the_entertainer1 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I've been on 4 dates with a guy. We initially met each other through an online dating site but have since found out we have some mutual friends in common. He's 22 and I'm 23. I went to his place last Thursday for a DVD and pizza and we kissed for the first time (yes, he was slow to make a move but I think he'd sensed that I was a little nervous). He wanted to go a bit further but I didn't ... I had to tell him I wasn't very "experienced" and basically wanted to have sex when I was in a "loving relationship" (I think it's something special and should actually mean something). I texted him the next day to say that I'd had a nice time and he messaged back. I texted him again to ask him about a festival that was on that weekend (he'd gone with his friends, I went with mine the next day). Since then I haven't heard from him. I'm guessing that he didn't agree with my views on sex and isn't interested, or he's just trying to deal with my inexperience ... On our Thursday date, we had a conversation where he asked what I thought were "character flaws" in a guy and as a joke, he said the positives were "ceilings" (flaws sounds like floors). We seemed to get on well and I guess you don't go on 4 dates with someone unless you like them, even a bit, but we both commented on the fact that things felt a bit awkward (though less awkward after we'd kissed). Anyway, I haven't heard from him for a couple of days. Usually I'd take that as a signal that he's not interested, but I think it's a bit rude to just stop contacting someone if you've spent a couple of months emailing and been on four dates. He'd texted me almost every day since before then. I was going to text him to say hi, that I hoped he was having a good week and that "I thought of another 'ceiling': guys who call after they kiss you! :P" (For the record, I prefer calling. But he seems to be more of a texter ... and he's at work right now). Has he lost interest? How do you think he'd respond to the text? Or should I just not bother contacting him?
Author the_entertainer1 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 I just went ahead, used my best judgement and texted him. He replied with "Hey sorry, been busy few days! What's news?" I know I'm probably reading into things a bit too much, but I'd just really like some people's opinions on what he might be thinking!
Tally123 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Hi, From reading your post I would say he's not interested, or he werent too keen on the idea of "waiting to be in a relationship for sex". When you date a guy who really wants to date you and be with you, then you get a good feel for guys who don't and it becomes pretty obvious when that time is. You cant be that busy for three days straight that he cant find two minutes to send a quick text. I would say move on and find someone who has the same values as you and who deserve your time. Good luck!
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