Happypuppy Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Hi guys Quick question: I blocked my ex from FB today. He is supposedly having another womans baby, and I will spare myself the hurt and anger surrounding this. I guess I have to block his mother too. Don't want babypictures popping up in my news feed.. It sucks, because she and I were good friends, and she has helped me so much, even after the BU and we both care alot about each other. The question is: I feel I should explain this situation to her, but what do I say? Supposedly my ex and his girl have been trying to keep this pregnancy a secret (for some reason), but I sent him a FB-message the other day where I expressed that I knew about the baby. Haven't discussed our relationship with his mother, because it will feel like a betrail. But I don't feel like she deserves being cut out of my life for his screw up, without an explanation.. At the same time I don't want to show my emotions too much, as I don't want my ex thinking I'm drowning in sorrow over here (even though I still do from time to time) Any advice?
skywriter Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I would just be straight up with her. She should appreciate the honesty, as well as the fact that you care enough about her and your ex to take measures to explain how you feel. Also, you are respecting her son and his new GF's privacy, as well as avoiding having any future drama. Then of course the fact that you deserve to be able to heal and move on without being reminded of his GF and their baby.
Author Happypuppy Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Thank you for your input Composed a message while crying... Just told her it is too diffucult for me, this entire situation, that it had nothing to do with them, and that I have so much going on in my own life (my mother has just been diagnosed with lungcancer) that I dont want to be sad over things I cannot change. Also told her I'm glad I got to know her and that she is a wonderful woman. She told me she couldn't write anything yet, she is crying so hard This sucks! I wish I could just erase these last years of my life, but I'm trying to stay confident that it will all turn out for the best
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