When you realize your life has changed for good.

[evondavis1]

For the last 7 years, I was in a relationship doing my best to make my family happy. I cooked, cleaned, worked, was the best mom on the planet, took care of the finances, everything. It didn't hit me until recently that I was basically "used" for all these years. I made it very convenient for my ex to stay. Yes, we had great moments, but we also had bad moments. Looking back, I can remember him telling me he doesn't care what I do, or who I do it with. Why didn't I take that as a red flag? My ex stayed out of convience, and that is a bitter pill to swallow. To know that he never really cared as much as I did. No matter how I tried, and tried, and tried, it never mattered.

When he moved out 4 months ago, I never thought he would meet a younger girl and get married in 6 weeks, and now she is pregnant. She got what I wanted and worked

so

hard for 7 years. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my ex, and I don't know if I will ever be able to love and meet someone like that again. I am hurt, and damaged. There is

so

much hurt in my eyes. My son is my world, and I do everything I can to make sure he will have a happy life.

It's like working on a project

so

hard, for

so

many years, and then it fails. I feel like I failed in some way, and I have to forgive myself. I feel like I will never find a man like my ex that I was

so

attracted to and

so

in love with. I wish I was the one that can move on, like nothing ever happened. My ex has a new life, wife and baby on the way, all within months of our break. I wish I could just move on and be happy ;-(

[Coping Vortex]

For the last 7 years, I was in a relationship doing my best to make my family happy. I cooked, cleaned, worked, was the best mom on the planet, took care of the finances, everything. It didn't hit me until recently that I was basically "used" for all these years. I made it very convenient for my ex to stay. Yes, we had great moments, but we also had bad moments. Looking back, I can remember him telling me he doesn't care what I do, or who I do it with. Why didn't I take that as a red flag? My ex stayed out of convience, and that is a bitter pill to swallow. To know that he never really cared as much as I did. No matter how I tried, and tried, and tried, it never mattered.

When he moved out 4 months ago, I never thought he would meet a younger girl and get married in 6 weeks, and now she is pregnant. She got what I wanted and worked

so

hard for 7 years. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my ex, and I don't know if I will ever be able to love and meet someone like that again. I am hurt, and damaged. There is

so

much hurt in my eyes. My son is my world, and I do everything I can to make sure he will have a happy life.

It's like working on a project

so

hard, for

so

many years, and then it fails. I feel like I failed in some way, and I have to forgive myself. I feel like I will never find a man like my ex that I was

so

attracted to and

so

in love with. I wish I was the one that can move on, like nothing ever happened. My ex has a new life, wife and baby on the way, all within months of our break. I wish I could just move on and be happy ;-(

 

Sorry to hear your situation. I think we all feel that we have put work into our relationships and to have the ex just up and leave is heart wrenching. Whether its a divorce or 2 teenagers that their first love BU heart break is one of toughest things to get past in life. Some people do well. People like you and me do not. I just can't imagine my life is out of my life for good. Too surreal.

[Ariella1984]

For the last 7 years, I was in a relationship doing my best to make my family happy. I cooked, cleaned, worked, was the best mom on the planet, took care of the finances, everything. It didn't hit me until recently that I was basically "used" for all these years. I made it very convenient for my ex to stay. Yes, we had great moments, but we also had bad moments. Looking back, I can remember him telling me he doesn't care what I do, or who I do it with. Why didn't I take that as a red flag? My ex stayed out of convience, and that is a bitter pill to swallow. To know that he never really cared as much as I did. No matter how I tried, and tried, and tried, it never mattered.

When he moved out 4 months ago, I never thought he would meet a younger girl and get married in 6 weeks, and now she is pregnant. She got what I wanted and worked

so

hard for 7 years. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my ex, and I don't know if I will ever be able to love and meet someone like that again. I am hurt, and damaged. There is

so

much hurt in my eyes. My son is my world, and I do everything I can to make sure he will have a happy life.

It's like working on a project

so

hard, for

so

many years, and then it fails. I feel like I failed in some way, and I have to forgive myself. I feel like I will never find a man like my ex that I was

so

attracted to and

so

in love with. I wish I was the one that can move on, like nothing ever happened. My ex has a new life, wife and baby on the way, all within months of our break. I wish I could just move on and be happy ;-(

 

My heart goes out to you, Evon. It really is truly gut wrenching when someone you gave your all to is able to just walk away like it all meant nothing.

 

YOU did not fail. HE failed to give you the love you so much deserve. HE failed to appreciate everything you did for him and gave him for all of those years.