sonny Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 I know that my gf has been with her group of friends for like 15 years, and they are all very comfortable around each other. and i have brought this up before, and believe that her actions would not be the same if she wasn't with this very close group of friends. that being said, something happened this weekend that i'm not sure how to take. right now i think i should have just said what the f***? but i let it go at the time trying to just be comfortable... one of my guy friends put his hand just below her knee, she kept saying higher higher in a playful way. i do think it was just having fun, but i don't know, i've had my doubts about her feelings towards this guy. i don't know if she is just trying to make me jealous or what... i don't know what to do. part of me says get out... the other says try to understand her.
honey2005 Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 Talk to her about it. How far did she let him go?
Author sonny Posted August 24, 2004 Author Posted August 24, 2004 not sure how far she would let him go. he knew that i would be wierded out...
honey2005 Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 I think you should talk to her about it. She may have just been joking and not realized that it would make you angry. At least give her a chance to explain herself before you move on...
trager Posted August 27, 2004 Posted August 27, 2004 hmm, well she sounds a bit like me. My bf has the same problem. I do see it. Is she a natural flirt? does she always flirt for fun? i mean, its like a pass time for me, and most of my friends are male. However i do have my own lines of boundries. Has she ever liked this guy i mean c'mon, even with my best guy friends there is a difrence between just cuddlin for a friend and fondling. When i am confronted by jay, my bf, i tell him everything that happend. Does she? if not then either i think she likes um or she is hiding something. I liked a guy named randy, the fact that i liked him set him apart, i put a boundry of contact with him because i agreed it wasnt fair to jay for me to mess like that with someone i felt for. When i was taken. If she dosent realize what she is doing to u, and when u set ur boundryis she dosent even respect them, show her your serious, get up and ready to leave. Dont let love weaken u, or u will have a companion forever flirting like this. Leave if it dosent get better in awile, trust me, if i had decided to stay on the path i was on, and randy had liked me, i could easily have droped jay, but i love him, therefore i stoped. Use commom sence not emotions and for her sake... give her the benifit of the doubt, sometimes where just afraid to confront u with our own weekneses.
emra Posted August 29, 2004 Posted August 29, 2004 I agree with the last reply. I am a very flirtatious person. I love attention. It is all about boundries. My BF does not like that all my friends are guys, so I put a limit to some of it just because, that is his insecurity and I respect him. Maybe she wanted to see what you reaction would be. Maybe she wants to see if you are jealous. Maybe, she is a flirt, whatever it is, if it bothered you, do not let it keep building up inside of you. Talk to her, see what she has to say, and then you can tell her, how it makes you feel, insecure or whatever. Just be honest and be nice about it.
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