candy 87 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 this is about a guy who i know for a fact likes me.. he called me a couple of days back.. i was out and coming home late from work so i missed his call, i then messaged him saying sorry i can't speak right now i'm out and wont be back till later ill call you back if i can, but don't wait for my call...(just incase im home too late in the middle of the night)..he said "thats ok" next day he might have thought i would get to call him but the same thing happened..as in i was out till late..and i texted him telling him im sorry but im out again so wont be able to call you today either... and when i was out it was snowing..and the roads were very icey of course... he messaged me back after i said i could not call him a couple of hours later and he texted saying " i hope you slip lol"..but he put the lol in it... so is that like a guys sense of humour??? is it supposed to be funny? i certainly wasnt laughing but then i don't know what way i should take that comment it was such a random comment as well... or is he being serious? that he secretly hopes i do slip??
kaylan Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Really OP? Google "lol theory" He was clearly joking. Just busting your chops was all he was doing.
Casablanca Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 How old is the guy? Not that any age should excuse this, he obviously was going for a joke, but I dont know what was going through his mind. Perhaps he was trying to do the equivalent of a "break a leg"....I'd say move on as this guy seems to have real maturity answers to make a joke like that
Lani Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 This is why I hate the whole 'LOL' thing. It's dumb. You're not actually laughing out loud, you just don't know what else to say. I'm not a man, so sorry for commenting, but I just had to get that out.
Author candy 87 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 How old is the guy? Not that any age should excuse this, he obviously was going for a joke, but I dont know what was going through his mind. Perhaps he was trying to do the equivalent of a "break a leg"....I'd say move on as this guy seems to have real maturity answers to make a joke like that mid 20s i messaged him back saying i dont really find that funny at all but that comment just came out of the blue..it was of no relevance to what i was telling him..that i couldnt call him back because i was out so for him to message saying i hope you slip doesnt make any sense to me so you dont think its because he's annoyed at me for not being able to speak to him??
Casablanca Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 so you dont think its because he's annoyed at me for not being able to speak to him?? I don't think it is that, I think he just made an awful choice at a joke. I wouldnt even make this joke in a LTR where we joke on each other let alone to someone I liked and wasn't even dating 1
Eddie Edirol Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 mid 20s i messaged him back saying i dont really find that funny at all but that comment just came out of the blue..it was of no relevance to what i was telling him..that i couldnt call him back because i was out so for him to message saying i hope you slip doesnt make any sense to me so you dont think its because he's annoyed at me for not being able to speak to him?? No, he was joking, and obviously you might not be able to understand the humor in it, because you want to think it has something to do with you blowing him off. He might not take it as seriously as you would if you were blown off two days in a row, dont think he cares, he might not. And if you didnt find it funny,. you really need to lighten up. Because as guys, or at least the people I hang with, if I saw one of my friends slip on the Ice, I'd think it was funny. But no, he doesnt want you to get hurt just because you blew him off twice. Dont take it so seriously. 5
OJ loved Nicole Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 this is about a guy who i know for a fact likes me.. is he being serious? that he secretly hopes i do slip?? Yes, he wants you dead. Keep over thinking it... 1
somedude81 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Yes, he really wants you to fall and hurt yourself. Possibly end up in the hospital. No, it was a joke, and one that fell flat. 1
Casablanca Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 And if you didnt find it funny,. you really need to lighten up. Because as guys, or at least the people I hang with, if I saw one of my friends slip on the Ice, I'd think it was funny. The biggest issue IMO is that he didn't have a filter enough to filter out a joke like that with a girl he is interested in. I would think most women wouldn't find it funny.
Author candy 87 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 ok maybe i am over analysing it was a really bad joke though
MrCastle Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 so you dont think its because he's annoyed at me for not being able to speak to him?? Yeah. He was doing it as a way to rib you for your lack of communication. No biggie. 3
Author candy 87 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 The biggest issue IMO is that he didn't have a filter enough to filter out a joke like that with a girl he is interested in. I would think most women wouldn't find it funny. thank you .. exactly i get that he might with his mates or whatever but with me i found it weird its the words "i hope" maybe if he worded it differently or we were talking about slipping on ice or something that i might have thought it was funny but because it was so random i jst didnt really get it
Author candy 87 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 No, he was joking, and obviously you might not be able to understand the humor in it, because you want to think it has something to do with you blowing him off. He might not take it as seriously as you would if you were blown off two days in a row, dont think he cares, he might not. And if you didnt find it funny,. you really need to lighten up. Because as guys, or at least the people I hang with, if I saw one of my friends slip on the Ice, I'd think it was funny. But no, he doesnt want you to get hurt just because you blew him off twice. Dont take it so seriously. its actually funny you say that he wouldnt care when a lot of the times i have spoken to him on the phone he will complain about how long i take to get back to him and ask him why i dont call more often he wont get angry about it but he will mention it a lot so there we go plus once his friend even told me (not that he knows this) that he complained to the friend about how long i took to return his call and it was three days maximum
kaylan Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 3 days to get back to him? Id complain to my friend too. And then Id next you and forget about it. A girl who takes that long to return my calls isnt all that interested imo. 4
Author candy 87 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 3 days to get back to him? Id complain to my friend too. And then Id next you and forget about it. A girl who takes that long to return my calls isnt all that interested imo. three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl
somedude81 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl How much time do you think a phone call with him would take?
MrCastle Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl Hence the inappropriate joke.
Casablanca Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl It wouldnt be impossible to send a quick a text or a five minute call phone. I've gone 3 days without responding to friends, but have never gone that long without responding to someone I like and am interested in 4
SJC2008 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 It IMO it was a joke sent as a hint that he's not happy about you being so casual, no emphasis whatsoever, at getting back to him. If it was me, this early into things, you would of gotten radio silence or the "It looks like our schedules don't match...". 2
Eddie Edirol Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl You mean youre not interested enough in him to want to talk to him more often, otherwise youd make the time. Now of course he shouldnt say that sort of a thing without you knowing him well enough to not be offended by it, but since you dont really like him enough, take it with a grain of salt, and go find someone youre actually interested in. 5
kaylan Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl When a woman is interested in a man, even the busiest gal makes time to call a guy for 5 minutes. You dont have 5 minutes in 72 hours? Sounds like disinterest to me. Get real. Im super busy myself, but Ill go to bed 10 minutes late to speak to a girl I really like if theres no other time in the day. Or Ill talk to her on my cars bluetooth. 1
SOLACEMENT Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 "I wish you could have figured this out on your own lol"
harnold Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I'm a guy. I dont think its that bad for it to take 3 days to return a call. It is definitely atypical, and many guys will definitely interpret it poorly. But it depends on the girl. If the girl is super busy, very involved with work/academics, etc, and poor at handling stress... then yeah, they may take a little longer to get back to the guy. Regardless of how much she likes him. Especially if is known that the two generally have phone calls that last a good while (i.e., more than a handful of minutes)... then it would make sense for the girl to wait for a time when she can actually devote herself to such a conversation
VioletSummer Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 three days isnt long at all when you've got work and other things going on im sorry but im not a typical drop everything to speak to a guy type of girl He was asking for ten minutes of your time for a call? He's not asking you to drop everything. If anything you're the one coming across as being in the wrong.
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