LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 LOL so I got an email from my ex's brother today. He told me he is giving me 24 hours to take anything down on twitter or youtube that has my ex in it. Or else he will call his lawyers. Now if I'm not mistaken.. if a person takes a photo with you and it's public, and it's online. I don't think they can do anything. I mean she SAW the pics before, so how can you just say take it all down all of a sudden. There is NO cursing or anything either in it. In fact there is no abuse at all and I don't get why he says I am abusing his sis? I am tlaking to some lawyers right now, and so far the news is he can't do anything to me. TO be honest if he had asked NICELY without threatening me with legal action. I probably would've take it down no questions asked. But I don't like it when people threaten another. I mean he could say "could you please remove any things relavent with my sister on the net that you added". And I would've done it. But to some out and say I know your not stupid enough to do the wrong thing and if you do I'll contact my lawyers.. bad way to make things happen. Funny because she said he is disappointed in me? well I'm diassapointed in him. They acted like he liked me and then when we BU he just tosses me aside too. He never once check up on me or even helped out in any way. In fact the time we BU he never even replied to me. Anyway I removed some stuff on twitter. I haven't touch the stuff on youtube, but I deleted her name that was tagged. I don't think I will be removing the youtube stuff especially since he has to be so rude about it. I don't know how he can afford a lawyer and go through all that trouble to get me to take down a few pictures.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 That's ridiculous. Why does she have to care anymore. it's nothing to go all law about. If she wanted that just ask herself. why put so much effort it. Crazy... At least you know she cares that much
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 That's ridiculous. Why does she have to care anymore. it's nothing to go all law about. If she wanted that just ask herself. why put so much effort it. Crazy... At least you know she cares that much Well her bro said it was him.. he said he saw her video slide show I posted and wants it taken down. I guess it's because if you search my ex's name on google it leads you to a video slideshow of us. So technically if anyone saw it.. then they would see us. I personally don't care if someone sees me in it. At least I can say I loved someone, who just cheated on me and threw me away like garbage.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Well her bro said it was him.. he said he saw her video slide show I posted and wants it taken down. I guess it's because if you search my ex's name on google it leads you to a video slideshow of us. So technically if anyone saw it.. then they would see us. I personally don't care if someone sees me in it. At least I can say I loved someone, who just cheated on me and threw me away like garbage. Could never forgive for cheating. Theres nothing in the world that would make me do that.her brother shouldn't butt in. She's te one that hurt you. You didn't do anything to her. I don't know why his all bitter about it. I would be so sorry for what my sister did. and yeah feeling like garbage really doesn't make you feel good
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Could never forgive for cheating. Theres nothing in the world that would make me do that.her brother shouldn't butt in. She's te one that hurt you. You didn't do anything to her. I don't know why his all bitter about it. I would be so sorry for what my sister did. and yeah feeling like garbage really doesn't make you feel good yeah the day I told him how can you support your sis after what she did.. he never replied back to me. The thing that pissed me off is he NEVER once said anything. Least he coulda said is I'm sorry for what's happened give it time and i'll talk to her too. But nothing... and to be honest he doesn't care much for her. My ex always told me her family never really cared. I guess he's butting in either, because my ex doesn't want to talk to me, so she gets her bro to do it. otherwise how else did he get my email address to contact me? he must have gotten it from her. I've also kept my cool so far I have NOT emailed him back. I had a lot to say, at first some mean stuff, then some polite stuff. But I think it's best I say nothing.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 yeah the day I told him how can you support your sis after what she did.. he never replied back to me. The thing that pissed me off is he NEVER once said anything. Least he coulda said is I'm sorry for what's happened give it time and i'll talk to her too. But nothing... and to be honest he doesn't care much for her. My ex always told me her family never really cared. I guess he's butting in either, because my ex doesn't want to talk to me, so she gets her bro to do it. otherwise how else did he get my email address to contact me? he must have gotten it from her. I've also kept my cool so far I have NOT emailed him back. I had a lot to say, at first some mean stuff, then some polite stuff. But I think it's best I say nothing. Yep that's the best. It would get him wondering and checking everyday! but damn people like that frustrate me bad. Why why why. I don't get it. Don't just do **** cause someone tells you to! Think for yourself. Know what's right and wrong. Don't be a puppet for someone.