Relationship ended 14 months ago and i am still completely heartbroken.

[Jacqueline40]

Hey guys,

 

Im 22 years old and 14 almost 15 months ago i ended my 4 and a half year relationship with my boyfriend...he was my be all and end all, i would have done literally anything for him, i stuck by him no matter what, his mum didnt particularly like me because she felt i was taking her son away from her, she was horrible to me at times but never once was i rude to her, but i always told him how much she upset me but it was his mum and there was nothing he could do, that wasnt what split us up tho, he was forever lying to me and letting me down, i felt i give so much more than i got back i longed so much for him to love me the way i loved him, i felt ugly unattractive and so unwanted he never said anything to make me think these things it was more his actions, i know now he loved me but he missed out on his youth, we wer 17 when we started going out and we lived for each other when i met him i knew in my heart he was the one, so many signs it was meant to be, but i got tired of being let down and feeling the way i did that i ended it, n told him never to come back...he never did ive met him on nights out, i told him i did it because i wanted him to fight for me but he never, he z he missed out and didnt want to get back together, or just tried to get rid of me...then he started writing status's on facebook about how he miss spent his youth and how he couldnt wait to move away to austrailia which broke my heart because that was one of our plans to go together, but my dad was diagnosed with cancer and i didntt want to leave cos my dad is my hero....i used to feel we still had mutual respect for one and other but now im not so sure with his hurtful comments, all i know is ive tried so hard ive done everything in my power to try and move forward but i cant even after he told me he didnt love me anymore i just cant let him go i dont think i will ever love anyone the way i loved him and its killing me that he is going to australia which is a million miles away and has moved on so fast and all i am is a distant memory, does it ever get easier??

[juliabrookes]

I have to commend you for recognizing that you were unhappy in your relationship. This shows great strength. I want you to know that you will fall in love again because you deserve to be loved.

 

You have every right to feel hurt because this guy is someone special to you. You grew up with him in a sense. I had a high school boyfriend I was with for 6years. I was madly in love with him, but he really needed time to grow up and experience life. I was always on the back burner to his friends, but he was so in love with me. I knew deep down that we weren't for eachother because he could not meet my needs. I still care for him now even though it has been well over 7 years of our breakup.

 

During that time I found my true self without him. I was able to find out what true love really was. Yes you may have to cry a few tears, but you will be ok.

 

Trust in your initial choice, it is the best decision for you. Never settle, you will always become unhappy when you compromise your own values and standards.