chickenlegs Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 3 months on, and nothing. She told me she would let me know "when she was ready to talk." This is getting ridiculous. She broke it off and immediately ceased speaking with me, after 1.5 years. Three days after saying she wanted to marry me. Should i break contact? I am not looking to rekindle anything. Just want to hear her be awful once more, after time has passed and I can accept who she has decided to become. I have never heard of this kind of thing; always experienced or been friends with people who had some contact, even if the dumper/dumpee was friggin insane. Any ideas?
pitprincess Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 I have heard of it before.. I knew a guy and girl that dated for 2 years. One day the guy desided that he wanted out. Never made contact again. Some folks just think its easier to not talk to them again. Maybe someone else can offer you more advice.
sinkerswim Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 I understand where you are coming from. I was in the same boat you are...sort of. I was with my boyfriend./fiance for 8 years... 8 years!! And one day back in February..he needed "space"...but would talk to me when he was ready. That day never came. I tried to get him to talk to me and nothing. I was extremely depressed and felt suicidal. Everything seemed fine up until we had a small arguement which triggered him needing "space". 6 months have passed and in all those months I never got the closure or talk. I did see him for the first time last week and I really still got no answers. Im heartbroken....We were supposed to get married and spend our lives together. Ive been on medication and seeing a therapist over all of this. So, I know how it feels when you think you are to be with the person you think you are meant to be with. All I can say to you is... just try to contact her. You might get an answer. Give it a shot. Call her up...write to her. whatever. I wish you the best of luck.
doubledown Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 I wouldn't contact her, and yes this happens all of the time. Just read almost any of the post-ers on this board. I see it happening more often to men than women. They (some girls) say they love you the most right before they dump you. I think it's their way to assure that you stick around after she dumps you. If someone really loved you, would/could they go 3 months w/o seeing or talking to you? Do you really want to be with someone like that? She made her choice, now she has to live with it whether she wants to or not. Who knows? She may be happier now than she was with you. Do you really want to find that out? Move on, believe me I know how hard it is, almost seems impossible at times. But didn't you current EX take your mind off of all your other bad relationships in the past? The same thing will happen again. Until then we think about our EX's, but that can all change in one day. Good luck.
manofmystrey Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 Look at this way, you did what u could for her and in the end she walked away. You have nothing to feel bad about. My ex one day just sent me a email and told me she was with someone else and we were together for 7 years. But you know what she got hers in the end as well cause the guy she left me for, left her for someone else. So u see what goes around comes around. It hurts that shows you are human. But just let her go dude and in time you will see that this all happned for the right reason. Plus what would u say to her after 3 months of nothing? You are better off with out her cause if should could not care enough to even see how u are doing she was/is not worth the time or the effort you would put into any relationship with this girl.
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