HeinekenCoC Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) (This is sort of long) I was her first boyfriend and she was my first girlfriend, the relationship was very serious, too serious lol, and we were together for a few months before the summer ended. We broke up because of a few arguments caused by me on top of the seriousness of the relationship, which bothered her. I would nitpick at things and it eventually annoyed her so she decided it was best to break up. Ever since then we've been talking on and off. We've had two periods of a month each in which we communicated, and each time it ended the same way. She'd text me first during these periods, tweet at me, comment on my pictures, smile at me, be somewhat flirty with me, touchy with me even, tease me, and then we'd get in an argument. Both arguments started when I asked if she still liked me and asked "Oh, I still like you, do you like me?" and she'd deny that she liked me and that she was just being friendly with me all along/she just wanted to be friends. (Even though about 2 months after we broke up, during the post-breakup period of no contact, she told a mutual friend that she missed me but didn't want to put me through another super serious relationship again. She subsequently contacted me and this crap started) This just happened again, and I really don't want to do this whole thing a third time with no results. This last time we started talking again after a period of EXTREME NC. I apologized to her for being immature with her the last time and that I felt bad about it. Slowly but surely we started talking again. She did what I described before, texted me first, joked with me, etc but was talking to a friend of mine at the same time! She even tried to expose the friend to me prior to winter break, and a week later, when we talked about him again, she agreed with me when I told her "I knew you didnt like him"... Then she doesnt text me for a period of a week, and all of a sudden starts texting me at the start of the new semester... When we see eachother in person shes all smiley and touchy even after when she sits next to me during study hall and we laugh the hour away... Little do I know that during break she had made out with the guy and subsequently lost interest in him. I suspect it was in the week during which she didnt message me. Anyway I confronted her and told her to never talk to me again. She got mad and said I was immature, and in the followiing argument she said that she didnt like me at all. Whatever, I tell her Im disappointed in her and that she was lying to me all along about the guy and she responded with "I thought you cared about me" "I hate you, youre the most arrogant and selfish person I ever met." "All you want to do is make me cry and stress and feel horrible"... And I tell her to screw off. In the following week she started staring at me alot, not even bothering to avoid me like the previous time. When we made eye contact she would hold it and it was pretty awkward for me lol. Anyway, I apologize to her for overreacting. If I thought I liked someone I'd do the same thing.. The next day when we saw eachother she smiled at me, and we talked later that night at a soccer game. I ran into her in a booth and she told me "Hey, you can sit." But I declined. I came back a few minutes later though and sat down awkwardly. The conversation was semi-awkward, but we laughed a little. Its been three days since then and I havent texted her at all... Im really confused. Are these unresolved/repressed feelings? Or something else? If so what can I do lol. I REALLY like her. Shes perfect for me and she really liked me too when we were together. She acts one way and says the opposite. What should I do? Edited January 22, 2013 by HeinekenCoC
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