neized Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Met this guy online. First date was at his house, and yes ended up making out in his bed but no sex. Second time i was drunk and lonely. He texted and ask if i want to go over to "cuddle". again i agreed, and i ended up at his house. No sex as well. I know i'm sucha byt-ch! ;/ Had some argument after the two incident cause i felt used etc. although we didnt had sex, but i still feel use. =( I told him that i will not go to his place anymore and would he still wan to see me out of his house? He say he likes me and yes he wants to see me. We arrange for date twice, but I called it off on both occasion because I feel his not genuine on seeing me. Like there's last minute change of meeting time etc. for the second date. Also because of the previous 2 "making out session" that's why i feel his purpose of seeing me is to TRY to get into my pants again. I was quite mean when i called off both date, so i apologize. He replied and told me he was annoyed blah blah blah. He's gg oversea for work, and he say we can catch up when he is back. This guy has been sticking around for about 3months. So I'm not sure if he's staying around in hope to get into my pants or he genuinely likes me, and wants to see me again.
Lani Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 You've gone about this all wrong... You went to his house, twice, and made out with him in his bed, but wouldn't have sex with him... This screams c**k tease. Then, he tries to make dates with you, and you cancel on both of them. And you were mean about it? Whats he supposed to think?
Author neized Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 I know I had issues. He say he is leaving for biz trip on thur and to meet when he is back. I told him I can meet up before thur if he is not too busy with work. And he reply "having a quiet one the next few days" I'm not reading him! He's having a quiet one and he just want to be left alone bef he travels? Or he's having a quiet one not too busy with work. God I'm bad at these!
Lani Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Having a quiet one means he doesn't want to see anyone. If he really liked you, he'd want to see you before he goes. I think he's checked out of whatever you guys had going on. He probably got bored of you being so confusing. Don't contact him.
Samilia Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) Or.. you give him headaches.. and he needs quiet alone time. Edited January 22, 2013 by Samilia
Eddie Edirol Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Yes, youre REALLY bad at this. He might just want sex, but you trained him that way. For future dates, dont go to the guys house.
Author neized Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 @eddie what do you mean I trained him this way? I don think I did, I'm very confused that's why. Oh yea and he's like 13years older than me that's why I've doubts about him.
Tally123 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Your first major fail was going to his house on the first date....your second major fail was going to his house again on the second date. Where's the romance, where's the wining and dining?? That's what meeting someone new is all about, doing new and exciting things together. This seems to have been completely overlooked. I would either go back to basics with him, or cut loose.
pbjbear Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Sigh...what has our world gotten to? Ignore the other posters. You can make out with a guy, not have sex, and not be a cock block. That is so ridiculous. So now, every time I make out with a guy, I have to want to screw him too? I try to avoid doing house dates for as long as I can, but sometimes people dont have money or it rains so what are you supposed to do? In my opinion, if you have to ask this question, most likely he is using you for sex. The guys that genuinely like you are pretty obvious. But I could be wrong, there are always exceptions
jenwon Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 You wanted him to take you out. He asked you twice and canceled both times. You're just jerking him around. My advice leave the poor guy alone.
SilentVoice Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Projecting Look it up. If you want to know someone doesn't only want you for sex you have to believe you aren't only good for sex.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 He's 13 years older than you so for me the obvious answer is yes, it's sexually driven...what are you there for....conversation? ha ::wipes tears from laughter from his face:: Seriously though, you're acting like a fool....why did you even go there the first date, and then again? what kind of retarded move was that? I'm guessing you're quite young though from doing to the yo-yo behavior, I'm sure he figured this would be a lot less work to get you into bed, now you're just being a basket case and annoying. I think he's going to cut you off honestly, plus you met him offline...he's probably banging his GF that's closer to his age and on his actual level intellectually. But maybe he's one of those guys to put you on the side/option list and put in just enough effort as with a just a little more pushing the panties will come off again....after all he's got you to make out with him in his bed, it couldn't be that much harder to get you naked right? You lose.
Casablanca Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 @eddie what do you mean I trained him this way? I don think I did, I'm very confused that's why. Oh yea and he's like 13years older than me that's why I've doubts about him. You agreed to go to his house to hang out, come over to "cuddle", but you all havent really had real dates. Gotta make him work for it, if you think you might like the guy, next time he asks, or you can ask, suggest that you all do dinner and some other activity.
Author neized Posted February 25, 2013 Author Posted February 25, 2013 He's back. Well technically, I messaged him first after 1 month of "no contact". I was in the area last week. So i texted and say " I'm in the area, let me know if you want to catch up, take care". He replied and say he's parents was in town lalala so he has been busy. He said to catch up maybe next weeke instead? He texted the next day to ask what am i doing for th weekend, and to let him know where I'd be. I say ok. But i was too drunk, so i forgot to text him. The conversation ended there. My friends told me I've been playing games all this while with him, but I honestly dont think I am. What should I do now? Should I text him about "catch up this week"? Or text him about "forgetting to let him know where I was"? I think I really like this guy. But I don't want to look too interested, neither do I want to look like I'm playing games. Please help!
kimberlydoll Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Met this guy online. First date was at his house, and yes ended up making out in his bed but no sex. Second time i was drunk and lonely. He texted and ask if i want to go over to "cuddle". again i agreed, and i ended up at his house. No sex as well. I know i'm sucha byt-ch! ;/ Had some argument after the two incident cause i felt used etc. although we didnt had sex, but i still feel use. =( I told him that i will not go to his place anymore and would he still wan to see me out of his house? He say he likes me and yes he wants to see me. We arrange for date twice, but I called it off on both occasion because I feel his not genuine on seeing me. Like there's last minute change of meeting time etc. for the second date. Also because of the previous 2 "making out session" that's why i feel his purpose of seeing me is to TRY to get into my pants again. I was quite mean when i called off both date, so i apologize. He replied and told me he was annoyed blah blah blah. He's gg oversea for work, and he say we can catch up when he is back. This guy has been sticking around for about 3months. So I'm not sure if he's staying around in hope to get into my pants or he genuinely likes me, and wants to see me again. DONT HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU ARE READY...DOING SO DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BITCH. Im putting that in caps because I am sickened by our society. You dont OWE him sex. Stop thinking that way. Was it smart that you went to his house for the first 2 dates and made out? No. Dont go to a man's house for the first 3 dates AT LEAST. I learned that the hard way. So its not completely his fault for making moves on you. I am allowed to go to a guys house I have only been on a few dates with, make out a bit and do some other stuff, and not have sex. I am not a sexual commodity. I have sex when I feel ready. Just because Im not ready doesnt mean I cant do other stuff. Its getting to the point where if you make out with a guy, you best be havin' sex wit him , else you a cock block! Thats BULL****. What happened to respecting other people? Id chalk this up to a learning experience and move on from the guy. He prob does just want sex, to be honest, and hes much older than you. Next time, dont go to a guys house so early on. With men today, that means sex to them and if you kiss them and dont have sex with them, youre a tease and a horrible person. Sad, but it is what it is
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