samantha1989 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 After I broke up with my ex, I came onto these boards in search of advice. I silently lurked reading every break up post I could get my hands on. I was a silent stalker of the Breaks and Breaking up section for MONTHS. Loveshack was my salvation when I was devastated and thought I would never move on. I cried for days. I was an emotional wreck and I thought I never would recover. All of you, wrote posts about how you shouldn't contact your ex and how NC will work. And I took that advice. I didn't contact my ex. I didn't respond to his messages. I didn't check his Facebook page. I didn't try to get information about him from our mutual friends. I read posts here that helped me turn things around. Five months later, I started going out with the most amazing man I've ever met. We're planning on getting married next year now and spending the rest of our lives together. I'm no longer the shy girl I was with my ex. I stand up for myself and don't take any crap. And it's because I stood strong and learned all I could from this forum. So this is my little shout out.. To the girls like me who are perusing this forum and trying to get over someone. Who think that they should maybe give their ex a second chance or send him one last text. And you shouldn't! YOU deserve to be treated better and to get someone who wants YOU as much as YOU want them. Thanks so much to all of you 11
Mel2011 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Wow! It is fantastic to hear a success story You sound incredibly happy Sam, congratulations. I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but then some days I worry I will never meet someone. Your story has really brightened my afternoon!
mammasita Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I envy your position right now. I hope to be there soon.
Author samantha1989 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Mammasita - I swear you will. I didn't think I would. I was devastated for ages. I thought I would never meet someone again. It passed. Mel2011 - I used to never believe in true love before this. I was definitely a cynic. I was with my ex for a couple years and he was the first person I had ever dated at 20. I got used to being treated poorly. But I promise you will meet someone when the time is right. You know how people say "It'll be when it's meant to be."? That's so true. 1
MyAngel Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 That's awesome Samantha! I'm so happy for you. Your new boyfriend sounds wonderful! Everything happens for a reason doesn't it
livelife Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 How did you meet you current fiance? I'm 20 and i'm honestly worried. I go to college I go out have fun but I don't meet any new guys, and I really just wanna be with someone right now. I don't see myself marrying any of these guys from my past. Although I wish to have dated my ex from highschool again, he isn't over his ex so it didn't work out.
Chi townD Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Awww... what an awesome story! I'm so glad that you discovered your self worth and that you DO deserve better for yourself. I speculate that you are so much more happier in your life once you were able to move on and heal. Good job! And thank you for sharing your story. You may have just inspired someone to move on an heal as well!
Author samantha1989 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 What really worked for me was that I stopped accepting bad second dates. I decided to wait for the butterflies and the spark. Ironically, a week after I decided to be single for awhile, take care of myself, and not date? I met my guy! it's funny how it works like that. What really helped me was going out more. At first, I didn't want to go out with friends or even be seen in public. Then I went to a club for the first time and had a fantastic time. I started going out more and more and putting myself out there because of it. I didn't accept "just stay in tonight" from myself anymore. I'm not engaged yet. I wanted to be surprised instead of picking out a ring. So fingers crossed! He keeps making hints that are driving me crazy! 1
Ruby Slippers Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Sweet story! And I agree that NC works like a charm. It's really hard at first, but then you quickly realize why it's so worth it.
ScienceGal Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 So happy for you! I hope I follow the same path Thanks for the inspiration
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