kissanangel Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 Okay, I need some ideas for my weekend getaway with the guy I'm dating. We, of course, are going to the beach. Not sure what to "wear" for a special evening. Any ideas would be great. On another subject, we have been dating foe 8 months now and he says he loves me, but I'm not convinced. I don't feel like he shows it at all. I have talked to him about it, but he says that I'm still heartbroken from my divorce and that's why I don't believe he loves me. I can understand that, but he doesn't do those small things. Like I've gotten him cute boxers, cards....you know the little gifts that you do to show someone that you think of them even when they aren't there. I do that for him, but not the other way around. I promise I'm not a gold digger. I just don't feel that he really loves me. Any ideas?
Pocky Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 Some guys don't buy little gifts like that for their girlfriends. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't love them. My husband has sent me flowers once and I've never received a card from him. Does he show you he loves you in other ways? Is he affectionate?
Author kissanangel Posted August 24, 2004 Author Posted August 24, 2004 Sometimes he is, and sometimes I wonder why I want someon who might not want me. It's like I have to tell him that I need him to make me feel special and he'll do it, but I don't feel I should ask for that. When you love and care for someone you want to do those thinngs on your own. My ex husband was not Mr. Romantic, but for most of the relationship he showed me he loved me. I don't know, maybe I'm still comparing.
Pocky Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 Well each of us has a different set of needs and if you communicate it with your significant other and they are unable or unwilling to assist you in fulfilling those needs then it's possible the relationship isn't right for you.
DerangedAngel Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 Perhaps he doesn't speak your "love language"? 1. Words of Affirmation 2. Receiving Gifts* 3. Quality Time 4. Acts of Service 5. Physical Touch *My best guess as to what yours might be. http://www.christianwomanspage.org/ll/ (Does not try to push religion in any way, just explains a little about the book "The Five Love Languages") Now, if he's just not showing you any of these things, then I would be concerned-- and talk to him. -Deranged
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