Harradin Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Most of you know my story. Start of the week, ex tells me her parents are getting divorced, she's really upset. I tell her I'm here for her if she needs it. She texts me a lot and I end up being round hers ever night keeping her company and just being there for her. Just before the weekend she tells me how grateful she is that I'm being there for her and how much she loves me. I go away for the weekend and she becomes distant, which never happens, assume its down to the divorce and not worry. Then on Monday she sends me a email, dumping me because she found someone else, this person happens to be a close "friend" of mine who I saw frequently as we ran events together for a club. Ironically the email was in my "friend's" writing style, I find out from mutual friends that he had made moves on her since the parents divorce, before he did, he also got his friend to send her messages asking about her relationship with me and basically trying to break us up. I left the "friend" a lovely voicemail message telling him never to contact me again and having a go asking why he would do such a thing. He made my ex believe that they were doing nothing wring and that the friends messages "wasn't trying to break us up." I'm positive he manipulated her out of the relationship as he is a very manipulative person, 2 faced and he backstabs without conscience. I was edging myself away from him as I originally reluctantly made friends with him(had a gut feeling that he wasn't quite right) then I realised he wasn't worth my friendship after I realised his true colours. Both him and my ex are on the club, I left because I was originally planning on leaving anyway. 4 months BU, 3 months NC with ex (thats a complicated story as sh*t happened since the BU.) But I keep feeling that he got away lightly, as he "took" my girlfriend and I just tell him to never contact me. I want to get even. I do judo and kickboxing so kicking the sh*t out of him will end up being me charged with assault/GBH and I would do some serious damage. I took the mature way out by telling him never to contact me again and leaving everything associated with them so I could heal. He hasn't tried any contact since the message. I need to get rid of these revenge thoughts as its killing me inside and making me angry. I'm not the forgiving type, I personally cannot forgive people so forgiveness is out. It just frustrates me that they both get away scot free (NC, pretty sure they might be still together as I would have probs heard about it if they did break up) when I did nothing wrong in the first place, I treated her like a princess, try and do the right thing and yet I got screwed over! It annoys me aswell that she would rather be manipulated then be in a relationship where we had an incredible connection, so abruptly without any reason as it seemed we were getting closer, the breakup was a shock to me (and mutual friends.) I needed to vent.
RogerWallace111 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Sock him in the face or something, but have some restraint. 1
Onionator Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 “If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.” - Sun Tzu Live by this. Every time I was angry at my ex and wanted nothing but revenge and to get even I looked at that quote. For me it only took about 2 months but...let's just karma got her...BAD....rest of her life ruined bad. 3
Author Harradin Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 Sock him in the face or something, but have some restraint. As much as I would love to, I couldn't trust myself to the one punch! “If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.” - Sun Tzu Live by this. Every time I was angry at my ex and wanted nothing but revenge and to get even I looked at that quote. For me it only took about 2 months but...let's just karma got her...BAD....rest of her life ruined bad. I'll keep it in mind, thanks . Tbh I'm on my way back up after I was knocked down, its just difficult when you get knocked down so brutually like I was.
Onionator Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 As much as I would love to, I couldn't trust myself to the one punch! I'll keep it in mind, thanks . Tbh I'm on my way back up after I was knocked down, its just difficult when you get knocked down so brutually like I was. It is very difficult to be at your lowest and maintain a level head, I was there just a couple weeks ago. What helped me get through it was that quote and knowing that life is too long to be hung up about something that will seem so insignificant in the future. 10,20,30 years down the line most of what's going on now wont matter to me. And every life has a beginning and an end, the end is the same for everyone and everything in between is inconsequential. 1
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