Babolat Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 After doing a lot of research and a lot of thinking I have come to realize I have been codependent in my current relationship and maybe even my last one. I found a book that has helped sooo much, Codependent No More. The first 4+ chapters are incredible. And, it's my guess that over 50% of the poster here have this same issue; so I encourage you to research what this is and ask yourself some hard question, and then change. Easier said then done I know. People do not change...let me repeat that, people do not change...unluess THEY want to. Take care of yourself first! 2
Emilia Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Second that Babolat, very pleased that you are identifying these challenges. Well done and hope it helps with future relationships. I'm on the same path. 1
Author Babolat Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Second that Babolat, very pleased that you are identifying these challenges. Well done and hope it helps with future relationships. I'm on the same path. Thanks I am reading about Detachment and wondering if I can do this and stay in my current relationship. One of my challenges is reaction, reacting to my feelings of a behavior that upsets me and letting her see those feelings, that reaction. Which I now know is a form of control by m e. In some cases detachment not only helps the codepednent one, it also helps the other person in the relationship...just pondering. 1
Emilia Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 In some cases detachment not only helps the codepednent one, it also helps the other person in the relationship...just pondering. That's more in depth than I would know
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