Help me solve this one PLEAse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[hugznkisses21]

So thsi is what happened last night. My bf whom I care and love deeply and I know he feels the same way...can not seperate his emotions for anything. If his dad pisses him off I suffer by the way he is on the phone to me. I knwo that he has a sore throat and some sort of allergic reaction rash sohis pills make him tired...anyways he calls me up second night in a row all miserable and rude and in the back of my mind i know its is cause all of those things but he makes me feel like i did something all the time. So i got upset saying that he has to seperate him emotions a little bit. He will tell me it is nothing to do with me but how can I belive him if he is treating me like it is me. Anyways we ended the night in my crying on the phone. God I hate it when guys give the attitue like they could care less. His excuse for everything is, is thats just the way I am.

 

I told him it cant be his excuse for everything. He says this when it comes to his feelings. He wont tell me whats wring ALL the time. But he will say it isnt me. I try to explain to him I ask him cause i want to help and I care.

 

Now we ended the night quite frustrated with eachother. what should I do?

[Papillon]

Dump him. Do you really need his emotional horse****? Do you think it's fair that you should have to take HIS moods, but when you need someone to listen, he doesn't give a ****?

 

Dump him.

[Pocky]

Hugz - You've made several posts about your relationship and the various problems you have. Why are you in a relationship that doesn't make you happy? Why do you keep questioning everything that's wrong instead of just realizing that maybe you two aren't meant to be together? Just because two people may claim to love each other it doesn't mean they are necessarily good for each other. How many times are you going to post about the problems in your relationship before you actually do something about it?

[hugznkisses21]

I know what you guys are saying. But this has only been a recent thing over the past month. I find it hard to throw away a year and a half with him of which has been wonderful. I would like some advice on how to approch this. I want him to see how fragile this can all be and that he can loose me but I dont want us to loose eachother. After all is sadi and done he does show and tell me he love me and care deeply for me I just need to figure out how ot get past this moody hurdle (which I find seems to be a part of how he was raised and his parents attitudes to eachother) I dont want to loose him and I now he doesnt want to loose me he tells me that. But he doesn think before he speaks at all....and is constantly apologising for it.....I dont want to end this its far too minimal in the large scheem of the rationship to do so. I know you have seen many posts of which I posted like mad all oer one argument and we got over it all the next day. Im emotional, insecure, and I admit do blow things a but out of porpotion. I started the argument. If i just would have said ok u dont feel well well i willlet u relax blah balh nothing would have happened. But it did and I want to know how I can deal with his mood on a level he will understand and not creat another argument.

 

Thanks for your posts....I am a bit excentric after a fight. Im terrified of ruining my relaitonship. I tend to post to get reassurance that i did something right (I exaggerate on then slightly imsure)