suarez Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Hey so this is probably an easy one but I'm after a girls perspective. I went out with a girl for the first time on sunday afternoon and we hit it off pretty well. I called her monday afternoon but she was in the gym and couldnt answer and by the time she txted me that she was free I was already out and couldnt call back. I made a little joke and said talk to you soon. She replied back with another little joke and said talk soon. I called later that night around 9.30 and got no answer. I think she was working. It's tuesday now so i'm wondering if i should call again tonight or txt her to see when a good time to call is. Or just leave it until tomorrow night. It's not a big deal but It's just too easy to scare girls off by being too desperate/clingy early on
Casablanca Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Did you leave a voice mail? Even if not, she knows to call you back.
Samilia Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Hey so this is probably an easy one but I'm after a girls perspective. I went out with a girl for the first time on sunday afternoon and we hit it off pretty well. I called her monday afternoon but she was in the gym and couldnt answer and by the time she txted me that she was free I was already out and couldnt call back. I made a little joke and said talk to you soon. She replied back with another little joke and said talk soon. I called later that night around 9.30 and got no answer. I think she was working. It's tuesday now so i'm wondering if i should call again tonight or txt her to see when a good time to call is. Or just leave it until tomorrow night. It's not a big deal but It's just too easy to scare girls off by being too desperate/clingy early on She works nights? Call late afternoon. Tomorrow.
weee111 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Some people just don't like talking on the phone. If she's been receptive to texts just stick with that for now. You didn't say how old she is...but if she's younger (20s), texting is just fine - it's what she's used to.
Author suarez Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Alright cool, we are both in our mid twenties. I think she likes to text a bit more than calling come to think of it. Is it fine to ask her out on a second date via text though? I've always called to ask a girl out rather than text just because it seems like you are showing more interest and guts.
weee111 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I'm in my mid twenties as well, I almost exclusively text and it's never been a problem. I find myself having a lot of ongoing text conversations during the (work) day (answering each other every hour or so) so it seems natural to slip the date request into that conversation rather than calling. I don't know if I would just ask cold though, go back and forth a few times first. 1
the_entertainer1 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 As a 23 year old woman, I prefer speaking as opposed to texting, but sometimes it's easier to text. You should probably ask her out again "in person" rather than through text. It's a bit more personable and personal. Regarding your other question: on the one hand, texting her to see when a good time for you to call is thoughtful ... on the other, it can be nice (but a little disarming) when you get a "surprise" call from a guy you like! If she's been texting you back, it means she's fine with texting. If she says "talk soon" it means she wants you to call her or that she hopes to see you soon. If I saw a missed call from a guy (but no voicemail) and it wasn't too late at night, I'd call back.
neveragain34 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 The ball is in her court now; you've called twice with no answer. Not sure if you left message the 2nd time, but everyone sees "missed calls" on their cell phones nowadays. If you call again, you will come off as desperate or clingy. Maybe she doesn't like talking on the phone and will end up texting if she doesn't call back. If that's the case, it's okay to ask her on another date via text. Guys do it with me and I see no problem with it. I actually become irritated when they want to talk on the phone sometimes and texting is actually my preferred method of communication and I'm 34! Everyone is different, but again, you should not make ANY form of communication next unless she does.
Author suarez Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Yeah she told me to txt her when we parted on sunday and I did later that night and she replied. I get the impression she doesn't mind texting at all. With what neveragain34 mentioned about not contacting her at all....Would it still appear desperate or clingy if I just sent her a message tomorrow morning just to say hello and asking her how she has been and then throw it out there to go on another date, or just wait for her to get back to me? I had not contacted her for about a week up until our first date and she texted me asking if I still wanted to catch up on the sunday so I think I might have a bit of room to play with in regards to the clingy/desperate thing. I can tell by her reactions that she is definitely into taking it further but I want to play it fairly cool. It's hard to know if I am coming across as interested in her or desperate because we have spoken a few times on the phone over the space of a few weeks for about an hour each time and she is always happy to hear from me. lol It should be simple but for some reason it isn't. Instinct is just telling me to leave it for tonight and then text her tomorrow
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