Just a Guy Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 After reading about the increasing rates of infidelity,divorce, unhappy marriages which include sexless marriages, I have come to think that we possibly need a new paradigm for marriages. I think this would obviate much pain and heartbreak over the long haul. My suggestion would be that all marriages would initially be fixed at,say, seven years. At the end of that period the marriage would just dissolve and the two partners would revert to their single status. If the two of them feel that they want to continue their marital status then in the seventh year, well before the marriage ended, they could resolve to renew their vows at the end of the year and continue for another seven years. Such renewals could go on as the couple grew together and happily would end only with the passing away of one or the other or both partners. If, however the partners are not happy with each other then the seven year window, which is approximately the time it would take for things to crystallize in terms of love and attachment/ bonding or their absence, would afford them the opportunity to take a call on their relationship and let it end naturally, if things were not hunky dory between them. Thus at the end of the seven year period there would be two people who probably made a mistake initially, but who were able to rectify things without animosity and without things turning really unpleasant. Of course there may still be kinks in the play out of such a scenario as for instance a spouse jumping into an affair shortly after marriage. Such aberrations would have to be dealt with separately but would not really derail the whole idea. I am sure there would be other suggestions from people on this board which may be more practical or workable or whatever. Would like to hear others views on this. Thanks in advance. 1
Ninja'sHusband Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 That might actually make sense if people didn't have children. Keeping a marriage together longterm is about keeping family together imo. I wish that was the priority. I would rather default to having families stay together.
eleanorrigby Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Nah that sounds like a good way to get ripped off every 7 years paying for a marriage license renewal.
waterwoman Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 LOL! Like a passport I can see your point but that could still leave one spouse bereft and unhappy when the other spouse calls time and the other doesn't want to. Marriages can be fixed (WW prays quietly to any gods that are listening that is actually true!!) but it takes work and the 7 year renewal would give the uncommitted one a free pass to flit without looking back. Why not just abolish marriage and leave people to make their own arrangements? Oh and I agree that kids change the dynamic completely.
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