Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I'm in need of some advice. Me and my husband attend a poker tournament about three times a week. This guy that was an aquaintance of my husband started bringing around his friend this black guy to the games. I really feel uncomfortable around this black guy. He is constantly staring me down. Like I mean staring. He has seen my wedding rings on my hand. He has seen me and my husband hug, kiss, and hold hands. He knows that I am married. I even said to him one time "What are you looking at? Play the game!" He was staring at me. I have expressed my concerns with my hubby. My hubby thinks that he is not staring. I am not racists. I just don't want this person staring down at me. I am married. what is his problem? I even told the lady that runs the tournaments at bars don't put me at the same table as him. What really bothered me a few days ago was I was at a table all of a sudden he comes and wants to play at that table. My friend calls me, so I had to go pick my friend up to come play poker too. When I got back the game already started and the black guy was not playing. What just cause I was not playing? Instead he hung around the bar staring at me. I said to my husband "look behind you". My husband turned around and the black guy was straing hard. He still says he wasn't staring at me. What do I do? I asked my husband to step up for me and say "stop looking at my woman", he still is not. I am angry. I don't feel comfortable playing games anymore. I don't like this guy, and never will. What does anybody suggest. Any advice would help. I'm thinking maybe I should just yell at this idiot.
darkmoon Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 he's probably staring at you to put you off winning, color is irrelevant 1
Author Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 yes you are racist. and you know it. or you have a issue with yourself if you are black too. cause you have more attention for the black he is ,so if he was white and rich you would not open a topic. if its you on that pic im brown too and i would really be looking at you. why? cause i wonder too if you are a men or a real woman. cause you look like transsexual. and if the staring was the issue for you , you would not have time to talk about his color. and im shore white men stare at you is normal if you are with a white men and in a more community. maybe the guy really is looking to much at you. but since you are racist, maybe you should take a deep down look at yourself why you act like that towards your own color. like you are not black. I'm Racists? There was a black girl that was living in a motel and I took her in my own home. I fed hed her, didn't charge her any rent. She even ran up my hydro bill. She lived rent free till she got her own place. Left without a thank you. I think its you that look like a tranny. I am not brown I am olive skinned. I have a dark foundation on my face. Picked up the wrong make up lol. So you are impling that I should cheat on my husband? You are just whacked. By the way I am not attracted to black guys. That's my choice. I don't mind being anybody's friend. Don't matter the skin color. When its comes to dating, I have certain types. It doesn't matter what color was staring at me. I would not like it at all. He staring at me because he is a perverted pig. Just those actions that he is doing is perverted. Nuff said. You would be looking at me because you are perverted.
Author Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 he's probably staring at you to put you off winning, color is irrelevant Than why is he only staring at me from a far distance too. By theway far from racists. I find lots of black guys look at me.
Author Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 There change my pic! I am far from being brown or black. You wish I was cause I look GOOD!
jlindemann Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 There change my pic! I am far from being brown or black. You wish I was cause I look GOOD! This is irrelevant, and if you're looking for honest help or opinions, this isnt the way to go about doing it. Flaunting yourself as "you wish you look as good as me" isn't doing you any favors, really. It's like the girls who dress skanky and then wonder why they're getting negative attention. Granted...no one deserves to be treated like a piece of meat...but respect yourself before you expect respect from others. In all reality, since you're in a public place when this man is around, perhaps go up to him (with your husband if that makes you feel more comfortable), and in a non-confrontational way, just ask him if he is staring at you. Let him know it's making you uncomfortable. See how he reacts. Some guys might not even realize they're being "caught" when they're staring at a woman. If he shows no emotion about it or becomes confrontational, then you might have something to worry about. I would continue to mention it to the owners of the bar until they do something about it. If nothing happens, you may want to just remove yourself from the situation if you feel like your safety is being compromised. Better to give up something you love to do than to never be around to do it again. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 What do I do? I asked my husband to step up for me and say "stop looking at my woman", he still is not. I am angry. I don't feel comfortable playing games anymore. I don't like this guy, and never will. What does anybody suggest. Any advice would help. I'm thinking maybe I should just yell at this idiot. This is your problem right here. Youre afraid to do your own dirty work. If youre afraid of being perceived as a mean or bad person for telling the guy off, then you will be stuck with this guy staring at you forever. If you really want him to stop, make fun of him in front of everyone. Point out anything you can about him and laugh in his face, and no matter what he says, turn his words around on him, call him creepy, do what you have to. THAT will hurt his ego and keep him away from you. This of course after you have asked him and your friend nicely to cut the shyt, and it didnt work. If it really bothers you that much, you will have to do this to make it stop. Hoping someone else will take care of it so that you dont look bad and so no one gets hurt will not make it stop. 1
jlindemann Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 And just fyi, I think the fact that you had to mention that he is black makes you look rasist. Even if you weren't trying. That seems like you think black men are up to trouble, but if he was white, it wouldn't be a problem. I guess the fact that he is black has nothing to do with the fact that he makes you uncomfortable with the staring. Maybe you should have left that detail out. 2
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 You really didn't have to mention that he was black.. it was unnecessary and that's probably why you have gotten such a hard time on here. Why don't you just find a new place to play.
Author Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 You really didn't have to mention that he was black.. it was unnecessary and that's probably why you have gotten such a hard time on here. Why don't you just find a new place to play. It doesn't matter what color he is. Didn't I say that. Because maybe white guys don't do that to me. I don't care what color he is. Who is playing? Then don't comment if you don't like my words. Another girl said he was straing down at her.
Author Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Maybe the black woma that said I look like a tranny should not say anything at all then I wouldn't say I look good. By the way I seen many trannies that are better looking than most woman so thats like a compliment. Thanks.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 It doesn't matter what color he is. Didn't I say that. Because maybe white guys don't do that to me. I don't care what color he is. Who is playing? Then don't comment if you don't like my words. Another girl said he was straing down at her. You are way too aggressive... When I said playing I meant the tournaments DUH! That is a game right? You play games right? Duh, don't be so confrontational. My point is you didn't have to mention that he is black. You sound racist.. I'm telling you how you sound and why you have gotten the responses you have. If you didn't care what color he was you would have never mentioned color at all. 1
MissBee Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Saying you're not racist while specifically saying you don't want a "black guy" staring you down, does nothing for your case. I actually have no idea why we needed to know he was black. I am sure many women find it uncomfortable for men they're not interested in to stare them down. It's rude and off putting. However, what does his blackness have to do with this? If he were white or asian would it make you less uncomfortable? If yes...then you need to think about that. If not....then adding his race to your story adds no value and only makes you seem racist indeed. 2
Author Sporty Girl Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 So how can I edit post when they won't let me? Because all black guys are doing this to me. I'm not attracted to black guys period. Bash me all you want don't bother me.
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