irc333 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Hm, I had a good thing going with a certain lady, we went out a few times, she was really into me, even bought me a drink and showed great interest in me. Then I went to ask her out again, all of a sudden I get, "I am not sure what I have going on this weekend, so I will give you a maybe" GEE, how big of her.
monicaelise Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Sounds like she discovered something about you she doesn't particularly like. That's how it goes sometimes.
Author irc333 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Sounds like she discovered something about you she doesn't particularly like. That's how it goes sometimes. Probably not, otherwise she would not have agreed to our date and would've said something about us not moving anywhere dating-wise and not have flaked out at the last moment.
monicaelise Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Probably not, otherwise she would not have agreed to our date and would've said something about us not moving anywhere dating-wise and not have flaked out at the last moment. If you already know the answer, then why post the question? Women don't really run hot and cold any more than men do as a rule. We don't always tell you when we're losing interest however.
iris219 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 That's what dating is for. To discover if you are really into the person. It sounds like she put forth effort to get to know you and decided dating you wasn't for her. It's not that you did anything wrong; you just weren't right for each other. Also, she may have met someone else.
Author irc333 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 That's what dating is for. To discover if you are really into the person. It sounds like she put forth effort to get to know you and decided dating you wasn't for her. It's not that you did anything wrong; you just weren't right for each other. Also, she may have met someone else. I'm thinking the latter, she might be some kind of multi-dater. She said she hasn't been in any kind of exclusive relationship for 3 years. She's been divorced since 1999. She has been in relationships since that time, but, like I said, hadn't been in anything exclusive for 3 years. Just curious, should I come back with, "Hm, got somethin' else better going on this weekend that I only get a 'maybe' for?"
monicaelise Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I'm thinking the latter, she might be some kind of multi-dater. She said she hasn't been in any kind of exclusive relationship for 3 years. She's been divorced since 1999. She has been in relationships since that time, but, like I said, hadn't been in anything exclusive for 3 years. Just curious, should I come back with, "Hm, got somethin' else better going on this weekend that I only get a 'maybe' for?" Only if you want to look like a total dick and turn her off entirely. You don't know what the deal is at this point. You might want to cool your jets a bit. Even if she is a multi-dater (like you...I believe you posted about this previously) and has found someone else, she's moving you out of the rotation for a reason.
Author irc333 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Only if you want to look like a total dick and turn her off entirely. You don't know what the deal is at this point. You might want to cool your jets a bit. Even if she is a multi-dater (like you...I believe you posted about this previously) and has found someone else, she's moving you out of the rotation for a reason. That was rare occasion, I had a 2nd woman, that I only met online, but I pretty much figured since she lived a good distance away, AND she was just merely an online date, didn't think it would go anywhere...she actually ended it because she figured that the distance didn't work out well. I hardly have dates lined up otherwise, so that was just a fluke.
monicaelise Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Forgive my ignorance, but what is an "online date"? I don't want to derail the thread, but I've never heard of an actual date that wasn't face to face. Guess I'm just out of the loop lol! I wasn't judging you for multi-dating btw, just making a point. People do it. If you happen to be rotated out, it's best to exercise a little decorum and leave things amicably. Sending snide messages just makes you look like a giant baby.
pbjbear Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 For the same reasons why men run hot and cold.
harnold Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Just curious, should I come back with, "Hm, got somethin' else better going on this weekend that I only get a 'maybe' for?" What? Don't send that. You sound super clingy.
carhill Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 OP, think of it this way. Each moment is discreet. There is no relevant connection between them, as far as interest goes. If happen to run across someone who shows interest over many moments, gift. Try it sometime.
clia Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Hm, I had a good thing going with a certain lady, we went out a few times, she was really into me, even bought me a drink and showed great interest in me. Then I went to ask her out again, all of a sudden I get, "I am not sure what I have going on this weekend, so I will give you a maybe" Another guy who doesn't realize that the purpose of dating is to find out whether or not you like someone enough to keep dating them. Just because you make it to date three or four doesn't mean you have automatically qualified for dates five through twenty. It doesn't work that way. She liked you enough to go out with you a few times, then she discovered some "dealbreaker to her" that made her lose interest. Or she met someone else she liked better and chose to focus on him. That is what dating is all about. And men do it, too. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Be a big boy and give her at least one maybe before making it a crisis. It shows that your not an obsessive co-dependent stalker type who feels entitled to all of her time. 1
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