Gingerxr2 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 So today I watched a tv sitcom , and it brought my whole relationship back , you know right at the beginning , where you would drive 100'000 of miles to just spend 10 mins with then ?? I did the regular to see my ex when she was in Uni. So today I'm feeling really **** , it's coming up to her birthday and what's worse I couldn't even if I wanted to say anything ! Any knowing she's spending it with her mate is gutt wrenching , I've spent her birthday together for the last 5 years , I'm hurting really bad , I'm trying really hard to forget or atleast ignore the pain but it comes in waves . you know the try and fight for her ? She'll answer you this time , the she will miss you by know , the shell be thinking about you on her birthday ? . When I'm watching a tv program and it all lovey I wounders if she's watching it and thinking about me ? . Then I think NO she won't be because she doesn't love you anymore ! Ahhhhhhhhh this is bull**** !!
fallenheart Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I've been there. Even over a year later, there are still moments when it hurts just like that. Rejection is the gift that keeps on giving. The complete total rejection from someone that was supposed to love you more than anyone. If there's some way to erase that horrible nagging sting of rejection, I'm afraid I've never stumbled across it. I think it'll only go away when you find someone new and love her MORE than the ex. Not easy to do....
Mr Scorpio Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I certainly hope that you changed the channel as soon as you discovered what the gist of the program was. If you didn't, I certainly hoped that you learned. Next time, don't subject yourself to that. My BU was years ago, but there are still triggers out there. Hell, sometimes new ones develop. I avoid them.
SuperGeek Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 Avoiding all possible triggers just delays getting over painful emotions. I've come to a place where I just say the hell with triggers and let them happen. I've grown a thicker skin because I'm not hiding from the pain anymore. I certainly hope that you changed the channel as soon as you discovered what the gist of the program was. If you didn't, I certainly hoped that you learned. Next time, don't subject yourself to that. My BU was years ago, but there are still triggers out there. Hell, sometimes new ones develop. I avoid them.
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 I certainly hope that you changed the channel as soon as you discovered what the gist of the program was. If you didn't, I certainly hoped that you learned. Next time, don't subject yourself to that. My BU was years ago, but there are still triggers out there. Hell, sometimes new ones develop. I avoid them. I understand that but I can't keep avoiding everything otherwise ill be changing channels forever !!
Renard99 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 (edited) I understand that but I can't keep avoiding everything otherwise ill be changing channels forever !! You'll hopefully get like Supergeek and me where you're subjected to them enough that you grow that thicker skin. For me it wasn't so much things that remind me of her, more seeing her directly. We work in the same part of the city, only a couple of buildings apart, so it's really easy to bump into each other whilst leaving the office. At first it really messed with my head. I'd get a rush of adrenaline and then feel physically sick every time I saw her. This was followed by my brain running at a million miles an hour for ages after. Now though, it's happened so often and it's been 2 years since the break up that I've grown a thicker skin. I've become indifferent to the whole thing. The triggers will continue to hurt, but with a little bit of luck and time, hopefully you'll get a little more desensitised as your emotions get under control Edited January 22, 2013 by Renard99 Spelling 1
Author Gingerxr2 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 You'll hopefully get like Supergeek and me where you're subjected to them enough that you grow that thicker skin. For me it wasn't so much things that remind me of her, more seeing her directly. We work in the same part of the city, only a couple of buildings apart, so it's really easy to bump into each other whilst leaving the office. At first it really messed with my head. I'd get a rush of adrenaline and then feel physically sick every time I saw her. This was followed by my brain running at a million miles an hour for ages after. Now though, it's happened so often and it's been 2 years since the break up that I've grown a thicker skin. I've become indifferent to the whole thing. The triggers will continue to hurt, but with a little bit of luck and time, hopefully you'll get a little more desensitised as your emotions get under control That must be really hard , I drive 8 miles extra every day so I don't see her , I also changed my name on Facebook so she wont find me , it's the little things that gets me, to be honest but Im hoping after tomorrow , her birthday I can as her parents said when they kicked me out , draw a line under it and move on !!
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