TheGuard13 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Let's say you're in a longterm lease with someone, and you live together. What are the chances that you could stop seeing each other romantically, still live together, and things wouldn't be horrible? Anyone ever tried to do this? How'd it turn out?
Lost kitten Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Let's say you're in a longterm lease with someone, and you live together. What are the chances that you could stop seeing each other romantically, still live together, and things wouldn't be horrible? Anyone ever tried to do this? How'd it turn out? Don't. For your own sanity. I tried it with a former ex, and after 2 months, I had to leave. This most recent time around, he was still on the lease, but wasnt staying at the apartment. It keeps you in a holding pattern - you still see the person, you're still in "your" home. You can't move on, or let go. There will have to be discussions about bills and household things, and it's not worth it. I moved out one week ago, since the split 2 months ago. In this past week, i've felt myself growing stronger and able to accept the situation much more than when I was "stuck".
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Let's say you're in a longterm lease with someone, and you live together. What are the chances that you could stop seeing each other romantically, still live together, and things wouldn't be horrible? Anyone ever tried to do this? How'd it turn out? I tried it and it only lasted a week before I said I'm out! My situation was that we lived together in MY house when she left me. She had no where to go so she stayed at the house with me. After a week of not knowing where she was going and when she was coming home it drove me nuts. I had to leave my own house just to get better. Thank God I did that. If I had stayed there would have been no way for me to move on and to heal. It took her 3 months after the breakup to move out of my house and till this day I still can't go into my own house in fear of the "ghost" of our relationship. Take my advice if you are the dumper then figure out a plan before you do it. If you are the dumpee then get the hell out before you go crazy.
mammasita Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Bad idea....more often than not, one person still has feelings for the other. It can only end badly.
CLove105 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 From my own experience, it was a nightmare. We broke up five months into our 12 month lease and it was horrible. Feelings would go from nothing at all, to really intense. Then there's the whole talking to other people right in front of you, and they can, because "we're not together" which is true, but it is still hurtful. Things got emotionally and physically abusive very fast because we were too busy trying to still control each other. This was the biggest mistake I made after I broke up with my ex, because I never properly moved on after breaking up - I stayed in same place with him for another seven months and it confused me. I would advise you to leave, no matter how cordial you think you two can be with each other. Good luck.
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