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Well from what my lawyer friend told me... if you take a picture and both of you are in it and in a public space and smiling.. and it's on the web. Then technically you are giving permission to use the image. It also depends on WHO took the image I think, but if you distribute it to others I think they have rights to it too. Like I said if my ex's bro came out nicely and said hey can you please remove the images my sis is upset. I'd have done it, because at least he is being nice about it. But to come out and threaten me with legal action etc.. I don't appreciate that very much at all. And in fact it makes me NOT want to take it down. I did take all the twitter stuff down, because the account is one under her name that we used. So I just deactivated the whole thing. I have NOT taken the youtube slideshow stuff down. That was under my own account and there is nothing rude or slander in it at all. Just shows her name and mines.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Yeah, he can't do s--t legally. Thing is I bet you forgot that those pictures/videos were even up.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Yeah, he can't do s--t legally. Thing is I bet you forgot that those pictures/videos were even up. yeah I did.. well when I saw them a few months back I was gonna delete them. But then left it and now yeah I forgot about it. The only thing left up from what I can find on google is the slideshow pic of her and me on our vacation and some parties we went too. No offensive material of any sort, so I don't know what he is talking about. But I will say I'm not scared of the guy. I had a lot of respect for him and he showed he never once gave a ****.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 I guess right now I am trying hard and fighting hard to NOT reply to him. There is A LOT I wanna say to him. Such as how he accuses me of abusing his sister after the BU? I never wrote any abuse and if pictures are posted online.. that's not my problem. And how he says he wont sit and watch his sister get insulted? LOL the guy sits in his bed watching movies all day and then asks my ex to buy him mcdonalds at night? At least thats what my ex would tell me and how he never would pick her up when she needed a ride from school. The guts from him to actually come out like this and say all this stuff. It's sad his sister can't even tell me herself in a polite way. Well now my ex can have a fun birthday in the next few days.. because I won't be budging. As far as I can see they can't do anything, as I am not stalking her, following her, posting any dirty pics, threatening her etc.. I haven't even had any contact and as for our school I saw her once and walked away.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Well, at least this gives you even more closure. Your ex is a coward and her brother is a dumbass. I'd say don't respond and eventually delete, but leave them up for a while just to mess with him a bit
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Well, at least this gives you even more closure. Your ex is a coward and her brother is a dumbass. I'd say don't respond and eventually delete, but leave them up for a while just to mess with him a bit yeah I'll be honest I hate them even more. I mean at first I was hurt, because it meant that there was NO way she was missing me or would want to talk. It meant that it's really fully over forever.. unfixable. And I guess it's given me closure to say that her and her family is messed. I always accepted them and in fact her family was a different religion and I still was respectful. But them? never.. my ex made many racial comments before and I let it go. I guess this shows their real side. What's sad is her sister is messed up too. She dates a guy, who was supposed to marry her and then he insults her whole family and parents face to face. The her sis takes him back after a few months. No offence, but if someone dissed my parents I'd be done.. and I'm glad her side is messed up like that... I guess today I realize my dad was right.. just thank god she left you, because now you can find someone better than her and don't have to suffer.
cavalier99 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Ha. That is hilarious. They sound like losers. You dodged a bullet with this one. Just keep on talking with those girls at school! Rock on! Cav 1
Radu Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Heh, sounds like the request came from his sister, and not him. So good that you deleted the twitter, but i would still leave traces on google that leads to what she is trying to have forgotten. If it was legal, i would also make a page with the slideshow detailing why the relationship never worked. But I went through 3 cheating gf's like your ex, so i know what getting nice can get you with her type.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Oh I can tell you now they are losers. Least thing her bro could do is been nice. If he had done that in the email, I'd have felt bad and just wiped it all. But since he's gotta threaten me, well he pushed it to far. I'm leaving the YouTube slideshow and there is just a title with our first names. No offensive material, so I don't think he can do much. Nor has my ex contacted me directly to remove it.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Heh, sounds like the request came from his sister, and not him. So good that you deleted the twitter, but i would still leave traces on google that leads to what she is trying to have forgotten. If it was legal, i would also make a page with the slideshow detailing why the relationship never worked. But I went through 3 cheating gf's like your ex, so i know what getting nice can get you with her type. Well he said he found it himself online searching on twitter and YouTube and google. But he must have told my ex otherwise how did he get my email address lol from her probably. What do you mean by getting nice with her type? That being nice doesn't help?
