na49 Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Everyone freaking says that when they're in a relationship. I've only been in one relationship but in how many relationships does one of the people say "I love you right now. I might not love you a year from now when I find someone I like more though" So I guess it's our fault for believing them when they say they'll "Love us forever". because we see ourselves loving them forever, so it seems like the perfect storm.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I know. Ultimately, I know. OJ loved Nicole...all relationships end? Yeah. I know. I didn't always know that (well, apart from ending in death of course). My parents have been married for 35 years. My grandparents were married until the died. They've been lucky and the right combination / individual personality types I guess to make their relationships last. So...aside from death, you still believe most relationships don't last? That people will always fall out of love and their feelings will change? I actually believe this. I no longer believe in forever love. Even my ex...he would tell me "forever" and that he'd "never" leave me and we'd NEVER fall out of love or become "bored"...HAH! I NEVER believed that. I knew our feelings would change at some point. I don't understand how some people just refuse to accept that. Who are you talking to with this?
Author stevie_23 Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 OJ Loved Nicole, is who I was talking to for the majority of the post. The very first sentence I was talking to you.
MyAngel Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I don't think you should tell her stevie. Telling her would relieve you of your guilt but it will destroy her and possibly your relationship. Don't tell her, especially if you are determined not to get involved in an affair again. Your affair is over now - move on from it and leave it in the past. You are not broken or damaged goods. Affairs happen, and easily too if you allow it to. An affair is a choice that you have made, and if you truly want to turn this situation around, you will leave the other men behind and work on things with your gf. Give it a chance, and if you are still in satisfied and unfulfilled then you probably need to leave her and find what you've been searching for.
MyAngel Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 Everyone freaking says that when they're in a relationship. I've only been in one relationship but in how many relationships does one of the people say "I love you right now. I might not love you a year from now when I find someone I like more though" So I guess it's our fault for believing them when they say they'll "Love us forever". because we see ourselves loving them forever, so it seems like the perfect storm. Yep, everyone says forever. My ex did. Look where that went Haha.... It's only forever if TWO people want it that way. You can never rely on someone else's version of forever.
Author stevie_23 Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 THANK YOU!!! I also don't think telling her would help the situation, or her. If I intended to move out or move on from her or be with someone else or be alone, then of course I'd have to tell her...but in the situation as it stands? I don't think it'd be for the best. And it's NOT about me being alone if she left me either, as a result. I would be willing to accept that. It's purely about not wanting to hurt HER and disrupt HER life.
Author stevie_23 Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 You can never rely on someone else's version of forever. THIS. I shall use this quote in the future.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 I don't think you should tell her stevie. Telling her would relieve you of your guilt but it will destroy her and possibly your relationship. Don't tell her, especially if you are determined not to get involved in an affair again. Your affair is over now - move on from it and leave it in the past. You are not broken or damaged goods. Affairs happen, and easily too if you allow it to. An affair is a choice that you have made, and if you truly want to turn this situation around, you will leave the other men behind and work on things with your gf. Give it a chance, and if you are still in satisfied and unfulfilled then you probably need to leave her and find what you've been searching for. I completely disagree with this point of view 1000 percent but I think I've made that known so I will just agree to disagree.
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