coffeeloverx Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I was wondering if any of you could offer me any advice. Ex and I have been broken up for 7 months. NC for 4 months. I can pretty confidently say I'm about 93% over him. I don't feel the need to talk to him or feel any desire to be with him. However, I miss him sometimes. This feeling comes in waves and then I just feel bad about things. I'm not quite sure if I miss him or if I just miss our relationship since I just kind of lump the two together. However, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for this feeling? I just don't know what to do when this happens.
Mr Scorpio Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 However, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for this feeling? I just don't know what to do when this happens. Think about something else. Movie quotes, song lyrics, a book you read, what you're going to make for dinner.
youngnlove89 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I was wondering if any of you could offer me any advice. Ex and I have been broken up for 7 months. NC for 4 months. I can pretty confidently say I'm about 93% over him. I don't feel the need to talk to him or feel any desire to be with him. However, I miss him sometimes. This feeling comes in waves and then I just feel bad about things. I'm not quite sure if I miss him or if I just miss our relationship since I just kind of lump the two together. However, I was wondering if anybody had any advice for this feeling? I just don't know what to do when this happens. The definition of missing: Not present or included when expected or supposed to be. To miss him is to just realize he isn't there. It's still an ache though. And you just have to go through it. There really isn't any other way. When those moments come, accept it. Sit with it. Welcome it. Get to know it. And don't be ashamed of it. This person was a huge part of your life and this will happen from time to time. You are still healing. It's hard to really tell what you're longing for (whether a relationship or him), but regardless, memories stain the mind. They will always be there to remind you what isn't there anymore. I still think about some of my ex's before from a long time ago. I remember how I used to long for them and wish they'd come back. But now that I look back on it, I'm glad that we aren't together anymore. I still think about them, but not because I want them back, but because we shared some good times together, times that made me happy. One day you will be able to think of that person and no longer miss them. But until then, just keep going forward. Keep pushing through.
stevie_23 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I agree with the post above. Just accept it when those moments come. When those feelings come, welcome and embrace them. You miss "it" (him / the relationship / the feelings you used to be familiar with back during that time of your life), and this means those were happy times. And that's a good thing. You can try to turn that "missing" around into appreciation of those good times you experienced.
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