Radu Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Yes, it doesn't work with her type from your description of her. Ppl like her can only look up to someone or look down on someone. I suspect the request came from her one way or the other. And because it potentially bothers her, i would leave it up [if legally possible]. Women tend to be very socially consciencious. By that i mean, they are very much aware of the social order that ppl live on. That stuff out there, potentially decreases her value, it's undeniable proof that she 'was with another'. Another that she wronged, another that could be identified and who might potentially spill the beans on what she did. So this request [if fulfilled], can only help her. Helping someone who screwed me over and broke my heart, is not a thing i should do in my book.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 first time i have questions instead of answer. are you or him gay? are you hiding something? did you do something before things got like this? cause i dont think you broke up in a nice way. and that they just woke up one day and tell you to take them downn /. and you sound like you have fun in this so maybe you where poking her some way that they got mad at you. be a men and clean your mess.and move on. if you get a new gf this stuff gonna look bad on to you. and i think she needs to deal with her own issues. instead of asking his bro to do it. it was her that messed with you. but maybe she tried the nice way but you kept fooling around about it and did not take them serious? and beside if its over why would you keep any stuff about it . deleting them should be your wish 2! Well he didn't know about it eg the pics So he must have seen them or my ex did. As for our bu it was messy near the end. I'm not having fun since I would've taken it all down later on at some point ifi saw it myself. But since he had to be so rude it's just making me want to keep it up now. Like I said it's just pictures. There is no swearing or anything bad towards me or my ex. Ill decide tmrw if I will take the YouTube slideshow down or not. But as of now I have no plans for it. I rather not show that they can bully me like this and try to scare me. If they want things done then they need to talk nicely
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Yes, it doesn't work with her type from your description of her. Ppl like her can only look up to someone or look down on someone. I suspect the request came from her one way or the other. And because it potentially bothers her, i would leave it up [if legally possible]. Women tend to be very socially consciencious. By that i mean, they are very much aware of the social order that ppl live on. That stuff out there, potentially decreases her value, it's undeniable proof that she 'was with another'. Another that she wronged, another that could be identified and who might potentially spill the beans on what she did. So this request [if fulfilled], can only help her. Helping someone who screwed me over and broke my heart, is not a thing i should do in my book. Well from what my lawyers friends have said. There should be no problem with the content. The images are ones I took therefore I own them. And if someone takes it for you in public then it's free to use aswell. Also with it being posted on YouTube I think they also own it now
TopCat22 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Legally I don't think there is anything they could do. Even if they could, are they seriously going to spend all that money on lawyers to fight it? It could never get to litigation because of the costs involved, so don't let them try and frighten you with talk of legal action. I would simply tell her brother to stop harrassing you. Then ignore both of them.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Well I didn't sleep as well last night knowing about it all. Kinda stressed me out. I guess what hit me hard is how we went from an awesome relationship to this war of hate. It's sad because our siblings were close and now they have become each others enemies. Anyway, I was debating on just getting rid of it all and them once and for all. I just don't like being threatened by someone and scared into doing something. As I said if he had politely said it without threatening me any legal action, and saying other rude comments at the end of the email. I would've been respectful enough to him and just got rid of it all. I guess I don't like the fact that he thinks it's okay for his sis to do what ever she wishes and he won't say a thing. But when it comes to me he will say and do anything. Anyway I agree I don't think there is much he can do. And anyways, if the video is on youtube why doesn't he contact youtube to remove it? Heck he even could've contacted twitter to remove the stuff earlier too. I get he wants me to do it, because it's easier. But at least have the decency to KNOW how to SPEAK to someone.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Well.. I decided to take down the youtube video.. at least for now. I guess I realized I don't want to have ANY part to do with my ex or her family. I guess for once I want to GET AWAY from her and her family. I guess I know maybe how annoyed she felt of me when we BU and I bugged her. She just wanted to get away from me and wanted it to be over. I feel the same right now. I rather take all the **** down and offline. Then to deal with her family and her. It seems annoying just to hear from anyone related to her. And, I don't have it in me to fight anyone any more. I just want it all to end. So even though they think they can scare me and all with lawyers and might even be laughing at how they think they scared me and I pussyed out. I think it's worth it to to end it knowing I don't have to hear from them again. Tough because I do want to teach them a lesson too. But I realized this relationship has turned amazing to total chaos and hell. And I rather not fight this any further now. I want to be done. Funny thing is I noticed when I woke up today the youtube video had about 40+ more viewers watching it? and someone clicked the dislike button? LOL I wonder if her bro is either getting people to report it by different people to get it taken down. Or it's being displayed somewhere else or some one is watching it over and over. No way I ever would get 40-50 views within a few hours and a dislike too. Anyway it's over and done... I've taken it off. If they start **** with me again I'll put it back up. For now I listed it as private so only I can view it.
TheGuard13 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Having worked in insurance, where you get threatened with lawyers all day long...you know what the best response to gauge someone who is threatening you with a lawyer is? "Ok. Have your attorney call me, and we'll talk". People threatening to "lawyer up" can be a sign of weakness in negotiations. It's kind of sad more than anything.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Having worked in insurance, where you get threatened with lawyers all day long...you know what the best response to gauge someone who is threatening you with a lawyer is? "Ok. Have your attorney call me, and we'll talk". People threatening to "lawyer up" can be a sign of weakness in negotiations. It's kind of sad more than anything. Yeah to be honest he can't do anything. In fact he has no involvement within the video. It's between me and my ex. And if I had been posting images of her that were inappropriate I could see him coming after me. But there is nothing rude about my video at all. I understand maybe my ex doesn't want a video online. Because if someone sees it.. well people will know it's an ex or she was with someone else. So I guess it might be bad in that sense. But personally it shouldn't matter if she is already with someone else. As for the lawyer thing.. I was thinking of that.. I know it's a bluff and NO WAY he spends all that money to take me to court etc.. and have the video removed. I was thinking of telling him that I will make no comments, and he can provide me details to his lawyer and I will pass it onto mines. But then I realized I just don't want to deal with them. I'm sure they will come up with some other way to bug me. Maybe they will post something of me.. who knows. It's just not worth it considering I want to be done and she is already done. he has no playing cards so hes pulling the lawyer thing. I could be an assole back and bring the lawyer thing up. But I don't want to sink to their level now.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I think you've thought about this a lot more than you've needed to. He's a douche, she's a coward, it's a non-issue. Moving on.
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