puzzled1 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Okay so some of you guys have read my previous thread about whats going on with me ex. If you haven't, here is a back story. Ex broke up with me in October, had the gigs. Kept in touch with me and wanted to be friends. I said no to being friends and tried as much as I could to stay NC. She met me up crying and wanted me back after 1.5 month later. She gets into a relationship 3 weeks after meeting with me. She met me up crying and wanted me back but I said no. Kept calling and texting trying to stay in touch this whole time. She met me up around christmas for the 2nd time (while she has a bf) telling me she does not feel the same, she does not like it and kept in touch. Couple weeks ago she begs me again to take her back, I entertain the idea but she doesn't leave her bf. Last week she tells me she is breaking up with her bf, I cave in but she ends up going camping with him and his friends this weekend. (no contact the whole weekend) I said F this and was gonna not look back at her because she is obviously being a compulsive liar. She messaged me non stop yesterday. I ignored all the messages, and then last night, she calls me (I picked up because she called me from her work and I didnt have that number saved) She tells me that she is now def single and she misses me alot. Crying but not really trying to reconcile. I tell her whats on my mind and we talked for about an hour. Now she is making plans to go to dinner with me this week and I am trying to play hard to get but still agreeing to this for whatever reason. I don't know what to do. She told me last night that she feels alone without me. She said she wants things to be the way they were, she made a mistake about this whole thing blah blah blah... Input please, I cannot keep playing these games with her. Seems like she wants to keep me around till she finds another lover boy but then I think this whole time she has been trying to keep in touch with me while she gets her gigs out....
Amelie1980 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 What do you want? Do you want to try again?
Author puzzled1 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 What do you want? Do you want to try again? I do, but I need to know that she is fully committed. I don't want to get hurt again but I am having my doubts on if this is going to last or if I will end up in the same boat again. I like the single life too, I get to do whatever I want to without having to compensate for anyone. Hang out with whoever, meet new females, flirt, and honestly not giving a F. But it seems that whenever the ex comes into the picture, I go back to being a sweetheart and caring and frankly I feel like I am being walked on.
cavalier99 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) Ha. Don't even know what to say. Your just killing me man..I'm dying laughing. I know your going to play this one out so i just want to hear about it! Why don't you invite her over like right now and see if she shows? Lol I hope you at least get laid after all of this :lmao. This will be a great story in a few years however it ends..your making LS history! Good thing you seem to have a strong constitution or by now you would be destroyed. After all this back and forth are you at least feeling somewhat indifferent or in torment? Edited January 22, 2013 by cavalier99
Author puzzled1 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Ha. Don't even know what to say. Your just killing me man..I'm dying laughing. I know your going to play this one out so i just want to hear about it! Why don't you invite her over like right now and see if she shows? Lol I hope you at least get laid after all of this :lmao. This will be a great story in a few years however it ends..your making LS history! Good thing you seem to have a strong constitution or by now you would be destroyed. After all this back and for are you at least feeling somewhat indifferent or in torment? Lol, I am fu*king up! Now my ego is back up where it should be. We made plans for dinner on thursday and I was thinking about ditching her this time. I have plans with other friends to go out of town this weekend anyways so I wouldn't have to deal with her till next week. This girl truly describes "confused" lol I want a monogamous relationship but the thought even scares me now after whats happened. Yes, I do feel indifferent. I've felt that for weeks now, but I am still completely in love with her. Our compatibility level is out the roof. I haven't met anyone like her before....
cavalier99 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Have you though about conditions upon which you would let her get back with you. Like a big list that she signs in blood and checks off one by one with you watching! Including calling this guy with you there? Do you even want her back? How hot is she? She must be like a 12 out of 10 for you to go thru all this.
denxnis Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I know things would not be the same between my ex and I if we ever got back together. Knowing she had sex with another guy would always be in the back of my mind. Couple of my friends disagree and think it's ok to rebound. Ultimately you have to decide whether you could ever fully trust her again and disregard the fact that she fooled around with another guy... Personally I couldn't so I try not to look back.
Author puzzled1 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Have you though about conditions upon which you would let her get back with you. Like a big list that she signs in blood and checks off one by one with you watching! Including calling this guy with you there? Do you even want her back? How hot is she? She must be like a 12 out of 10 for you to go thru all this. Asked my brother and he verified that on facebook she just changed it back to single. I have not made a list yet but I guess thats what I will be talking about at dinner if I even end up going. She is very good looking. When we first got together she was way out of my league but since then she has changed alot and so have I. I know things would not be the same between my ex and I if we ever got back together. Knowing she had sex with another guy would always be in the back of my mind. Couple of my friends disagree and think it's ok to rebound. Ultimately you have to decide whether you could ever fully trust her again and disregard the fact that she fooled around with another guy... Personally I couldn't so I try not to look back. The weird thing is, I have had sex with 2 different girls and even though she was in a relationship, she has not had sex with him. I have told her about me sleeping with the other girls and she said she cannot believe I did that. I told her it didn't feel the same and I just thought of it as just a physical need. I need to write a book about our relationship lol
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