCastle Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 23. And there are a lot of things I want to do , bit they require more people, that I don't have access to. For example , I love badminton , playing it at least. There are no groups in my area doing that. Trust me I have looked . Currently I'm looking for an adult softball league but am not having luck finding one for the spring. The gym is not something I enjoy, I have tried and tried and tried and it does nothing for my happiness level. Probably going to look into some tennis or something, problem is there are no groups in my area that do this stiff unless I want to enroll on the local community college simply to take the badminton class, which I have done before. Are you looking for companionship/friendship or a romantic connection? Not too many chicks, in 2013, are rushing to sign up for badminton. No offense, just a reality. This goes back to what I've said many times about the rules of dating or following the norms. If you want to improve your success, do things and go places most people in your age group are doing and going to.
Lani Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Are you looking for companionship/friendship or a romantic connection? Not too many chicks, in 2013, are rushing to sign up for badminton. No offense, just a reality. This goes back to what I've said many times about the rules of dating or following the norms. If you want to improve your success, do things and go places most people in your age group are doing and going to. This isn't true- chicks love a shuttlecock... 1
Author Keenly Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Are you looking for companionship/friendship or a romantic connection? Not too many chicks, in 2013, are rushing to sign up for badminton. No offense, just a reality. This goes back to what I've said many times about the rules of dating or following the norms. If you want to improve your success, do things and go places most people in your age group are doing and going to. Looking for romance, but the badminton suggestion was referring to the " keeping busy" aspect and not a place to meet women.
edgygirl Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 You are in norcal? lol Women suck around here. Is it true there are more men in norcal and it's a good place to be a woman dating-wise? As opposed to the East Coast. Maybe me and Keenly should switch coasts :/
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