Bill_M Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Hi, There's an Italian girl at work who for ages I've liked but she had a boyfriend. I recently have been getting to know her more and she never mentions the boyfriend at all. She has started giving me lessons in Italian one on one and it's great. She asked me to the pub after work the other day but really quietly so as not to allow anyone else to come, and we had a good laugh, it's the second time I've been to the pub with her. She kept making comments about being on her own, like cooking for one, for example. She did quite a lot of leaning in when I leaned in too. Also when we parted she gave me a kiss on the cheek which she didn't do the first time we went to the pub. Am I reading too much into this or is she into me, my main issue is that I don't know if she still has a boyfriend or not because she never mentions him and at the beginning of our 'friendship' he would come to the pub after work when a few of us went but now he doesn't...I'm confused, what can I do?
aussietigerwolf Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 hahaha I have a similar problem with an italian guy, however I know he's single.
Author Bill_M Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 There is obviously attraction. How much though, enough to make some sort of move?
KraftDinner Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Straight-up ask about the boyfriend. Her reaction should tell you a lot. Sounds like she's interested.
Author Bill_M Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Well there were loads of signs yesterday at work, she was quite touchy-feely, lots of bumping into each other and rubbing my hand...seems all good!
chrisftw Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 In my experience and from what I gauged from other friends which I somewhat 'polled' women don't mention men or boyfriends for two reasons. Either they're in a relationship and its going south. OR She's into you Women who are happy in their relationships bring up the the. Boyfriend in passing conversation. You say you like a car. She casually mentions her boyfriend likes mustangs. OR If she wasn't Intrested. She would casually bring up other men. Or dump her emotional baggage on you about her boyfriend. I'm pretty positive this chick at least has an attraction to you. Would you kiss somebody on the cheek in a social environment that you didn't know and weren't attracted to?
truth_seeker Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 In my experience and from what I gauged from other friends which I somewhat 'polled' women don't mention men or boyfriends for two reasons. Either they're in a relationship and its going south. OR She's into you Women who are happy in their relationships bring up the the. Boyfriend in passing conversation. You say you like a car. She casually mentions her boyfriend likes mustangs. OR If she wasn't Intrested. She would casually bring up other men. Or dump her emotional baggage on you about her boyfriend. ^^^Exactly! Women who have boyfriends but act like they don't have one means they are giving you an opening. Just got to be careful they're not serial cheaters.
Author Bill_M Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 Well we chatted today and it was really quite confusing, she chatted about him but wasn't very clear on whether they were together or not. The weird thing is that he's never around, there's no trace of him anyway, not even Facebook. I can't figure it out! I might have to bite the bullet at just tell her I like her and see what happens
Ladyxxx Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Where's the problem ? Mention you're single and ask her, is there a bf. Simple. In my day, it was called conversation, getting to know someone. Communication ! What a fantastic thing !
Astra5 Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Casually ask her.. "How are things with your boyfriend?".... she will likely confirm the relationship or lack of one with her response. Be honest and just ASK!!
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