HeinekenCoC Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) Basically, long story short, we broke up in the summer. I was her first boyfriend and vice versa. We were together for 4 months, she was my secret admirer prior to that and had a huge crush on me. Anyway after the breakup I beg for her back and say I'll wait for her, etc. She tells me to move on so I do just that. I did NC for 2 months and she out of the blue opened the lines of communication again. Prior to communicating with me she messaged a mutual friend in a convo they were having and said that yes, she missed, me but didnt want to put me through another serious relationship again. We talk for a month, she seems into me, texts me first, she flirts, shes touchy with me, and then I bring it up. I ask her is she still likes me and she says no. A huge argument continues and I do NC again for a month and a half. This time I break NC and apologize for being immature. 'I rushed things' I tell myself. It had after all, just been a month and the signs of interest on her part were there. We see eachother at a game a few days after the apology and shes very teasy with me. We sit together alone and she smiles at me and says "Don't get any ideas." and when a friend asks us if we're making love in the booth (the door was closed), she laughs and says "EWWWW with him?!" (Jokingly of course). In that discussion we clear up alot of things and things are going good. Anyway, basically, the cycle repeats. After the talk she makes her self somewhat distant, but slowly but surely she starts teasing me, texts me first, is flirty with me, and I basically make it clear to her that I'm into her. After a month of talking, I find out that she had kissed a friend of mine during the same time she was talking to me. We had discussed this friend and she told me he was trying to talk to her and that she didn't like him (She really didn't like him, but I have no idea why she kissed him). Anyway she supposedly thought she liked him, but upon kissing him she found she felt nothing for him (And I guess this confirmed her feelings for me because she was being extra good to me afterwards or something). We have an argument, don't talk again for a week, and she again says she doesn't like me and that I'm stupid for thinking so and that "She thought I cared about her" and that she "hated me". In this period she always stares at me and holds eye contact with me. I unfollow her on all social media but she doesnt reciprocate. I apologize, again, for being so mean to her in the argument (I told her to **** off), and told her she didn't have to talk to me anymore. She smiles at me the next day, and at a soccer game we have a semi-awkward convo. This was Friday and I havent texted her or talked to her since. I see her everyday in the mornings, we share a course together and the course is an hour long. I don't know what to do about her acting one way and then denying she feels anything. Are these unresolved feelings? If so what should I do when I see her? NC again? Edited January 22, 2013 by HeinekenCoC
flitzanu Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Basically, long story short, we broke up in the summer. I was her first boyfriend and vice versa. We were together for 4 months, she was my secret admirer prior to that and had a huge crush on me. Anyway after the breakup I beg for her back and say I'll wait for her, etc. She tells me to move on so I do just that. I did NC for 2 months and she out of the blue opened the lines of communication again. Prior to communicating with me she messaged a mutual friend in a convo they were having and said that yes, she missed, me but didnt want to put me through another serious relationship again. We talk for a month, she seems into me, texts me first, she flirts, shes touchy with me, and then I bring it up. I ask her is she still likes me and she says no. A huge argument continues and I do NC again for a month and a half. This time I break NC and apologize for being immature. 'I rushed things' I tell myself. It had after all, just been a month and the signs of interest on her part were there. We see eachother at a game a few days after the apology and shes very teasy with me. We sit together alone and she smiles at me and says "Don't get any ideas." and when a friend asks us if we're making love in the booth (the door was closed), she laughs and says "EWWWW with him?!" (Jokingly of course). In that discussion we clear up alot of things and things are going good. Anyway, basically, the cycle repeats. After the talk she makes her self somewhat distant, but slowly but surely she starts teasing me, texts me first, is flirty with me, and I basically make it clear to her that I'm into her. After a month of talking, I find out that she had kissed a friend of mine during the same time she was talking to me. We had discussed this friend and she told me he was trying to talk to her and that she didn't like him (She really didn't like him, but I have no idea why she kissed him). Anyway she supposedly thought she liked him, but upon kissing him she found she felt nothing for him (And I guess this confirmed her feelings for me because she was being extra good to me afterwards or something). We have an argument, don't talk again for a week, and she again says she doesn't like me and that I'm stupid for thinking so and that "She thought I cared about her" and that she "hated me". In this period she always stares at me and holds eye contact with me. I unfollow her on all social media but she doesnt reciprocate. I apologize, again, for being so mean to her in the argument (I told her to **** off), and told her she didn't have to talk to me anymore. She smiles at me the next day, and at a soccer game we have a semi-awkward convo. This was Friday and I havent texted her or talked to her since. I see her everyday in the mornings, we share a course together and the course is an hour long. I don't know what to do about her acting one way and then denying she feels anything. Are these unresolved feelings? If so what should I do when I see her? NC again? she doesn't want to be with you, and she's said this many times and been making this clear. so YES you should stop all communication and quit interacting with her. 1
Chi townD Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I agree. Look, you both sound pretty young. And if someone suggested that me and a girl were hooking up and her response is "EWWWW" joking or not, that's disrespectful and a kick in the gut. Just ignore her. move on. There's plenty of girls out there.
Author HeinekenCoC Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) she doesn't want to be with you, and she's said this many times and been making this clear. so YES you should stop all communication and quit interacting with her. What about the signals she sends me lol? Theyre the main thing that confuses me. Edited January 22, 2013 by HeinekenCoC
Chi townD Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 What about the signals she sends me lol? Theyre the main thing that confuses me. She likes the attention and nothing more. She's stringing you along. It gives her an ego boost knowing that you're still interested in her, but she's not going to act on it or else she would have already. But, the moment she snags someone else, you'll be yesterdays news. 1
Author HeinekenCoC Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 She likes the attention and nothing more. She's stringing you along. It gives her an ego boost knowing that you're still interested in her, but she's not going to act on it or else she would have already. But, the moment she snags someone else, you'll be yesterdays news. Yeah man its really confusing. She acts one way and then denies she likes me at all lol. The signs are there, but she just likes me at a distance I guess.
flitzanu Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 She likes the attention and nothing more. She's stringing you along. It gives her an ego boost knowing that you're still interested in her, but she's not going to act on it or else she would have already. But, the moment she snags someone else, you'll be yesterdays news. yup. those aren't "signals". you're interpreting things that aren't there. when someone CLEARLY SAYS "I DON'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU" you should pay attention to the words, because that's very direct. nothing else is important about their behavior.
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