Drseussgrrl Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I'm old and hot. *shrugs* Wouldn't want you either, anyway, Eggnog.
Author pbjbear Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Sorry, I sometimes forget anecdotes, when presented by women, supersede statistical trends here on LS. I see your point why a guy wouldnt want an overweight girl. Im not disagreeing. But Im not overweight and I get called hot all the time. I dont go for players, womanizers, jerks and right when a guy is a jerk to me or mean I stop seeing him. Still nothing works
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Fact: in every reaserch ever done, higher % of men cheat in marriages than women. Men aspire to be players. The only thing that's stopping them is lack of options. Most women don't aspire to be players. 2
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Fact: in every reaserch ever done, higher % of men cheat in marriages than women. Men aspire to be players. The only thing that's stopping them is lack of options. Most women don't aspire to be players. Umm...what studies are we talking about? I'm pretty sure whatever studies there are having it almost even, with women cheaters on the rise. You also have to remember that women are FAR FAR less likely to admit to cheating than men are. But more women are open about sex these days so more are coming out and admitting they are cheating. I would say, overall, it's pretty much even. In my circle of friends and people I know, I can probably count more women that have cheated than men.
Drseussgrrl Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I know you are, every single woman on LS looks better at 50 than she did at 22. It's pretty magical. Not true. When I was 22 I looked young, and cute, of course. But since then I've had braces, put down the taco bell and cigs and started working out. Plus I'm not a total dipsh*t like I was back then. Totally different kinda hot.
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 My wife, at 36, is better looking than when she was in high school and early 20s...and she was beautiful back then. Another one of my high school friends looks better now than she did back then. My best female friend looks pretty much exactly the same as she did when I first met her 16 years ago (she's the same age as me 38) and she's a hottie. Nope...don't buy it that women's looks fade faster than men's. It's just a matter of taking care of yourself. All the people I mentioned eat right (well...my wife just has a high metabolism), work out regularly, and have a healthy lifestyle. 2
SJC2008 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I can't say for sure who's more picky but where I live if one of the parties is chunky and the other is skinny it's more often than not that the guy is the skinny one. Source: MY EYES!
Bristolius Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Well, the good news is that today in most of the English speaking world, women don't need men. A hundred years and more ago women really did need the "protection and support" of a husband or father because they had no access to employment, and no voting or property rights. So you don't need what you don't want.
xxoo Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 When it comes to how you feel about your partner, you can't have high enough standards. I think men are looking for a woman who they feel "it" for. When they don't feel "it"....they don't feel it. They (or we) can attribute that to all sorts of things--but he may fall completely head over heels in love with another woman, with just as many flaws. When the chemistry and connection are there, standards fly out the window....
Negative Nancy Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Umm...what studies are we talking about? I'm pretty sure whatever studies there are having it almost even, with women cheaters on the rise. You also have to remember that women are FAR FAR less likely to admit to cheating than men are. But more women are open about sex these days so more are coming out and admitting they are cheating. I would say, overall, it's pretty much even. In my circle of friends and people I know, I can probably count more women that have cheated than men. How does that contradict what she said? In fact, it just proves what she said: men would like to be players and bed as many women as possible, but most of them can't. Doesn't mean they wouldn't if they had the chance.
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 How does that contradict what she said? In fact, it just proves what she said: men would like to be players and bed as many women as possible, but most of them can't. Doesn't mean they wouldn't if they had the chance. PEOPLE like to have sex. PEOPLE cheat. Not men...not women. PEOPLE. Sheesh...why is this simple concept so hard for some to understand. 2
Drseussgrrl Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 PEOPLE like to have sex. PEOPLE cheat. Not men...not women. PEOPLE. Sheesh...why is this simple concept so hard for some to understand. Because it's easier to stay mad and blame the opposite sex for the reasons you're single. 3
Radu Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 So this must be how it is to be a woman reading a thread on LS about women having high standards. Interesting lesson. You have made some interesting points here OP, but i'm afraid i don't buy it. High standards are goooood. Be it man or woman, high standards are awesome, because high standards make us strive for improvement considering how hardwired we all are for sex. High standards [or standards for that matter] means that you respect yourself, and ppl love ppl who respect themselves. As long as those same standards are also realistic off-course.
PogoStick Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Thanks for trying to insult me. I am 5'4 115 lbs with measurements 35-25-36 last time I measured myself for a bridesmaid dress 2 months ago. I participate in marathons and triathalons, but not obsessively, and eat healthy and work out 3-5 times a week. You dont believe me? send me your email address I am 25 and get told Im nice, sweet, caring all the time by people in real life. I picked an underpaid "helping profession" to go into because I like helping people. I do not pursue guy's above my own level...if anything I go for BELOW my level but not insanely below Ok, so you're fit and a sweet gal; so what's the problem? You must have a healthy selection of men to choose from. I'm not insulting you. I'm responding to your post. If you already are the kind of girl that guys are interested in then I don't get why you would have problems with men.
