trevjim Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Ok something ive not found many answers on. Why would a girl, who is really insecure, has low self esteem, used to get really jelouse during your 2.5 year relationship, choose to be with a desperate and ugly but nice guy who will treat her like a princess but she she isnt in love with him? how can she go from being so extremely jelouse and loving with me to not wanting me anymore but wanting to be with a 'downgrade'? I treated her well, I satisfied her, we were both in love, or so i believed, we just argued so much i decided to end it and a day later she was hooking up with him and not wanting me back (yes i know i dumped her thats not my question)
KatZee Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 She's insecure. She obviously can't be alone, and she's obviously trying to make you feel jealous and hurt that she moved on immediately. She's doing this to try to hurt you as bad as you hurt her. Possibly trying to lure you back because of jealousy as well.
iouaname Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Truthfully, I wouldn't want to be with someone who thought of me as insecure, jealous, and lacking in self-esteem. Perhaps she picked up on the way you perceived her and feels more comfortable with someone who will think more highly of her? Also, you hurt her by dumping her and broke her trust. Even if she's in love with you and not in love with him, she no longer trusts you and probably does not want to get hurt again.
Coping Vortex Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Ok something ive not found many answers on. Why would a girl, who is really insecure, has low self esteem, used to get really jelouse during your 2.5 year relationship, choose to be with a desperate and ugly but nice guy who will treat her like a princess but she she isnt in love with him? how can she go from being so extremely jelouse and loving with me to not wanting me anymore but wanting to be with a 'downgrade'? I treated her well, I satisfied her, we were both in love, or so i believed, we just argued so much i decided to end it and a day later she was hooking up with him and not wanting me back (yes i know i dumped her thats not my question) My ex had a very low self esteem. You would think she would have clung to me. But.....it was the low self esteem that caused her to be swayed by a guy hitting on her in a bar. It made her feel good that some random guy was so interested in her. Next thing i know I am being dumped. She claims she met him 2 weeks after she broke up with me. No way. Low esteem work in mysterious ways. But it is deadly to relationship. Keep an eye out for it. 1
Author trevjim Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 My ex had a very low self esteem. You would think she would have clung to me. But.....it was the low self esteem that caused her to be swayed by a guy hitting on her in a bar. It made her feel good that some random guy was so interested in her. Next thing i know I am being dumped. She claims she met him 2 weeks after she broke up with me. No way. Low esteem work in mysterious ways. But it is deadly to relationship. Keep an eye out for it. I've heard that before when she would sleep around after we had a bust up 'its nice to feel wanted by a guy' surley she will get bored of this new guy if she doesnt love him and is just using him for positive attention? also I've been NC for weeks now (after a couple of trying to get her back unfortunately)and she hasnt tried to contact me so surley it can't be about tryin to make me jelouse?
Author trevjim Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 do these sort of insecure low self esteem girls get bored of their new relationships quickly if they are just using the person for security and ego boosting?
TopCat22 Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Girls with low self-esteem often validate themselves by the men they can attract. It doesn't matter if she loves him or not, she likes the feeling that she is a desirable female. It makes her feel some worth. Will it last. Probably not. She will latch on to the next guy that starts fawning over her and keep going on this cycle until she finally realises she is worh more or it crushes her spirit so much that she wants something else out of life. Either way there is nothing you can do. Leave her well alone and let her make her own decisions.
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