Mint Sauce Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 But maybe it is true that men see me as a cast off after I say that. I don't remember how old you are, perhaps you're still young and dating guys who don't have the maturity yet to make up their own mind about their partner. Late twenties or early thirties this should def no longer be an issue imo. I prefer extensive open discussion about past failed relationships, and about the insecurities that followed from those events. If you want to be kind to each other, it's good to know where the painful spots are.
Author unluckyinlove4 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 I don't remember how old you are, perhaps you're still young and dating guys who don't have the maturity yet to make up their own mind about their partner. Late twenties or early thirties this should def no longer be an issue imo. I prefer extensive open discussion about past failed relationships, and about the insecurities that followed from those events. If you want to be kind to each other, it's good to know where the painful spots are. I'm in my late 20s. I agree, actually....although I've always preferred not to hear about an ex-girlfriend's favorite latte or hairspray (which guys have told me). I'm just like, "Who gives a f?"
Emilia Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 The 2nd guy, I felt was more understanding about it because he does have a child that was conceived "accidentally" and had to take responsibility for that at a very young age. It never seemed to be an issue as I did mention it once to him when we were sharing intimate details about our lives, but it wasn't something I thought he could comfort me with nor would he want to hear, so when I was sad about it I talked to other people. Who knows. Maybe he was understanding, it's sometimes hard to pinpoint what someone's issue is. However if that child was conceived by accident it could have been a sore issue.
Author unluckyinlove4 Posted January 23, 2013 Author Posted January 23, 2013 (edited) Who knows. Maybe he was understanding, it's sometimes hard to pinpoint what someone's issue is. However if that child was conceived by accident it could have been a sore issue. I guess my point is that I don't think that was he reason for dumping me. I think his own child plays a part in it, but I don't think he thought me having a miscarriage was a reason to run. I think he was in a relationship with the child's mother for much longer than he should have been and feels that his best years were wasted and now wants to play the field--but since his friends are getting married and settled down feels that he should be looking for a serious relationship. Edited January 23, 2013 by unluckyinlove4
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