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 "if anything I go for BELOW my level" perhaps THIS is the problem. 1
Author pbjbear Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 "if anything I go for BELOW my level" perhaps THIS is the problem. Sorry but there arent too many guys around me who are attractive, smart AND nice If I go for my level I would never have dated...which is what I have been doing lately and should have done all along
Drseussgrrl Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Ok, so you're fit and a sweet gal; so what's the problem? You must have a healthy selection of men to choose from. I'm not insulting you. I'm responding to your post. If you already are the kind of girl that guys are interested in then I don't get why you would have problems with men. This is just a shot in the dark, but I'm guessing it has something to do with her attitude and her overall opinion of men in general. People on here always say, "Oh but I don't voice these opinions to my dates" but I swear up and down it's an energy you put out there.
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Sorry but there arent too many guys around me who are attractive, smart AND nice If I go for my level I would never have dated...which is what I have been doing lately and should have done all along Wow. You certainly don't sound like a douche. Not in the least. That was sarcasm, btw. And yes, women can be douches.
TheGuard13 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I'm kind of curious what standards women have these days. Any ladies want to chime in on that? What do you look for in a man?
Author pbjbear Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Wow. You certainly don't sound like a douche. Not in the least. That was sarcasm, btw. And yes, women can be douches. Well there arent. The vast majority of men I dated became mean after some time passed, and no, none of them were "players" or "womanizers" I am not overreacting, several people close to me commented on their behavior so I highly doubt it was me being super sensitive. I think men in NYC are very very different than the men on this site
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Well there arent. The vast majority of men I dated became mean after some time passed, and no, none of them were "players" or "womanizers" I am not overreacting, several people close to me commented on their behavior so I highly doubt it was me being super sensitive. I think men in NYC are very very different than the men on this site I'd rather be single than be with someone I didn't like. Maybe you NOT dating is a good thing if you only date people you don't view as your "equal".
Author pbjbear Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 I'd rather be single than be with someone I didn't like. Maybe you NOT dating is a good thing if you only date people you don't view as your "equal". Sorry I offended you by stating I am a nice person who ends up dating people who turn out to be mean.
KungFuJoe Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Sorry I offended you by stating I am a nice person who ends up dating people who turn out to be mean. Why would I be offended? You must have missed the tone of my post. I was just simply agreeing with you.
Imajerk17 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 (edited) I haven't read the whole thread, I'm answering the original thread question. 1. I'm not going to date someone with whom I'm not feeling it with. I mean what's the point? I'm in no rush to have kids--I'm a guy so there's (basically) no biological clock for me. I've discovered that in the end, dating someone you aren't feeling it with leads to BOTH parties end up getting hurt. 2. Related to 1. I'm fine being single. I'd be happier in a great relationship sure, but I'd be LESS happy than I would be as a single guy in a not-great relationship--see 1. above. 3. As far as "picky" I don't go around evaluating my dates with a score-card. For myself it is whether I am attracted to them and whether we are compatible. There aren't too many women who make the cut for me though. 4. There's only one person I can be exclusive with at any time so I want to pick the best person out there for me. There has to be enough attraction so that neither of us tempted to cheat every time each of us goes to the grocery store or to the gym, for one thing. Just as everyone else wants to do likewise for themselves. 5. I've also read the horror stories of bad marriages on here and in real life. I'd rather be single and celibate than have to deal with that. I put down 5 things that came to mind but I'm sure I could make this 10 things. Answer your question? Edited January 23, 2013 by Imajerk17 3
PogoStick Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 There are no shortage of women looking to cheat. I've meet about 1-2 a year recently, and in every case it's the woman on the hunt. 1. Overweight, impotent husband. Woman just wanted sex. 2. Husband traveled for work, left the woman with lots of opportunity. Just wanted sex. 3. A client of mine, saying she had an open relationship (not true). Think this had more emotional context but I refused to get involved. 4. Old childhood friend told me about her affair because she's frustrated by her husband's drug problems. She seeks out sex even though the sex life at home is healthy. 5. My brother's wife had an affair and he's as good of a guy as any. Solely supported the family (3 kids) for 8+ years while wife went through med school. 6. Multiple women in weird married but separated situations, or divorced but still living together. Maybe not strictly cheating but suspect. When guys cheat they are opportunists, but when women cheat it's still the guy's fault for not meeting her needs? And let me guess, it's also the "other man's" fault for participating? Nope, I won't be pigeon-holed into being the lesser half of humanity. 1
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