xpaperxcutx Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Long story short, the ex and I broke up after less than 5 months of dating yet, we still haven't completely cut ties. Quoting my dear best friend, " you guys got used to each other; it's not love, it's a habit". Of course, we hang out like a couple, kiss, hug, and wind up in the same bed on more than one occasion. This also meant we experienced the same kind of ordeals that led to our breakup: we disagree, argue and fight and eventually threathen each oher about never talking to one another. Rinse, dry, repeat. We're both crazy, crazy to want to get back together, even though I often taunt him we're not boyfriend and girlfriends. To make matters worse, I may have a little crush on a friend of his. My ex and I like to attend parties, live music parties, and we are often there with a large group of his friends. Among them, is a a guy, who I've only know for a short time, and yet I find myself attracted and drawn to him. When I was dating my ex, i kept my distance, and I tried to be friendly. However recently I've been thinking of him more and more. It seems weird that I'm thinking of him when I'm with my ex. My moral strings are tugging at me. I Am I a horrible person or what?
Casablanca Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Who ended it? Was it mutual? If he ended it you may have a chance. If you ended it, that makes things tougher. You are a female that may work in your favor as compared to a guy trying to get with his ex's friend. I dated a girl for two months, but I developed a huge crush on her best friend. I never pursued after breaking up as I knew there is no way the friend I had a crush on would even entertain the idea because that is how (I perceive) women to act when best friends.
kaylan Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 OP get over it and move on. Its a huge no-go move when it comes to friends of your exes. Youre not horrible. Attraction happens. But you control what happens after that fact. Personally I wouldnt get in the way of friends...and if you are still friends with your ex (and somewhat couple-ish), I wouldnt ruin that by making a play at their friend. Because you and your ex are still seeing each other basically, if you mentioned anything to his friend, or put a move on him, youd draw the ire of everyone in that social and family circle. Tread carefully.
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